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9 Things You Should Know Before Moving In With Your Boyfriend

Sometimes in long-term relationships, there comes a point where a couple discusses taking that next step from “just dating” to “moving in together.” While it seems like a natural progression in any relationship, it’s actually a huge step to take as a couple. Sure, you may think it’s not such a big deal when the two of you spend every other night at each other’s own apartments anyway, but sleeping at someone’s apartment and actually sharing an apartment together are completely different things – trust me. While moving in may seem like an adorable and magical idea – playing “house” always makes every girl excited and happy – it’s a big f*cking deal, especially if there are things you’re unsure about or questions you don’t exactly have the answers to.

1. Make sure it’s something you both want to do.

Everyone feels as though it’s natural to move in together when you are a long term couple and you’re a certain age (in your mid-20’s/early-30’s). And, while it is a normal step to take in many relationships, you want to make sure that you and your partner are both happy and comfortable with the idea of living together. If one person is more into it and the other isn’t ready – don’t f*cking do it. You both need to be ready to take this step together because if one person isn’t ready, resentment will grow and your relationship will suffer because of it. I know a lot of couples who broke up after moving in together because they just weren’t ready or at that stage in their relationship to do so.

2. Make sure you’re doing it for the same reasons.

If you’re moving in with someone because you want to build a life with them, but they’re moving in with you because it’s financially convenient for them – it’s going to create tension. Make sure you discuss your intentions before you move in together. Make sure that you’re both on the same page and understand what living together really means. It’s not the same as just dating someone and staying over their apartment, you two are no cohabitating which means what’s yours is theirs and vice versa. You don’t want to have false expectations and hope and create conflict because you were both unclear of what you want.

3. Talk about finances, no matter how weird it may get.

When you move in with someone, your finances are now up front and important in your relationship. Most people will tell you not to discuss money with your partner unless you’re married, but, if you’re living together – everything matters in terms of money. And, it’s more than just rent. You’re going to paying for rent together, electric, cable, internet, food, furniture – everything you want to put in this apartment will be both of yours, not just yours or theirs. If your partner is financially irresponsible, that’s a big consideration you need to weigh before moving in. If you make more than your partner, that’s also something to think about. You don’t ever want to be stuck paying for 90% of the things in your apartment and your partner mooches off of your financial well-being, you’ll begin to get angry and resentful and will end up blowing up on them about it. The best thing you can do is discuss how to split things and make a schedule for things such as laundry, groceries and other necessities.

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8 Things You Are Doing to Sabotage Your Love Life

You’re a perfectly nice girl, right?

I mean  you’re pretty, you work out,  and you’re independent, have a great job or are an astute student and are ALWAYS there for your friends. So why does it seem like everyone else is getting married or engaged and you are alone in the corner sipping on a long island… Ugh! You think to yourself:

“What’s wrong with me?”—all guys must be stupid. Or blind..OR BOTH. Has he SEEN the the glutes on you? You squat like 4 times a week! It has nothing to do with you… or does it?

Why don’t we take a second and OWN some of the mistakes we make…. if you’re having a hard time figuring it out how you are sabotaging your love life… here are some clues:

 

1. You are trying WAY too hard…

Did you really need to get eyelash extensions for your first date? I’m sure he appreciates the effort made to look good…but you might also make the mistake of seeming like you are WAY TOO high maintenance. Unless that’s what you were going for… and in that case, maybe you should be on sugardaddy.com, since you are looking for someone to take care of you and deal with your brattiness. Too much makeup or wearing eyelashes that look like your going to fly away when you blink translates into being a high maintenance bitch. Guys appreciate your natural beauty– and definitely want to see what you look like without the preparations for a beauty pageant.

 

2. Constantly bringing up your ex.

Even if you bring him up harmlessly, mentioning a past relationship relays the message that you are carrying baggage into your new one and/or are comparing your new beau to the ex. You can’t build on a new relationship if you haven’t gotten over the positive or negative emotions and attachments of the past. It’s not fair to the both of you. Most guys definitely don’t want to feel like you are rebounding with them, even if you aren’t. Regardless of whether or not Joe’s blue eyes remind you of Johnny’s…. keep it to yourself and don’t bring it up in conversation.

