Good sex is about exploring one another’s bodies, and the 69er position is a great way to communicate your likes and dislikes to a partner.
It’s not the tool of choice for every couple, as it can be difficult to focus on receiving oral pleasure while you’re giving it in the opposite direction at the same time. However, perhaps you and your partner can come to an agreement. Perhaps you can retain the 69er position and one of you attends to the genitals not receiving any pleasure, while the other partner lies back and receives. Continue to swap every minute or two. This is a good way to bring each other closer to orgasm, whilst also intensifying the desire for one another.
There’s no need to be shy with the 69er position, as one of you is going to have to sit on a partner’s face. Some couples find it easier trying the 69er position on the side, as it’s directly faces the genitals, and there’s less reach required from the neck.
The 69er and Rimming
Another exciting method that you can both explore with the 69er position is rimming. This is best trialed after a bath or shower when the anus is clean. Using the mouth and fingers, stimulate the anus with the tongue. You don’t need to push your tongue inside the anus—if this idea grosses you out—but you can lick in the area between the anus and vagina/testicles—the perineum, as this is also highly sensitive to touch in both men and women. Condoms can be used to prevent infection, although if you’re trying this during or after a bath or shower, there is no need to be concerned.
Get Into Position
One of you must sit on a partner’s face facing the opposite site, their genitals inches from your mouth and fingers, while the other partner lies back with the genitals of their partner directly above them, receiving the pleasure from their partner down below. If you enjoy receiving a rimming of the ass, you might want to sit on a partner’s face, but to give the same in return requires a little flexibility and coordination. Swap positions to see if you feel as much intensity.
If you love oral sex, but your partner has facial hair, get on top during the 69er. Your partner must use a little effort to reach your clit with his tongue, and his hair will far less likely chafe against your clit. He’ll also be able to penetrate your vagina with his fingers and transfer those juices to your clit for an intense orgasmic build up.
One of the biggest turn ons of oral sex is that you can see and feel your partner’s enthusiasm during the show, unless you’ve been blindfolded beforehand. However, receiving oral sex in the 69er relies on you completing trusting your partner. You can’t see any of their moves, and, for many couples, this increases the pleasure. Your partner can take advantage of this increased arousal and bring you closer to orgasm whilst also backing off in a teasing motion, but you can also perform the same.
Synchronized Orgasms During the 69er
The key to achieving synchronized orgasms during the 69er is connecting with your partner. Study their body language during the 69er. How do they move their body? Do they hold their breath as you perform certain moves? Do their licks/sucks increase in vigorousness after you’ve performed a move? Perhaps you notice that the pleasure they’re giving has slowed down, which can be a good sign that you are bringing them closer to orgasm. If you feel that they’ve getting closer to climax, stop what you’re doing and refocus your attention on receiving the pleasure. Wait until you feel like you’re getting closer, and then give the exact same pleasure again. Once you’ve reached a certain stage in your arousal, it’s only a matter of time before you both experience the overwhelming ripples of pleasure. The more you experiment with the 69er position the easier it will be to experience orgasms together.
