“No, I don’t starve myself. I’m naturally skinny and probably eat more than you.” -Anonymous
Why are you allowed to say I’m too skinny when I’ll be publicly torn apart for saying you’re too fat? This has been a topic of discussion that I’ve been seeing everywhere lately.
The god-awful phrase “real woman” makes me grit my teeth with true anger. Apparently, only women who are a size 8 and above are real women.
I don’t know who died and made these standards but please, let me know. Now I know what people are thinking as they read this, that size 0-2 are the general beauty standards, which is slowly fading.
Yet when was it okay to pick apart a young girl or a woman saying that she needs to eat a cheeseburger? Since when has it become socially acceptable to bully one size but when it’s done in reverse to a size 16 everyone is in an uproar?
You are gorgeous. You are just as gorgeous as the girl in a size 4. Don’t let anyone shame you into believing anything else.
I bet you’re smart as a whip. And your personality is just as beautiful as the rest of you.
You don’t need anybody else’s approval to feel beautiful, you just need your own.
I hope when you look in the mirror you never shy away. And I hope when you look at any curves, rolls, or stretch marks you see them as part of your beauty. I hope when you see your reflection you see how strong you are. And I hope with every second of staring at your body, you build confidence instead of tearing yourself down.
I wish for you to try that dress on. So what if it hugs you a little bit, there’s someone who looks at you and wants to hold you tighter than that dress does.
I wish you’d wear those shorts that are just a bit too short. So your thighs rub together, rub some dry deodorant on them to keep the chub rub at bay. You’ll look amazing in them. You just have to rock them like you know how beautiful you are.
Wear that crop top if you love it. So what you’ve got a little tummy, you’re still hot.
Stop carefully and slowly eating your food in public. You know if you were home you’d be digging in. Don’t let passers-by judgement fear you into being someone your not. Everybody eats. Nothing to be ashamed of.
Stop trying all these fad diets. Yes, eat healthy when you want. Yes exercise. But put your happiness and sanity above all else. Obsessing over your weight won’t make it come off any faster. Just be patient your day will come.
Fans lashed out at Sarah Michelle Gellar after she posted a throwback lingerie picture as Thanksgiving thinspo.
On Monday, the Buffy the Vampire Slayer star shared professional scantily-clad photos which she captioned, “I’m just going to pin these up all over my house as a reminder not to overeat on Thursday #thanksgivingprep.” Gellar, in the three-photo series, does indeed look incredibly thin.
Though there is nothing wrong with posting sexy photos of yourself on social media, the message that we ought to be body-shaming ourselves for indulging during a food-centered holiday is not an ideal message to spread—especially when we consider how Gellar fits into society’s “ideal” physical type: blonde hair, blue eyes, super thin.
The photos remain on Gellar’s Instagram page despite the many fans and trolls who took to the comments section to voice their disappointment.
Dozens suggested that the language and message of Gellar’s post was triggering for people who had suffered with eating disorders.
“jennflleming” wrote:
it’s fine what she’s doing but look from the eyes of someone struggling with eating disorders who look at someone like her and then they do the same and then they won’t enjoy the holidays due to the fact that she put this false reality into their head. You shouldn’t support someone who would do this to young girls.
“adrianpaulchardona” wrote:
it’s a bit vain, for sure, but not offensive in itself. however, for those who struggle with weight problems, particularly girls and women with anorexia, it is a potentially dangerous post.
Some criticized Gellar for not being more mindful of the influence her post could have on young people.
“_souldiergirl_ ” wrote:
Not a great example for young girls. Hope my daughter never sees this post.
“mccluskymichelle” wrote:
You have a platform to promote healthy body image and lifestyle. Please be aware of how your posts can be interpreted and how they can influence young women who look up to you.
Your caption is problematic and I suggest you do some research on eating disorders, the mental health issues that go along with them, and how diet culture is harmful to women. Girls look up to you, and you should be mindful of the message you’re sending.???????
While others complained that the backlash was merely from people unable to take a joke.
“ritakims80” wrote:
I thought it was a funny thanksgiving post, and nothing more. Dont worry there are still people out there who know how to take a joke lol ???
“a1mezzo” wrote:
Dear Sarah, I understand completely about not wanting to overeat. I took your post to be a simple reminder. I admire you and wish you and your family a Happy Thanksgiving!
“szf1234512345” wrote:
If you wanna overeat, do it. If you want to watch what you eat, do it. I don’t understand what all these uber sensitive comments. I love when people post pictures of wanting to stay healthy (however they define that) are automatically called body shamers. Insane.
“megsterr91” wrote:
@sarahmgellar don’t apologize. I think it was clear what you meant. People just want to get worked up about ANYTHING.
Gellar wrote a followup statement, writing how fat shaming “could not be further from my intentions.”
“I love Thanksgiving and unfortunately my eyes are often bigger than my stomach, and I tend to eat so much I make myself sick,” she wrote. “This was a joking reminder to myself not to do that.”
“I’m terribly sorry that people were offended by my attempt at humor,” she wrote, as an apology for the misunderstanding. “Anyone that knows me, knows I would never intentionally “shame” any one on any basis. I am a champion of all people.”