 

3. Expecting that he always pay for everything…

Most of my guy friends I’ve asked about this topic answer the same way… they usually pick up the check before the girl has the chance to… but if you never even make an effort or OFFER to pay for any of your meals or dates, you are sending the message that you expect it to be taken care of. Let’s be realistic, most millennials can’t afford dinner, meals, and outings for TWO several days a week. Surprise him… you won’t seem like every other self centered girl he’s dated in the past.

 

4. Living on your cellphone/social media.

Okay… so you’ve been on four dates and it seems like he’s pretty into you– Then you start doing that thing you do with your bestie and find every opportunity to take pictures. (Guilty, I still do this myself, my bf HATES it)

Those intimate moments that used to be about you and him and turning into events to post on your timeline and snapchat.

To us: We’re excited to show off our new boo to the world.

And to them: It seems like you are collecting evidence that we hang out with you… and it also makes us feel like you are taking this WAYYY too fast. Why do you take so many pictures anyway? Like are you making a scrapbook or something? Are you trying to make your friends jealous? It just seems a little pretentious to take a photo of the dinner and wine we are eating every time we eat… Why can’t you just enjoy it with me and not the world?

Most guys hate that most girls are selfie and social media obsessed. It’s refreshing to meet a girl who’s not that into herself and her pictures; Who doesn’t need to constantly check into websites to track what she’s doing and who she’s with.

Even though our intentions are good…and we really just want cute things to look back on when we are old and gray…

STOP YOURSELF THERE!

How do you even know he’s going to be the one you are old and gray with? This is the same thought process that is scaring any potential suitors away! You look CRAZY! And to be honest… you totally want to make your friends jealous with your hot date and cute outfit. (immature) Get off the phone, put it on vibrate, and ignore the urge to snap, tweet, and post–Before you get ghosted for the 10th time.

5. Giving it up way too early.

If you have sex with him right away, he’s going to assume you’ve done that with a few of other people. (And you probably have, don’t lie)

And if he doesn’t see that as a red flag, he’s probably really open minded, inexperienced, or he wants to keep having casual sex with you. Don’t mistake his staying around for genuine interest. You didn’t make it very difficult to get in your pants.

If you don’t have sex right away and he doesn’t stick around, then you know he wasn’t looking for a commitment. So you’ve actually done yourself a favor and pre-weeded out the jerk. It’s a lot easier to tell who’s interested in you as a person when you aren’t using your body to keep them around.

And look, I know it’s not easy. We are adults. And we have needs. We live in a society that utilizes double standards in judging men and women when it comes to promiscuity. Where being a sexual being, and also a women is seen as an excuse to be a slut. It sucks, but most guys aren’t mature enough to take you seriously if you sincerely are interested in being committed but also participate in casual sex.

For most women, we make the mistake of giving our bodies because we just want to feel loved and attended to.

If you really like the guy, just play it safe and don’t give it up on the first few dates….

6. Playing hard to get.

Think it’s smart to wait 3 days to text back, or ditch the plans you made with him here and there to make him ‘miss’ you? WRONG. Super duper fucking wrong. Most people our age have a couple of jobs, go to school, and have a ton of other important things to do besides wait around for you to reply to a text message or decide when it’s a good time to hang out. If you make yourself hard to reach, it honestly seems like you aren’t interested… and most guys will take the hint (even if thats not what you meant) and stop hitting you up. Nobody has time for mind games. Stop trying to make yourself seem like you are too busy for people and just be yourself. You made plans for dinner tonight? Don’t be a flake. It’s insulting. What? Do you think you are too good to keep plans with me all of a sudden? That will earn you a “Who’s this?” real quick.

7. Being shallow.

You get what you give. And you can’t be extremely picky when you are extremely single. Moreover, you can’t be a nickel looking for a dime. If your “standards” sound more like an Abercrombie and Fitch modeling application… you might end up heartbroken.

