I knew you were cheating, yet I picked to ignore it…

Once a cheater always a cheater. That’s what they say right? But when it comes to your loved one cheating, you want to hope that they wont do it anymore. Not in my case..

That saying, “I’ve been through hell and back for you.” It changes when it is said for us. I like to look at it more like, “I’ve been through hell.. And you kept me there.”

I was head over heels for you. I would have done anything for you, in fact I did. I let you walk all over me day after day, night after night. Crying myself to sleep. Never saying a word. What was I scared of? Losing the guy who obviously don’t care enough about me? Can’t you see what you’re doing is slowly killing me? I’ve changed into someone I don’t even recognize anymore.

From the outside looking in, I must look like a complete and utter idiot. But you don’t even know the half of it. I feel that way too, I just never knew how to let go. You’re hurting me, but you’re in my life. That’s all I want, right? No.. Not anymore.

You have taken a huge part of my life and have stomped on my heart. As sad as it is, if you text me or call me there’s a huge change I’ll answer. I know it’ll take time and I know it won’t be easy.. But letting you go is the best thing I could do for myself. It’s time to get my life back.

Here’s to a new me.. A better me.

The 6 Do’s & Don’t’s of Getting Over Your Cheating Ex

1. DO stop blaming yourself.

Repeat after me: HIS. CHEATING. WAS. NOT. YOUR. FAULT. The number one mistake you can make when you find out you’ve been cheated on is to ask “What did I do to warrant this” or worse, “How could I have prevented it?” You didn’t cause this. Even if you fought a lot. Even if you gained weight. Even if you’ve been working late this month. Even if you—No. Just stop. If one or both of you are unhappy enough in your relationship to even CONSIDER cheating, then it’s time to have a conversation. And believe me, there’s always enough time to talk before falling into another woman’s vagina.

2. DON’T blame the other woman.

Ever felt guilty about eating an entire gallon of ice cream by yourself in one sitting, and then get mad at the ice cream? Bitch, please. Just like you could have put the spoon down at any time, your man could have pumped the brakes and not slept with this chick. Whether this woman knowingly or unknowingly bedded a taken man, you should never shift the blame off him and onto her, or anyone else for that matter. I’ve heard it all from “The slut was really coming onto him,” or “His friends encouraged it, he didn’t really want to,” to “He had a really bad month at work,” and “His parents had an unhappy marriage.” I don’t care if the Creator himself opens up the sky and writes “Cheat on your GF” in the clouds, your man still has something called ‘free will’ and made the stupid decision to cheat on you all on his own.

3. DO go out of your way to make yourself happy.

So many women forget that being single is an amazing opportunity to practice self-love, and being cheated on can really make you feel like you don’t deserve it. Remind yourself daily that you are a smart, beautiful, independent goddess who needs NO MAN to tell her how to be happy. Get out there and engage in some retail therapy. Book a spa day. Spend a wild girls’ night out with male hookers and booze. Whatever you need to do to achieve inner peace, TREAT YO’SELF. And don’t even for a second feel bad about backing out of plans, spending a little too much on that handbag, playing hooky form work to get a facial, or even seeing a therapist if it’s what you need to feel better.

4. DON’T give him the benefit of the doubt.

I know what you’re thinking. He was so nice, so sweet, so caring and kind. He even bought you flowers the day your dog died. But I’ve got news: There is no number of long-stemmed roses that can disguise the fact that he slept with someone else. “But it was only the one time,” you’re saying to yourself, “He said it would never happen again.” Stop. Think about how much it hurts right now. Do you really want to be back here in a month because one time turned into two? Three? Seventeen? Do yourself a huge favor, stop letting him off the hook, and hold him accountable to the consequences of messing around on you, the Queen.

5. DO put yourself out there and see other people.

How soon is too soon? Who cares, make your own rules. You don’t owe it to anyone, especially him, to set some arbitrary timeline for when you’re allowed to date again. You are a Disney fucking princess who deserves a good, honest man to treat her right, so girl, go find your prince charming. Knowing there are hot, funny, honest guys out there just dying to take you out to dinner is a healthy reminder that you don’t need your cheating ex, and you can 100% find happiness without him.

And whatever you do….

6. DON’T give him another chance.

Maybe you actually held your ground and broke up with your scumbag ex. GREAT! But now it’s a month later and you’re feeling lonely AF, crying into a greasy bag of Taco Bell at 2am looking at Instagram pictures from when you two were happy. Honey, put down the phone (and the crunch wrap) and pull yourself together. No matter how lonely you are, you do not need to bring him and all that negativity back into your life. The cheating never goes away. Even if you got back together, even if he never cheated on you again (which is statistically unlikely), his cheating days will always feel like the third wheel. And you should know by now that in a relationship, three isn’t company—it’s complete crap.

6 Reasons Why Breaking Up is One of the Best Decisions of Your Life

Breaking up sucks. Just ask Taylor Swift.

It’s always a difficult, painful process, even for the people who make the decision, and being on the receiving end of a breakup is even worse. Even relationships that run their courseand fall apart by mutual consent tend to cause their problems, even if it’s just an argument about who gets custody of the cat.

But believe it or not, beneath the grief and the heartache there’s something positive. It’s a little bit like childbirth – painful at the time, but rewarding in the years to come. Better still, there’s no need to wait nine months beforehand. And believe me, I know what I am talking about because I’ve been in that kind of situation more than once.

In fact, breaking up is often the best decision that people make. Here’s why.

1. There’s someone better out there

We’re not talking about someone who’s better at video games or doing the laundry. We’re talking about someone who’s a better fit. Many breakups happen because a couple is incompatible, andthe breakup is usually the best option for both parties.

