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No Matter How Hard I Try, I Just Can’t Bring Myself To Hate You

I don’t hate you. In fact, I’m incapable of hating you because “hate” is such a strong word, such a strong emotion, that I really can’t imagine hating you. I’m incapable of hating you because you really are a great person and I truly believe you weren’t thinking clearly when you decided to be dishonest.

Who knows? Maybe you were thinking clearly and just didn’t actually care. But I don’t want to think of you that way.

You hid things so well I never would have guessed you were seeing someone else at the same time as me. I’m not sure if you’re just that good at hiding things and lying about your feelings or if you really felt those things and for whatever reason chose not to end things with either she or me.

You sat here next to me and lied every day.

How did that not eat at you every time we spoke on the phone or every time you came over and sat next to me on my bed?

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I am Good Enough

You used me in more ways than I can count. You left me thinking I was in the wrong. That I did something. It didn’t matter how many times you cheated. How bad you’ve hurt me. I still wondered what was wrong with me.

Why wasn’t I good enough?

I helped you get to where you are. I helped you out of your dark place while you were pushing me into mine. I could say I hate you. I probably should hate you. But even after all you’ve done, I can’t. You told lies about me. You said I was crazy, you said I was the one cheating. Did this make you feel better for the time you’ve cheated? For the hours of yelling at me and me not saying a single word but sitting there with tears rolling down my face. Then the next morning you’d apologize. Kiss me goodbye. And I get up and make sure the house is clean for when you return from work. Accepting the apology.

You hungry, baby? I’ll cook for you. Let’s get you in bed. I don’t want you falling asleep in your chair, your neck will be sore. Make sure your alarm is set. I don’t want you being late. Come on baby, it’s time to get up. You don’t want to be late again. Oh, you want me to do that for you? With you? I don’t feel comfortable doing that… Oh, you love me? Okay… I’ll do it. For you.

You know what? Maybe you are right. Maybe I was crazy.

Crazy for believing all of your lies when you told me how much you loved me. Crazy for believing I meant something to you. We are a good team, you had me; I had you. You always told me this. Everything will be fine. I believed you. For years.

Then one day, I catch you in a lie. I catch you with someone. I finally stood up for myself and say something. You yell at me. Kick me out. Tell me I ruined your day. I was a crazy bitch. You need space. You feel trapped. You don’t want to be with me anymore. Then you said the words, “Were we ever together?” I don’t know? Were we? What exactly were we doing?

Now you’re with her. You let her touch your phone. When I would, you’d yell at me. Tell me there’s important stuff in there. Remember that one time you yelled at me in the middle of a busy restaurant, then on the sidewalk with all those people passing by? Because I touched your phone and said something to the girl you had PROMISED you wouldn’t talk to again. The one YOU cheated on me with?

I guess you like this girl more. Because if she can do that, if she can take you away from me so quickly and without you even caring, then she must be special.

You left me crushed. You hurt me. Some days I don’t want to get out of bed. I lost the person I loved a lot. I lost my best friend. I lost a part of my life. I’ll get myself back. It may take a while but I will.

I promise you won’t be around to see how good I’m doing.

I’ll never wish anything bad on you, though you’ve put me through some bad things. I do wish you the best. I wish you love, and I wish you happiness. I hope you succeed in your job and I hope you go far. I hope you find your true you and finally find your place in this world. I am sad that I can’t be around to watch you reach all these things.

There will always be love in my heart for you. That will never die. But it’s time to say goodbye.
You’ve taught me that not everyone is going to love you back like you love them. And that’s okay. Keep loving. Keep being caring. One day, maybe just one day, I will find someone who will appreciate all I can offer. That I will be enough for that person.

I know you probably won’t read this, but if you do, thank you.

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You Played Me Like A Joke, But In The End You Lost

I find it pretty funny that you think you have an effect on me. You had a chance with me six years ago, you decided I was too much for you even though you cheated on me twice in the two weeks we were together.

I had fallen for you in such a short amount of time because you gave me the attention I wanted. You texted me every morning, called me beautiful, and tried for over a month to get me to date you but I was hesitant due to the heartbreak I dealt with from an ex of mine before you stumbled in.

You made me believe that you could have an interest in me, you came and took me on a date during our spring break, and asked me out in person, you would sing to me, and do anything you could to get me to give you a chance.

I finally gave you one, and within a week you texted me that your ex kissed you and that it meant “nothing” because you “loved” me, I was a stupid naive teenager who believed a guy she barely knew.

After that kiss, we started to fight a lot, but I came and saw you one night with my best friend because you wanted me to come see you and try to work things out, I was laying on you playing on my phone while you were working on some homework, yet my best friend caught you telling other girls they were sexy.

She didn’t want to say anything to me about it until we left, and she even got a picture when you weren’t watching. Was I not good looking enough for you? How you could tell other girls they were sexy when I was laying on you cuddling, is beyond me. You told me I was the only girl for you.

