1. If you truly aren’t happy or satisfied in a relationship, why not just end it and save the heartache of your partner?
One lie can un-do so many good aspects of the time shared together – if you lied and cheated, then what else over the course of the relationship did you lie about? Better to cut to the chase, tell the truth and leave the past memories intact and precious to the now ex in your life.
I have experienced this more than a few times in my past, and given the choice, I’d much rather hear the truth than find out later on about the lies and indiscretions.
2. Why enter into a committed relationship in the first place if you know deep down inside that you cannot be faithful?
Be upfront about your past, such as if you have issues with being faithful; let your partner know if you have any misgivings or hold-outs on relationships in general, going as far as your capacity to commit.
In my past, I had an ex that was open with me like this, and I decided at the time to take the chance. Do I regret that decision? No, but I did learn a lot from the experience.
Honesty really is the best policy – give the person you are considering a relationship with that choice if they want to take the chance on you and risk possible heartbreak.