The Aftermath of Being Ghosted

So picture this: you meet someone, and you think they are seriously the knees bees. You’re hella happy and you start to open up more, make more plans, gain more confidence in the possible prospect of being a real couple, in a real relationship. You finally start allowing yourself to be excited about all the possibilities of a future together, you start to let your guard down because the vibes are like, so good between the two of you that you think to yourself, “This is too good to be true.”

And then BAM! “Mr. Knees Bees” suddenly goes radio silent. Like you just got a, “good night baby (insert kissy face here)” the night before, and suddenly, you haven’t heard from him in a week. You try texting, calling, (but not too much because if you blow him up, you’ll look like a whole ass clingy, annoying, crazy bitch) but nothing. NOTHING. Not a single peep from him, but he’s active on social media, and you know there isn’t any excuse or reason of why he can’t pick up the phone (which is in his fucking hands like 24/7) and say something. Anything. Even a ‘fuck off’ would safice.

And you don’t even know what the hell happened.

So then you realize that, yes, indeed, you were right. You shoulda listened to your intuition, and ran like hell when you thought to yourself that it was too good to be true. Because every word he uttered to you, every plan he made, every promise he swore to you, was a lie. Because it turns out, he’s just another fuck boy in disguise.

 You saw the red flags, (which you ignored of course) hell, those red flags looked like Six Flags, and you’re a season pass holder apparently, because now all those months of bliss with someone you started to genuinely care for, just up and disappeared. No warning. No explanation. Not a damn word. Now you’re paranoid because you were left totally in the dark, leaving you uncertain and insecure about EVERYTHING. And at the end of the day, you feel unwanted and worthless

It really will fuck with your mind when the person you were “talking to” just suddenly cuts all contact without any explanation. And all you want to know to know is, why?? What happened to make them suddenly change their minds about you? Or what made them not interested anymore?

Questions that won’t stop racing through your mind, keeping you up at night. “What went wrong?” You start blaming yourself and over thinking, “Why did I say? Was I too clingy? Too eager? Did I do something to scare him away?” You start over analyzing and replaying every conversation, every text, every moment you spent together, racking your brain for anything that could have made him cut you off out of the blue. It hurts that he couldn’t even be bothered to communicate he wasn’t happy or what went wrong. It hurts knowing he thought so little of you, and that everything between the two of you was a lie.

He got his message across without saying anything, and now you’re trying to comprehend and process the fact that the sweet guy who you thought was the “knees bees” actually turned out to

 be a shitty human. He bolted and you thought he actually gave a fuck. But, he clearly didn’t because he choose to take the cowardly way out when he ghosted you.

It weighs on your mind that he just suddenly went 100 to 0, and wasn’t into you anymore, and him ignoring you is hint enough that he is no longer interested, and you realize you have to accept his silence for what it is, him taking the easy, quick way out, because he wanted to avoid conflict and drama. That he didn’t even respect you enough to just be up front and honest.

Which just shows what kind of guy he really is. That he is a spineless, weak individual that didn’t have the balls to just tell the truth. I mean yeah, of course it would have hurt, alot, but at least you’d still respect him for being honest. And eventually you would get over it. But him going full Casper mode and leaving you to pick up the pieces? Fuck that shit, he aint shit.

And what sucks the most is, even if he did reach out and try to justify and explain his reasons, with excuses and lies, how could you even believe him, after he just dropped you like you meant nothing to him.

You didn’t even get any type of closure. Which makes the process of getting over him, the hurt, the unknowing, even harder than you imagined. Knowing he would do that to someone he claimed he cared for, shows that he’s a narcissistic, cold hearted, douche canoe who has no empathy or guilt.

 But your closure is him ghosting. You now know what kind of person he is, which is a baby back bitch who cannot own up to his actions, and instead, runs away like a scared little kid. You don’t need that negative bullshit in your life anyways. You gotta brush it off your shoulders, and remember, once a fuck boy, always a fuckboy!