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Common Myths About Cheating

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Whether we like it or not, we live in a society of constant infidelity. The statistic vary, but one report states that up to 40% of married men and 25% of married women in the US will have an affair during their lifetime. Here are more statistics. 

There are some common misconceptions about cheating as well as some unknown facts.

Here are 8 myths and truths about cheating:

Myth:

People in “happy” relationships don’t cheat.

Truth:

Infidelity is not always due to a someone falling out of love with their partner. Studies show that most men cheat simply because they desire sex with someone else, even if they are still in love with their current partner.

“I found that, though 78 percent of the men I interviewed had cheated on their current partner, only a handful said they cheated because they were near the end of their emotional relationships.” Studies also show that women are more likely to cheat for emotional reasons rather than sexual needs.


Myth:

Infidelity is the leading cause of divorce.

Fact:

Research shows that cheating is not the leading cause of divorce. Relationship expert and pastor Robert A. Thompson believes that the number one cause of divorce is actually “lack of intentional investment in their marriage.” Go figure!


Myth:

Infidelity is planned.

Truth:

Many are surprised at their own behavior after cheating. It is often an urge that is driven by circumstance and emotions.


Myth:

Sexual infidelity is more hurtful that emotional infidelity.

Truth:

Emotional infidelity is said to inflict as much, if not more, hurt and suffering. Sexual infidelity can be forgiven, but emotional infidelity typically leaves a deeper scar. Even worse is that emotional and physical betrayal typically both come as a combo platter.


Myth:

Being monogamous is natures way.

Truth:

Research on biology and reproduction indicates that long-term monogamy is incredibly difficult for humans to achieve (not impossible–of course–just difficult). Some scientists even go as far as to say that it is “unnatural” when comparing it to the laws of nature and studying most species on Earth including our ancient human civilizations.


Myth:

Only some fantasize about cheating.

Truth:

Almost everyone (in the right setting) admits to having some sort of fantasies with someone other than their spouse.


Myth:

Everyone generally agrees on the definition of cheating.

Truth:

Some believe that physical contact with another is cheating. Yet others say that even an insinuating message on facebook can be deemed as cheating. Then there’s pornography, kinky text messages, cybersex and an extra long hug – we all have different view of what the word “cheating” means.


Myth:

Great sex will prevent your partner from cheating.

Truth:

A great sex-life with your partner can be important, but it certainly doesn’t stop cheating. Sadly, many buy into this lie and end up blaming themselves for their partners infidelity.


It’s important to talk about infidelity with your partner and discuss what you define it as. Lay down some good guidelines and be straight up and honest about what you are willing to put up with and what you expect out of the relationship. You’d be amazed at how drastic one’s expectations are from another. So get clear so there’s no confusion or gray area.

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