Ever been invited in for “coffee” after a date and declined because you were worried the caffeine would keep you awake? Or refused help on your homework from the hot blonde in history because Wikipedia has totally got your back? We guys are not strong on subtleties and even the most obvious flirting can go straight over our heads.
Hindsight is not only 20/20, but also more than a little humiliating. Stop bitching about the chances you’ve missed and learn for next time. Follow these social cues and you’ll be finishing the night doing the midnight organ fight rather than taking another self pleasure trip in a tube sock.
Body language:
This may seem obvious gents, but you’d be surprised how little we pick up on it. If she is touching her hair, playing with her straw, maintaining eye contact or leaning into you, stop ranting about the pros and cons of the new Star Wars franchise and start paying attention. She digs you; she wants you, start reciprocating those vibes.
Booty calls:
This is the 21st century where the booty calling playing field is level and we’re all free to do a little textual reach out when going home alone. She doesn’t actually care what you’ve been up to when she sends a message at 2am – no offense, but your evenings aren’t that interesting. All she’s doing is looking to get lucky, so dive in and everyone gets a happy ending.
Touching:
This should go in the body language section but this particular cue deserves a category of its own. If she finds a reason to make bodily contact in any social situation you know you’re onto a winner. This could be touching your arm while speaking to you, getting an eyelash off your face or hitting you for no particular reason, these are all indications that she wants to take touching to a Catholic priest level.
Laughing:
That story about your workout routine having to change this week isn’t funny or interesting and yet she seems to be giggling every time you stop for breath. It’s not because you’re an expert storyteller – you could be Tarintino and it’d still be a snooze-fest. She wants to throw out positive and interested vibes and so she’ll put up with your eye wateringly dull stories, and even ask pertinent questions in order to push you closer to making a move. Spare her the torture and get on with it.
Invites:
If she’s really interested in checking out that Mongolian folk music night you’ve been talking about, or she’s been constantly throwing out her plans for the weekend, chances are she wants to go watch, listen, and experience whatever it is with you. If a girl is keen she’ll find any excuse to hang out. So if she’s making suggestions and dropping hints regarding plans, she’s basically fixing social bait to her line and trying to catch a “you” shaped fish. Take the bait dude, what’s the worst that could happen?
