I am sure there are cases to be made by every family, as to why the amount of kids they have is the perfect amount. An only child, two children with huge age gaps, two children close in age, one set of twins, etc.
However, I’m here to make the case for why having two siblings(two sisters in my case) is the greatest blessing you’ll ever have.
When you have two siblings, you have two people to learn from. If you have one sibling, either you will do exactly what they do, or exactly the opposite of what they do. Growing up with two older sisters who were complete opposites in personality allowed me to watch them both go through trial and error in their own ways. I got to see them react in two different ways to the exact same situation and then see which reaction got the best results. Learning from two different people’s successes and failures can be much more constructive than seeing more than two or just one.
For example, my one sister always waited until the last minute to do everything. Whether it be homework, chores, or even just getting ready in the morning. She waited until the last minute and rushed to get everything done on time. On the other hand, my other sister did everything early. She would wake up close to two hours before she had to leave the house in order to ensure enough time to get ready, homework/studying was done days in advance, and chores she did the second she got home.
I watched my sisters both grow up with these two completely different habits, and I saw how their decisions played out.
My sister who waited and rushed would get grounded for not having chores done in time, would be late to all of her events cause she was finishing her hair, and as far as school went, she still got good grades but she was always stressed last-minute with assignments that piled up. My other sister was always early, she rarely got grounded, was always early to events, and got good grades as well but she also was also tired and never stayed out late due to her early wake-up time and had little if no time for a social life.
From watching them, I decided I would go right in the middle; I am early when it comes to doing things but not too early. I give myself just the right amount of time so I am not rushed but not too early either.
When you have two siblings, you are able to relate your personal interests and beliefs to two different people.
One sibling might be your go-to for advice and funny stories about relationships, and one sibling might be your go-to for music and stress. You do not have to throw all of your baggage on one person, and you do not have to force bonds that are not there. You can split yourself between two people who have to be nice to you. My one sister is who I go to as more of a friend; we hang out all the time and have mutual friends. She is the one who knows everything going on in my social life and is who I do all my venting about friends and boys too. My other sister is the more serious one; she is who I go to when I need advice on school, work, and anything with the family. She is also my at-home friend, we have movie and game nights weekly.
When you have two siblings, you have someone to go to when you are not getting along with the other one. If one sibling is being mean, as siblings do, you have another one to go to. You don’t have to put all of your eggs in one basket.
If one sibling does not want to hang out, you have a backup.
When you have two siblings, it is easy to divide your time between them. It is also easy to not get bored of just one. You don’t have to feel like you need to write down concrete plans to get time in with all of your siblings, but you also are able to change it up if you’ve been around one too much. I know with my sisters, it’s not hard to make time for both but I also know there is one I spend more time with usually cause the other one is driving me nuts but also because we are closer in age so we just tend to get along a little better.
When you have two siblings, you get a chance to know and love people who are different from you in so many ways but also just like you in so many others.
You are able to empathize and understand the different ways people deal with stress, fear, joy, and anxiety because you’ve had a lifetime of watching two other people deal with everything in their own way. I have seen two different reactions to breakups, friendships, family divorces, school, and work that I have been able to adjust how I interact with all of the things that come my way. My older sister is described as the serious one, my middle sister is the laid-back one, and I am described as both. I know when to be serious and at other times, I know how to be laid back. This is from years of watching them both and smashing together two different personality traits into one.
When you have two siblings, you start to see them in you. You see the good and the bad of each of them inside you. Having two amazing and frustrating, different, and similar siblings have molded you into the person you are today.
When you have two siblings, you have double the lessons, double the fights, and most importantly, double the love.
