3. While I’m on the topic of choices, to me personally, the worst part of being cheated on (aside from the outright lies) – is that you took my choice away.
If you feel the need to sow those wild oats, then once again, you need to communicate that feeling to your partner.
Perhaps you’d be happier with an open relationship, where you are still with your partner but can go out and have other minor relationships or flings. Give your partner that choice of whether they’d be willing to open the relationship up to exploration or to end it because you want to see other people and/or do not feel that you can remain faithful to them.
Having that choice taken away is a killer. With my most recent break-up due to infidelity, this is what inflamed me more than the actual act of cheating.
Think of it this way: when you bring up this concept of a possible open relationship with your partner, they will either say, “OK, let’s try this, but understand that I will also be exploring other relationships as well.”? or, “I think it would be best if we broke up, because I cannot handle the thought of sharing you with another.”?