We all know that when we start dating a new guy, we want their friends and family to love us. We try our best to present ourselves in a good light—winning them over the same way we won over our man. But, as we also know, we’re not going to be everyone’s “cup of tea.” In fact, there’s a solid chance that a friend, or a family member, may not love you immediately. So, how do you deal?
I was in a relationship with someone that I was absolutely head over heels for. It was my very first love. I was in my early 20s and I felt as though we could definitely have a future. We were together all throughout college, we celebrated huge milestones together, and we talked about eventually getting married and starting a family. My friends loved him, and his friends loved me. But, there was one major problem in our relationship—his mom didn’t.
Being in love with someone, whose own mother isn’t your biggest fan—it’s hard. We were both still young and living at home, so it made spending time together at his house rather awkward. If we were constantly at my house, his mother would complain. If I was there too often, she would complain about that, too. She didn’t think that I was “good enough for him,” because I worked two jobs and didn’t have parents who came from a “put together” home. My parents were divorced and my mother struggled with money, so I spent a lot of time picking up extra bills and helping out. This, of course, I felt was unnecessary to explain to his mother—who hardly had time to sit down and get to know me, anyway.