There are two types of people in the world: those who only listen to music…and those who create it, those who can hear a song from the inside out.
It doesn’t matter whether they play professionally or for relaxation: if you play an instrument, you live for it like no other thing on the planet.
When you date a musician, you instantly know you’ve discovered something rare. You can feel something different in the atmosphere the first time you hear them play.
1. Musicians have a unique relationship with themselves and their emotional energy. The musician will sit alone in bed with their guitar in their arms and never get lonely the way other people do.
As Beckett says, “When you’re up to your neck in shit, the only thing left to do is sing.”
Even if the person who plays an instrument is feeling down, they don’t stop: they keep their hands, bodies, and minds moving by continuing to play.
2. They are also wicked smart.
You can observe how quick thinking and intelligent they are when they play a song. From how they talk about a song, you know their minds can hear a song from the inside out.
Scientific studies have also proven that those who play music have better executive brain function and a higher IQ than those who don’t.
3. They need practice like other people need water.
When they practice, it soothes them. They are perpetually driven to play, to explore and push themselves forward.
Sometimes the noise is inconvenient, but it’s no matter. At some point, they will be practicing loud late in the night or early in the morning. It can be a struggle to date a musician if you’re sensitive to noise and you need to sleep when they need to play.
4. Their playing an instrument may not always be convenient, but the beauty of it is undeniable.
Practice can cause trouble in quiet places. And it’s a challenge every time they travel somewhere and have to lug heavy equipment around.
But you’ll be transported every time they play a song and light up a room with it, whether it’s for a group or just for you.
Every time they play a song, there’s nothing like hearing music that isn’t a recording. There’s nothing like feeling vibrations in the air that are created right in front of you.
5. They are dedicated and hardworking, not just “born with it.”
It didn’t happen overnight. Everyone tells them, oh you were born with talent but no one has any idea how much work they did along the way.
It took years of solitary practice, countless lessons, and unshakable determination for them to be able to play the way they can today.
6. People who play instruments know how to stay strong while also being in touch with their emotions.
They possess the passion of young hearts and the depth of old souls.
They carry within them the expression of the whole range of human emotions, and this fuels them with the energy to play with genuine feeling.
5. When you’re dating someone who plays an instrument, know that there’s a story behind their journey to playing what they play.
They chose it because it meant something to them, and it can tell you something unique about their personality.
Their instrument is not just a material object to them but an extension of their whole body and self.
8. A life without music is unimaginable to those who play an instrument.
If you’re dating someone who plays an instrument, there is no need to feel threatened by their intense focus on music. Music is just, quite simply, what makes them feel the most alive.
It is the spark in their step and all that they look forward to at the end of the day. At any given moment, you can bet there’s a melody floating through their head, a desire to play at their fingertips, a drive to learn a new song.
Music is the ultimate refuge they will always return to, and no other thing can come close.
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