When it comes to dating, no one wants to be “that crazy girl.” You know, the one who double texts, says the sappiest things, and clings way too hard.
But since when is it wrong to have actual feelings? When did showing we care start being taboo?Phrases like “catching feelings” don’t really help. They make falling for someone sound horrible, like we shouldn’t do it. And when we do, we’ve screwed up. We all still watch the happy rom-coms because we want those relationships though. We all want to be a part of that sappy story, the “I can’t live without you” story.
But in reality, we’re so scared to show anyone we care about them even when we do.
That literally doesn’t make any sense. This merry-go-round we’ve started where we “catch feelings” and then don’t do anything about them is toxic. Sure telling someone how you feel when you’re scared shitless is one of the hardest things to do in the world. But you can’t keep that in for very long because it’ll just eat away at you.
And it sucks to be rejected, but we can’t really be afraid of it if we don’t even open our mouths.
It’s not a horrible thing to care. Worrying about saying “the L word” too early, wanting to be exclusive, not telling the person we’re dating when we’re pissed at them and why, and even texting too soon just shouldn’t happen, we’re driving ourselves crazy with all of this thinking
And they all seem like “crazy’ things to do in the moment, but they’re actually pretty normal.
We’ve just been avoiding them because we think too much about how they might make us look to the point where we’ve all become a bit psycho.
If we wouldn’t all be so afraid to open up a little and let our feelings out, maybe dating wouldn’t be so frickin’ hard. Maybe we would have an easier time getting close to the person we care about. Or maybe, just maybe, we might really fall in love, and not just with the idea of it.
You can’t get hurt if you don’t react on the outside. But you can seriously mess with your head if you don’t. And we should be sharing what we’re thinking and feeling because we’re humans, not robots.
Relationships are built on trust and vulnerability, not just sex and sappy romance. They take work, and the work begins when we start opening up.
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