When you find yourself in an abusive relationship, how many times do you ask yourself? When is enough, enough, before you change something about it?
Being in an abusive relationship could happen to any woman, it doesn’t matter what age group, or race, or the environment. However, if we see the signs early, we can quit it before it gets worse.
If you experience any of these frequently, design yourself a plan of action and leave, before it gets worse. Because quite frankly, things will not get better.
1. If your partner has a bad temper, because he had a bad day, or is stressed. And lets it out on you.
2. If your partner drinks a lot, or occasionally drinks, but gets aggressive; it’s a ticking time bomb.
3. If your partner raised his hand against you once, he’ll do it again, And if he does it to you, what makes you think, he wouldn’t hurt your children (if any) or your pets?
4. If your partner mentally abuses you, like calling you names and putting you down.
5. If your partner tells you what to wear and what not to wear.
6. If your partner picks fights with you, just to be in control and to show you who wears the pants in the house.
7. Forces you to have sex with him, and doesn’t take “No” for an answer.
8. Destroys your belongings. Cell phones, laptops, clothes, and passport for instance.
9. Is rude to your friends and parents, and wishes, you wouldn’t go out or talk to them about your relationship.
10. Denies that anything ever happened, but promises not to ever do it again.
If some of that sounds familiar, pack your bags and seek your friends and family, before it’s too late.
If kids are involved, get a restraining order, a lawyer and file for sole custody and divorce. Because it’s not just your life that matters, but it’s also that of your children.
If you are not married and don’t have any kids, file a restraining order as soon as possible.
If you don’t have any place to go, you can call the domestic violence hotline for further assistance in regards for shelter and legal help.
If you are in immediate danger, call 9-1-1 right away.
It took me four years to finally break free from a dangerously abusive relationship, but I had such a breakthrough, it changed my life forever. However, I wish I had the courage and knowledge that I have now, back then. I would have left, after the first physical fight.
Nobody says it’s easy, but you have to tell yourself, breaking free is the only way for things to change. You deserve to be happy and treated with respect. Don’t jeopardize it. If you have questions, you can send me a message on Facebook.
