This person is going to be stubborn and hard on you.
The right person will be hard on you because they want you to mature – to grow from the role of the “victim” and take on the lead as the “warrior.” People are going to tell you they’re wrong for you because they aren’t compassionate enough with you.
You don’t always want someone who is going to kiss your wounds when you fall or pat your back when you fail. You want someone who is going to be the hand that pushes you forward, onto the bigger and better things in life. Sure, it may suck that you didn’t ace a test or kill your interview – but there will always be others. There will always be more.
This person is going to argue with you all of the time.
The right person is going to argue with you because they want to hear your opinion – they want to know why you feel the way you feel and exactly what it means. People are going to tell you they’re wrong for you because fighting is unhealthy in relationships. Without communication, relationships lack depth and spark.
Arguments, while tedious and sometimes troublesome, allow partners to communicate openly and barrier-free. You are honest with each other, you never hold back feelings. You never grow to resent each other because you’re always on the same page with exactly how you feel when you feel it.