As human beings, we change over time. Just take a look at Miley Cyrus and the difference between Hannah Montana and the music video for Wrecking Ball. Sometimes couples grow apart from each other, and that’s okay – it just means that next time around, they can find someone who shares the same interests.

2. It shows that you’re strong

They say that if something doesn’t kill you it makes you stronger, and there’s no one as strong as someone who’s just survived a breakup. When people are in a relationship, they learn to rely on their partners for emotional and moral support, often at the expense of their own self-confidence. After a breakup, they start to realise that they’re stronger on their own than they could ever have known.

This is particularly common after the demise of a long-term relationship – or at least, that’s how it happened for me. It took me a good few months to find my inner strength and to learn to trust it, but it was a defining moment in my life that taught me more than I could have ever expected.

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Hey Douchebag, Stop Popping Up When It’s Convenient For You

I’m having the best day ever, and BAM! You creep into my messages with pathetic excuses and more bullshit lies.

Stop! Stop contacting me when it’s convenient for you. I don’t have the time or patience. You’re sounding like a broken record. It’s getting old.

You don’t miss me. You don’t love me. You don’t even want me. You’re just sitting around realizing how badly you messed up. The silence of an empty house and life is catching up with you.

Where were you when I wanted and needed you? Where were you when I wanted to be together? You were too caught up in your games to see the actual picture.

The reality is setting in that I’m not there anymore. I got tired of being there at your convenience, dropping everything because I cared. Because you were all I wanted. Because I thought I was what you wanted too.

Don’t text me with your problems and feelings. That door has closed. And that’s your own damn fault. You only have yourself to blame for pushing away the one person who had your back always.

Don’t try to use guilt or manipulate my feelings in order to get your way. I don’t need your drama or your narcissistic comments anymore. You should have thought of that before you tried to destroy me.

I don’t rely on you or your love. I never needed you for anything, I only wanted you for the person I fell for. I thought you were who you claimed to be. But the person I thought you were was all a lie, and our love was a lie.

You’re NOT the man I met or loved.

So stop with the selfish shit and reaching out to me only because no one else is around, or because you feel alone. Don’t get caught up in feelings and memory lane because you’re drunk.

You didn’t want me then, and you sure aren’t going to have me now.

Give Up On The Guy Who Treats You Like a Second Choice

She fell in love with you and got absolutely nothing out of it.

She so badly didn’t want you to just think of her as your very own revolving door. But the deeper and deeper she fell, the more reality set in.

She was just a girl for you to pass through, a rest stop before your final destination, your come-and-go, no-strings-attached, no-questions-asked, easy option.

You sweet talked her, filled her head with false promises and her heart with possibilities of building a future together. She trusted in your false pretenses, knowing full well that it all seemed far too good to be true.You were so noncommittal and yet she, stupidly, fell head over heels.

And I’m sure she wasn’t the only girl to do so. There were probably hundreds of them; they weren’t special and neither was she.

But that didn’t matter because even though you’d never admit it, you needed her.

You needed her to be constantly available just in case you found yourself without a place to lay your head. You needed her on standby in case you wanted a few days of attention. You needed to keep her far enough away that I’d crave you, but close enough that she’d never turn you away.

It was a constant tug-of-war and she was always losing.

She found you irresistible and you knew that one look from you was all it took to override her better judgment.

But as much as she was drawn to you, she also knew that despite your promises to eventually come back to her for good, she knew she’d never have you to herself.

Your heart belonged to more than just another person and there was no way she could compete with that.

She told herself that the next time you dropped in and right back out again would be the last. She wasn’t gaining anything from this twisted, one-sided relationship. She was putting all of her eggs in one basket for a “see-you-next-time,” and putting her life on hold for a once-in-a-blue-moon encounter. She was done letting you mosey on back whenever you pleased.

Did you really mean to treat her as nothing more than a soft place to land and not as a person with real feelings?

Or did you just not realize that she was meant to be your destination and not just a stop along the way?

Either way, it’s too late. You’ve worn out your welcome.

An Open Letter to The Guy Who Didn’t Care

To the guy who didn’t care,

You never cared.

You knew what you were doing to me and how badly you hurt me. You knew how much faith I had in you but you stayed the same. You wouldn’t let down your walls for me, but as soon as I was able to slowly start chipping away at them, you would retreat back to your “too good for anyone” attitude. And that’s exactly where you stayed.

It seems like everything is “low-key” these days, including our so-called relationship, or whatever it was.

After everything that you put me through during our short time together, this is what I want to say to you.

You’re Weak.

I don’t want to seem like the bitter ex, but it’s true. You had the chance to be with a girl who would love you unconditionally and willfully put up with all of the confusion that came along with being involved with you, but you couldn’t handle that.

I know now that I’m not really what you wanted, or deserved.

You wanted someone who would give and give but expect nothing in return and that’s just not me.

I noticed what was happening when all of the compliments and conversations became one-sided. Once I called you out on it, you backed off completely. You didn’t deserve to have someone who tried so hard to please you and make you happy. You’re selfish, that’s really all it comes down to.

Everything you said was a lie.

You were NEVER sure about me like you led me to believe in the beginning. You made me believe that you just “weren’t ready” for a relationship but “Oh! Don’t worry! I will be someday!” Well, someday never happened.

Just like all of the dates and plans we made never happened because you would get “busy” at the last minute. I’m not as dumb as you thought I was.

You never cared.

None of my efforts were successful, but after months of replaying memories and trying to think of ways I could have tried harder, I realized that if you never cared, then why should I.

Despite the fact that I still have some hard feelings, I hope you find whatever it is that you’re looking for. And I hope, one day, you can finally commit to a loving and caring woman and I hope you treat her like she deserves.

I hope you fall in love with her and you look back at the time you let a girl just like her go, and it only makes you want to hold onto her tighter.