Nurture The Long Distance

Long distance relationship? A Chinese saying goes – Real gold doesn’t fear the test of fire. And if you wish to live together with someone you’re in love with, learning to stay in love even when you’re not physically together is going to be the test of fire you’ll need to ace.

However, there’s just too much misgiving about long distance relationships. For starters, it’s not only lovers that have to stay apart sometimes, you’d have dozens of long distance relationships – with your father, your siblings, your friend from childhood, your mentor, anybody. Of course, being physically far from a person you’re romantically attached with is more difficult, but doable nonetheless. Women tend to feel more frustration and dissatisfaction in long term relationships, though thankfully, women also can make a long distance relationship work like a charm. In this guide, I’ll share some tips I’ve seen working for me and many people I know.

Plan A Deferred Vacation

Ever so often comes a phase in every long distance relationship where the thought of not knowing when you two will meet next starts eating away at your peace of mind. To avoid this, talk to your loved one and initiate conversations on how you can plan a meeting without blowing your personal budgets off.

Living in different countries makes this difficult; sometimes it’s a good idea to find time for a vacation a couple of months down the line, so that you have something to look forward to, and have sufficient time to start saving for the trip.

Nurture Common Social Connections

It’s reassuring to have common friends talk about your partner with you, and vice versa. So, you might want to just leave a warm conversation with your boyfriend’s pals every now and then, so that they would mention it to him, and make him feel great, and more importantly, feel connected to you even apart from the one-to-one relationship you have.

This works both ways; by nurturing social connections that are common to your individual ecosystems, you can make your relationship more enjoyable, valuable, and stable.