This might sound off the track, but a healthy sexual relationship between two partners helps to improve love and affection.
Falling in love is easy, but staying in love is the real challenge. Men do tend to cheat more than women. But while most men don’t cheat, it doesn’t mean they don’t get the thoughts.
For most, their current relationship with their partner is more important to them than their urges. Besides, you see a thousand faces every day, but it doesn’t matter if you have your heart set on one.
With that said, we delve into explaining why men cheat, and what to do about it (both of you)!
Signs You are Being Cheated On
Men and Women don’t always cheat. If your partner cheats, it doesn’t mean their gender is wired to do it. This is an individual case. It’s a harsh reality, and you should look for its signs. Does the following happen to you?
- He changed his appearance or now takes better care of it
- He doesn’t show interest in you (every day)
- There is an emotional distance between
- Your gut tells you he’s unfaithful
- You don’t spend much together
- He tries to avoid you
- He claims nothing happened if you bring this matter to him
If you do want to catch a cheating spouse, mind these signs and consider taking action. Often times getting the proof can lead to a serious conversation without the lies and address the problems that may have led to the cheating. It could even lead to saving the relationship.
Why Do Men Cheat?
To be fair, not all men cheat and there are certainly instances when women cheat. With that said, men are more prone to cheating as they get older as compared to women.
But even the most committed man is prone to cheat. Following, are common reasons why they do it:
- Lack of Intimacy with Partner (both physical and mental)
- He is not happy or satisfied with the relation
- He feels not appreciated
- He lacks commitment
- Boredom
- He might want to take revenge on you
- Bad Boundaries
- They have the opportunity or have an addiction (Porn or sexual)
Importance of Intimacy
Intimacy (emotional and physical) is important to keep the relationship between spouses strong. If your partner feels insecure emotionally, they are more likely to cheat on you. Yes, some men do cheat out of emotional insecurity.
The same goes for a physical relationship; sometimes, it doesn’t matter how strong the relationship between you both is, if your man is more physical than spiritual, he is more likely to cheat.
You can try to keep it from happening if you develop a strong relationship between you both, including emotional security. If you see he is acting differently, then do bring up the matter to him, but be careful how you do it.
Role of Sexual Transmutation
Like mentioned before, men are either spiritual or physical. This depends on how they make use of their sexual drive. Yes, it’s going to be a bit awkward here, but you better continue reading. When men establish control over their sex drive or energy, they can use as a fuel to achieve some other important goals or motivation.
This process is called sexual transmutation. Unfortunately, most men don’t know what is, and they fell victim for acting on how they are wired naturally. In most cases, women are more resistant to their urges than men. But once again, men are biologically wired to act like this. This doesn’t translate that men should not practice control over themselves.
This control is an important part of manhood. Otherwise, men are just boys. There is a reason woman are told to treat men as children. We believe this might be it!
Issues with Men
In most cases, if men don’t have control over their urges, they are disturbed unless their physical needs are met. This issue can lead to sexual issues. The thing is, this issue combined with the following make matters a lot worse for most men:
- Stress
- Fatigue
- Alcohol or drug addiction
- Estranged Relationships
- Mental Issues
- Fitness Issues
How Can They Control It?
The only way to do is to increase your energy levels by working out regularly. Practice self-control and follow a well-disciplined schedule. It will help you improve yourself. It improves both your physical and mental outlook. This also helps you become a creative person and improve your relationship. Not to mention doing so can also help alleviate stress and improve your overall mood.
Benefits
As you establish control over yourself, you can have a healthy sexual relationship with the love of your life. Not being derailed by this urge will keep you fresh, active, and calm. It will also help you achieve more in life as you divert your energy to something that matters.
This also inspires you to accept your current body structure. It’s a lot better to utilize this method instead of wasting yourself way because of depression. True acceptance of yourself the will plus act to improve it can help you beat off your stress and anxiety.