Our fights finally got to the point that we would barely talk to each other. Anytime we talked it turned into a fight and you would tell me I was too much for you. We had a fight at one point and I told you I couldn’t do it anymore, that I was not enough for you.

You admitted that your ex kissed you yet again, and I finally had enough. We had a mutual break up but you would get mad if you found out I was talking to other guys but you could talk to other girls.

When I started to date my boyfriend you got mad and would say he wouldn’t treat me like you did, you were right, he treated me 10x better than you did. Then you started to date your girlfriend who became your fiancee.

Do you know what aggravates me the most? You are engaged and in the military and still, try to flirt with me. Get over it, we are done, have been for years. You had your chance and blew it twice. That was on you, not on me.

Let go of whatever we had like I did, and love and appreciate your fiance because she does everything for you, when you are away in the military she works and keeps busy until you come home to her. She hangs with her friends and is loyal to you, give her the same respect.

We are history, and that’s how it should be. Get over it

To the girl he cheated on me with

To the girl my boyfriend cheated on me with,

I’ve been thinking about you a lot. You haunt my dreams, you are in my thoughts, and you are the definition of my biggest nightmare. I have sat here many of times thinking about how I am letting you consume my thoughts.

I always had a feeling about you, I used to see little things on social media that hinted to me that something was going on between you and him. I resisted all the tricks to spy and catch him cheating. The worst part is, I was right the whole time about you.

I see so many other articles thanking a ‘girl’ like you. But I possibly could never in a million years say thank you to you. You ruined me, and you almost ruined my relationship. You did not win, you did not destroy my relationship, and you did not come out on ‘top’.

You tried telling me I deserved better, that I should leave him you even had the courage to say WE deserve better than him. How could you ever think that me and you were on the same level. You knew about me, you weren’t naive. You tried to get him to leave me for you, you tried to pursue your own relationship with someone already in one.

You sat there and tried to be with someone who was texting me telling me he loves me. You saw me posts photos with him, and write things to you and you were okay with knowing you were doing that to me?

I know what you’re thinking, why would you stay with him after he cheated on you? You didn’t win either. I stayed with him because sometimes people make mistakes, sometimes people do the wrong things and I’m giving him another chance. I don’t think you are the only person to blame for this, he did the deed as well.

But you’re another girl who did this to someone else, you were okay with him cheating on his girlfriend when she had no idea 1,200 miles away. The only reason I do thank you, I learned not to be naive. I learned that girls like you do not care about girls like me. And I do thank you for that. I hope you one day find someone of your own, and that you never do this to another girl. I’m a stronger person because of this, so I guess I do thank you in a way.

Sincerely, the girl you made stronger.

6 Unconventional Ways to Know If Your Guy Is Cheating

Interestingly, with the innovation in technology our guys have also become innovated especially when it comes to cheating. I remember few years back if someone was ignoring his girl-friend or wife, it was believed that he must be cheating. But now days it has become really hard to catch your cheater guy because they have learned so many tips and tricks to make their current girl- friend of wife happy and keeping a secret affair too.

With quite deep observation I found some really unconventional ways that men are using to cover their extra affairs. I even discussed it with my husband that if he was cheating on me, how good these tricks will fit in the situation. And he just laughed and said now as you know these tricks, I would have to find some others, if I plan to cheat you.

1. If all those 5 or 10 past years he was normally romantic with you or used to be a normal husband and suddenly he became intensely romantic and a perfect fairly tale guy, before flying out of the world with happiness consider it an alarm. I am not saying that it is 100% true but it is 99%.

2. There is a never ending project going on in his office and that is the reason he is late from work and so tired that he is just ignoring you. Again, it can be true but act amazingly sharp to check his office without letting him know that you are doubting him. Prepare his favorite lunch and take it to his office as a surprise. There is a possibility that you will be surprised too when you will not find him there.

3. Cutting off the expenses is also a sign that he may be cheating because now he will have to please two women instead of one. Just make sure where is he spending all the cash he is cutting from your house expenses.

4. If his friends are complaining that he is ignoring them. Guys usually don’t ignore their friends unless there is special one. To be sure, next time whenever he says that he is going on dinner with his friends just call the girl-friends of his friends to plan a girls dinner. You will know the actual plan.

5. Another funny but 100% authentic way to check if he is cheating on you is just to touch his phone. If he jumps out of the sofa or bed and starts shouting on you. Then that is the last nail on his cheating.

6. Lastly, know your inner gut. 6th sense of women is really strong when it comes to matters like cheating. Even if he is acting nice and all that, but the though of cheating comes to your mind again and again then start investigating secretly.

I usually advise women to do these cheating investigations secretly because if you are wrong and your guy know that you are spying on him, the situation can get really messy.

Good Luck!

Why wasn’t I good enough?

You know what? Maybe you are right. Maybe I was crazy.

I promise you won’t be around to see how good I’m doing.

Oh, we know sis. We know. Pendley even offered to fight the dude…but as it turns out, it wasn’t Rios’ boyfriend in that library. It was his identical twin brother.

It all started with this scandalous image: