5. A real fight…
Fighting doesn’t feel good. In a fight, we often show our ugly side and say things we don’t even mean. Many people try to avoid arguments altogether, thinking it’s better to avoid conflict.
Bottling things up, though, is the biggest mistake of all. If you fight with a purpose you end up resolving misunderstandings. You can help each other improve as people.
And it means you two don’t tiptoe around issues or walk on eggshells with each other: the lines of communication are totally open.
Plus, there’s nothing like that “aha” moment when you realize you have the power to make your partner happier by making some slight changes.
6. Some unavoidable time apart…
So one of you has to visit family far away, go on a work trip, study abroad, whatever. It’s difficult to test the waters of how things will be when you’re apart from one another. How will you keep in touch every day? Do you trust each other?
But when you’re away from each other and you’re still staying in touch like normal, you realize there’s nothing to worry about. Missing each other just makes you realize just how much you like being together.
7. Your trip together – without the kids…
Although travel is supposed to be a blast, it can also be hectic, frustrating, and totally draining. Unexpected delays, forgotten phone chargers, passport problems, the list goes on…
When you’re on an escape together, it’s harder to take out a moment to yourself to just chill. You’re stuck with each other.
But if you’re still relaxing happily with each other, it shows you don’t sweat the small stuff. You’re resilient to minor setbacks, and you resolve stuff together. Who cares if you didn’t get to stay in the hotel you wanted, or the restaurant didn’t know how to hold your reservation.
At the end of the day, what really matters is not where you are but who you’re with. Even when you run into bad luck, you still feel pretty lucky to be together.