If you DO find a guy that fits aesthetic bill you desire… expect him to be extremely self centered and entitled. He could be with anyone. He’ll say… You’re lucky he’s with you...

Dealing with this type of guy long term with leave you broke, burnt out, and with low self esteem. You’re constantly going to be looking through his social media outlets for the other girls he’s entertaining. (remember attention makes his world go round) You’ll live your life trying to prove to him that you’re good enough for him and fighting to “earn” his love because he’s got these supposed “trust issues” and quite frankly it’s convenient to keep a girl around who treats you like a king and is convinced she’s the one for you… even though you have no intention of ever making her your serious girlfriend. You will end up his “crazy ex.”

Because you will fall in love with those angelic blue eyes… and when you spend time ALONE together he’ll tell you how grateful he is to have you in his life and how much you mean to him… but he’ll NEVER wife you up. He’s honestly looking for his own perfect princess the same way you were looking for yours. Soon enough you will learn that looks aren’t everything… and by the time you DO figure it out… that guy you friend zoned will have grown up a few years and looks a lot more appealing… and is also in a happily committed relationship with a girl who saw his potential when you thought he was a just cheesy dork.

8. Friend-zoning the nice guy.

You know this guy: He’s handsome, sweet, funny… You’ve known him forever. He knows all of your bad habits and embarrassing stories and still thinks the world of you. He’s the shoulder you cry on when the douche bag breaks your heart. He’s always there to offer you comfort, reassurance, and good advice. If you ever need anything, he’s always there… whether it’s gas, or burger king, or company. He is literally your gay best friend… except… he’s not gay. He just understands you— and deep down inside you know if you gave him a change he’d treat you like an absolute Princess. So why are you keeping him in the friend zone?

-Kayla

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Adventure Book Dating Tips for a Healthy Relationship

Are you in a healthy relationship? Building and maintaining a connection with your adorable partner is trickier than it seems.

Having such a connection means nurturing positive interactions while avoiding negative emotions, discussing your conflicts, respecting the boundaries, sparing daily time for communication, having fun, etc.

Individuals in unhealthy relationships are constantly controlled and humiliated, as well as disrespected and intimidated. No person deserves to feel dependent and controlled by his/her partner.

The adventure book tips below will help you build a good connection with the person you love.

 

Make deposits in the emotional bank account

The emotional bank account term was coined to describe the combination of negative and positive interactions in a relationship. Following a negative interaction, couples need twenty positive interactions to restore the emotional balance back to normal. Examples of negative interactions include having a fight, being ignored, feeling disappointed, etc. Find out how to keep negativity out of your marriage.

A healthy relationship means positive interactions always outnumber negative ones. Making deposits to the emotional bank account is done by creating positive interactions on a regular basis, like flirting, being a good listener, making a cup of coffee for your partner, celebrating small achievements, and other small gestures. If you don’t recall the last time you’ve deposited in your relationship account, it’s definitely time to make some changes. 

 

Always discuss your conflicts

Another dating tip for building a healthy relationship is to discuss your conflicts. After having a fight, many couples wish to move on by pretending the conflict ever happened. In such scenarios, both partners are relieved to be back on the same page without considering the potential buildup of negative emotions in the background. 

While such behavior is somewhat understandable, a healthy relationship means talking through the conflict and preventing destructive patterns from repeating in the future. The more you ignore your conflicts, the more resentful you are to become. Partners in a functional relationship learn lessons from past mistakes and discuss what to do differently when facing a future conflict. 

Additionally, by discussing conflicts, partners look for the source of the problem, whether it is superficial or serious. Couples striving to build a healthy relationship should be prepared to constantly work on their communication, as communication is key for growing and changing positively. Evolution is indispensable for every relationship, and couples should learn to embrace it. 

 

Create a conflict contract

Another helpful dating tip for building and maintaining a healthy relationship is having a conflict contract. These relationships are based on trust and have boundaries, which must be respected in order for nobody to get hurt. Nevertheless, when fear, anger, or jealousy run high, these boundaries can be crossed without considering the consequences. 

