Congratulations, MC 21! You made a great choice to join a sorority and wherever you landed, your sisters will become a huge part of your college experience and friends for life! But arriving on campus (maybe for the first time,) starting a new semester of classes (maybe for the first time,) and being surrounded by a crowd of new potential forever friends can feel like a LOT. Don’t worry if it feels a bit overwhelming right now and you don’t feel as happy inside as TikTok tells you to be, we’ve all been there. Your new sisters can be a terrific support system.
Get to Know Your Class
No one knows how you’re feeling like the rest of your New Member class (aka “pledge class” or whatever it’s called at your campus!) Chances are, all of you are new to campus, all of you need to learn your way around (literally and figuratively!) and some of you have never shared a room before. The upside of these challenges is that research shows that sharing new experiences contributes to building lasting relationships. So buddy up with a new sister or two to find the fastest route to the dining hall (or your local Target,) learn how to do laundry, and figure out which sisters share your majors so you have study buddies.
Get to Know Your Fam
Your big is the best. She probably spoke for you during new member selection and is invested in your sorority experience. She will show you the ropes, answer any embarrassing newbie questions, and likely shower you with treats and prezzies. Your grandbig, too! Different chapters have different big/little traditions, and it’s really nice to give a gift to your big to thank her for ushering you through the new member education period. Even sweeter is to get something you can both wear to remind you of your connection. As the founder of mazi + zo, I’m partial to our minimalist licensed sorority jewelry ;), and there are lots of ways to say “thank you” on any budget.
Get to Know Your Chapter Advisors
Don’t underestimate the value of your Alumni Advisory Council. While this group is primarily focused on advising the chapter’s exec board, they’re also a resource you can tap. I’m on the AAC for a sorority chapter at Columbia University and I can tell you that my fellow council members and I appreciate when new members reach out for our more-experienced perspective (and find it flattering!) I’ve talked to new members and sisters about things like how to evaluate potential internships, running for chapter office, and navigating tricky interpersonal dynamics. One note here: your AAC members are busy accomplished women, so be respectful of their time and make sure to thank them!
About the Author
Lizzy Klein lives in NYC and is the founder of mazi + zo, a company that makes jewelry that ups your personal style with original high quality easy-to-wear, easy-to-layer designs. Find your favorite style for gifts and for you at Shop mazi + zo!