6. He plays by her rules.
She can call or pop up with the baby anytime. She decides when he gets visits, what the child can and cannot have or do while visiting and what the child eats. In fact, she decides everything, and he follows her instructions to the letter. Every relationship requires compromise, even relationships between exes who share children. If his BM is playing boss lady, there’s a lack of healthy balance. Your man is supposed to be a man. On top of that, he’s supposed to be a father. And he’s not doing a good job of being either one if another woman dictates his actions.
7. He needs privacy to talk to her.
How often do children have matters that require strict confidentiality? Not often. If your man constantly has private conversations with his baby mama, they’re talking about more than raising a child.
8. She relies on him.
Her sink is leaking. Her car’s acting up. She gets child support but still calls when she’s running short on cash. Every time she’s in a bind, she calls her baby daddy and he runs to the rescue. He blows off your concern, telling you he has a child with her. As if you don’t know that already. If your man is playing Captain-Save’em with his baby mama he going above and beyond his call of duty and you should be concerned about his motives.
