We all wonder in relationships if we are ever going to find our fairy tale ending. But what if there is a child involved? And even more still, what if it is a ex lover that is still in the picture?
Co parenting in a lesbian relationship is the same as co parenting in a straight relationship. And there will always be complications when dealing with a former lover. Here are things you will need to both accept and consider if you are to move forward in this type of relationship. One that has complicated layers.
Accept her relationship with an ex who’s a co parent.
And it is very hard to accept that of our new partners. Knowing that they used to be in love with past lovers and now to be friends with them. And these children may be in the picture due to adoption, and/or child-rearing or perhaps additional stepchildren are involved. Your new lover may need to talk to a former love frequently about the child.
Either way, your role is to support her, not to intervene between their parenting.
Because nobody wants a new lover to barge in and act as another mother figure.
Is this an ideal relationship to be in for you?
Well, that depends on you and the many circumstances. Is your partner and her ex strictly co parenting? Are they friends? And do they still love each other? Are you okay with knowing that they will speak and see each other often? Because only you can decide how you want your short term and long term relationships to be. And if you are okay with it, then go ahead.
While relationships like these have many hurdles, there is also a potential for a rewarding relationship if you can stay the course and be mature about the circumstances.