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Five Ways Always A Bridesmaid Never A Bride Can Make The Most Of It

Wedding Season is upon us. And socially distanced, outdoors, intimate and rescheduled weddings are happening right now. The dashing groom and beautiful bride are celebrating their love for each other and they want you to be their made of honor, bridesmaid and party planner. You are the bestie, the plus one, the call anytime friend.. and the bridesmaid for many. Here are fifteen things all us bridesmaids understand.

1.) The Bridesmaid Dress Is Not A Worthy Investment

You know how expensive the bridesmaid dresses are. You have worked extra shifts to pay for the tafetta and never to be seen again dresses. In fact, there is a bridesmaid section in your closet. Rent the Runway truly is a better option. So tell her!! And glam it up in a gown you truly can enjoy wearing.

2.) Vegas is the best place for a Bachelorette Party

There is nothing better than a girls trip to Vegas to celebrate your girl getting hitched. There is plenty to shop, dine and dance the night away. And let’s face it. All of us want to go to Vegas, so the trip is worthwhile for us single girls too.

3.) The Band At The Reception Matters

For us, our dates, and grandma and grandpa. Music is the best way to celebrate the love between the bride and groom and the extended hours we are wearing those dresses. If there is a DJ planned you can use your playlist skills to make the night even more memorable.

4.) Weddings Are A Great Excuse To Bring That SO To Meet Your Friends

What a great excuse when you just start dating someone that is getting serious– weddings are a great way to get the intros in, all at once. So bring that maybe guy,, and find out if there is something there there—

5.) Bridesmaids travel abroad when they help their bestie plan a destination wedding.

That’s right! Push notifications, opt in emails, plant the seeds so your friend makes it an Island wedding.  The best part of a trip like this is you can take your bridesmaid self on a solo trip afterwards.

 

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How Not to Be a Bridezilla

When did the word “bridezilla?? become part of our everyday vernacular?  Godzilla would be offended.  All he did was stomp around and rip people’s heads off…these girls have nothing on him.  Godzilla couldn’t speak.  If you’re planning a wedding, (or even making your fiancée do it,) here are a few tips to keep your inner amphibian in check.

  • Yes, your wedding is an important day.  But keep in mind: it’s not THE most important day of your life.  If that sounds a little harsh, think again.  How sad to think you’ve already peaked at the age of 25.3 (the average age of a bride in the U.S.).  You have lots of wonderful exciting days ahead.  This is just the first of many with the man you love.  Enjoy it for all its imperfections and its wonderful moments.  Remember, it’s 24 hours, like every other day.
  • You’re a bride for your wedding day, but you’re a wife for the rest of your life.  If you’re focusing more on the theatrics of the ceremony and the logistics of the reception than you are on how to have a strong marriage, then you need to rethink your priorities.
  • There’s an old saying, “keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.??  Eliminate some of the stress at the very beginning of the planning stages and only have the bridesmaids you truly want.  The worst thing you could do is ask a distant cousin or a “frenemy?? because she’s the only one of your suitemates that would be left out.  You don’t have to honor the bridesmaid contracts you made as children.  Stand firm on this.  Yes, it may mean one fiery argument with your mother, but a lot of the temper tantrums of Bridezillas perpetuate from the frustration of having to deal with people you really don’t have anything in common with anymore.
  • Please, for the love of all that is sacred and holy, don’t make your bridal party wear a certain color to your shower.  They’re already wearing matching dresses for the wedding itself.  They’re your friends, not your ladies in waiting, not your servants.  Don’t think up stupid ways to make them unified because all you’ll do is make them plot against you.  Ever heard of Brutus?
  • I have to tell you a secret. Those “Save the Date?? magnets are stupid.  You’re going to send me an invitation.   If I have no idea that you’re engaged, and I wouldn’t rearrange my social calendar to be present at your wedding…maybe you shouldn’t invite me in the first place. Don’t create more stress than you actually need.
  • Remember, not everyone has the same financial status.  Before you start spewing about how everyone must attend a destination bachelorette party, pay for a catered shower, buy a bridesmaid dress and give you a gift, consider that some of these demands are over the top.  Your friends became bridesmaids because they love you, but if you put them against the wall and embarrass them into buying things they can’t afford, you will find yourself against said wall.  Probably in an alley.
  • Stop.  Watching.  Reality.  Wedding.  Shows.  The term “reality television?? in itself is an oxymoron.  If you remember your plot diagram from English class, every good story needs a conflict, a climax and a resolution.   That’s all these shows are, dollies.  Don’t minimize your day into something like that.
  • Remember you’re not the only one getting married.  His sister, and his mother are always going to be His Sister and His Mother.  You know those old ladies at family gatherings that no one wants to sit next to because they’re bitching about something that happened fifty years ago?  Just let it go.  If his mother wants to wear a green dress, let her wear the green dress.  Someday, she’ll be the grandmothers to your children.  They will love her.  You should too.  Color-coordinated floral arches don’t really matter much in the scheme of things.
  • Don’t climb on that pedestal.  Once you do, everyone wants to knock you off.  Every snide, nasty remark and action you make from waaaaay up there will make it all the sweeter for everyone when you fall.  Just sayin’.
  • Did you ever hear the expression, “If you can’t say anything nice, honey, come sit by me???  Do you really want to spend your reception wondering if YOU are the reason those women are cackling?

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