4. Comments/Stares.
Depending on the area, sometimes you will get a lot of unwanted stares, and when you are alone comments like, “Isn’t he/she too hot for you?” or “Wait, you two are dating?” I know that these aren’t very welcoming, but don’t fret.
Pay no attention to these people and only to the special person that you are with.
5. Family.
Unfortunately, this is still a thing. Whether it’s your parents, his/her parents, or that crazy drunk uncle at Christmas, our family can say insensitive comments about our significant other due to his or her race.
Still, be honest with who you are dating. If they choose not to accept your relationship, remember this; it is their choice not yours. You have the right to love who you love.
6. The Minority Checklist.
Okay, so this has only happened to me once. Essentially, a person asks you out on a date in hopes of adding your minority to his/her sex checklist.
Just like love knows no color, the same is true for assholes. Avoid this person at all costs.
7. Ourselves.
That’s right. We are our own worst enemies. The most difficult obstacle is letting go of the societal pressure of who we are suppose to date.
We grow up being told whom and what to be attracted to and are questioned with suspicion when we stray from the norm.
The thing is, attraction isn’t just black and white. There is beauty in every race, culture, and ethnicity. Is it hard to confess our feelings for someone of another race to our biased families? Yes. Is it scary? Of course. Is it worth it? Always.
However, we still live in a society in which race can consciously or subconsciously dictate the decisions in our love lives.
We all have our biases, but if you refuse to be open and treat others as individuals, I promise that you will miss out on meeting a lot of amazing and diverse people.
