You thought they’d never go away. You thought things would be different this time because everything with him felt special.
But that feeling eventually flutters away. Because they’re supposed to go away—even in the best relationships.
In the end, there’s nothing to fear because when you lose the butterflies, you gain so much more. You’ll always miss the butterflies, and miss the days when you were just getting to know each other.
But what comes after they leave is much more important and much more valuable: comfort and trust.
Butterflies don’t equal love. They equal thrill—and even fear.
If the butterflies stay—if the honeymoon phase lasts forever—then is what you have really real? Probably not.
If you’re continuously high on love, you’re kidding yourselves. You’re ignoring what’s important. And the relationship will crumble if you never prepare yourselves for the unexpected.
When the butterflies are gone, you’ve reached peak comfort. You can say anything to each other, no judgment. You trust each other. You can wear anything—or nothing—whether the lights are on or off.
It might not feel right. But the butterflies have to go. It's what your relationship needs to work—and last.
But just because the butterflies are gone, doesn’t mean they’re gone forever.
The butterflies will temporarily come back when you don’t see each other for days, weeks, months. The butterflies will come back when you’ve had a bad day or a bad week and he’s the only person you want to see—because he’s the one person who makes you feel like everything is going to be ok, even if he doesn’t say a word.
Now you have a partner in life. Someone who loves you. Someone you love back. Someone who makes you less scared of this crazy thing called life. And that is much better than a crush will ever, ever be.