Therefore, couples are advised to safeguard the trust by creating a conflict contract, which both partners have to adhere to in times of disagreement. This contract involves certain boundaries that apply to communication when not seeing eye to eye. For example, these boundaries might include rules like no shouting, not bringing up other topics to the conversation, using no offensive words, etc. There are no right or wrong boundaries, as every couple knows what works for them. 

Nevertheless, it’s not surprising if a person ends up crossing these boundaries accidentally. In such moments, stopping the argument is crucial until both of you have calmed down. Healthy relationships are those where partners are aware that protecting their intimacy and connection is more valuable than being winners of the argument. 

 

Spare daily time to connect

In a healthy relationship, partners are expected to spare daily time to connect, not just during date nights. It doesn’t have to be the entire evening but as many as ten minutes a day to devote yourself to your partner and to leave the phone aside. Make sure you choose a special time during the day to eliminate all distractions and focus on your connection. 

Couples choose different times in the day based on their schedules. For instance, some partners make time early in the morning before going to work, while others make thetime right before hitting the sack. For others, the best time for connecting is dinner time. Everyday communication is crucial for feeling close and appreciated, especially if you know the other person has deliberately spared time for you. 

 

Have fun

Another secret weapon in building a healthy relationship is having fun, even though many individuals neglect this aspect. At the start of the journey, most couples seem to enjoy effortless fun by laughing at each other’s jokes and doing fun activities together. Anyhow, as partners become busier, they usually lack the energy and time they’ve had before. 

If playfulness is no longer present in your long-term relationship, try introducing some fun once again. Partners should search for datebooks online, which offer fun dating ideas. There are various sites, such as https://www.theadventurechallenge.com/, providing adventures for every relationship. Playfulness and laughter are always welcome, as these feelings remind couples of the time they fell in love. 

Additionally, there isn’t supposed to be any special reason for doing something fun. You can perhaps recreate some of your first dates or consult the datebook for advice. 

 

To sum up

No person should stop investing effort in romance. 

Always keep the spark alive by communicating daily, respecting your darling, listening to his/her problems, resolving conflicts, and promoting positive interactions!

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My Boyfriend’s Mom Hates Me And Here’s How I Handle It

Falling in love with someone is a beautiful experience that many people cherish and look forward to all of their lives. It’s a combination of two people’s lives together, making them into one. When you meet your significant other for the first time, it’s as though the entire world does not exist beyond the two of you. That “honeymoon stage,” you wish it would last forever. But, we all know, there are friends, family, responsibilities—an outside world—that factor into our lives, not just love.

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7 Dating Mistakes To Avoid In 2020 So Your Love Life Isn’t God Awful Again

Let’s face it—2018 wasn’t the best year for everyone when it comes to love. There are so many times we’ve made mistakes: we’ve drunk texted our ex to rekindle the flame only to be burned twice as hard, we’ve broken up with people we realized we should have never pushed out of our lives, and we’ve isolated ourselves from finding true love because we have a sour outlook on dating overall. 

Whatever the reason your love life took a bad left turn this year, it doesn’t mean that you’re doomed forever. In fact, there are so many opportunities and ways to fix your broken romance cycle this coming year, and we’re here to help you out.

 

1. Not being honest.

This is not only for yourself, but the person you are dating as well. We all have a gut instinct when it comes to anything in life and you need to be honest with yourself when your gut is speaking to you. Stop ignoring your guy and lying to yourself that your gut isn’t trying to tell you something; because it is. Be honest with how you really feel about the person you are with. Something in a relationship things starts out great in the beginning but after a few months, it’s not the same relationship. That is okay but it is important to be honest with yourself if you are staying in a relationship you don’t want to be in.

 

2. Chasing love that you truly know will never be yours.

Guilty as charged. A lot of us are. It is a natural behavior to chase after something you know that you can’t have or know isn’t right for you. That is a phase that you will eventually fall out of. “Chasing after someone that is not attainable will get old fast and wasting your time doing that will prevent you from chasing someone that is meant to be yours. Yes, the chase is fun every once and a while; and no one likes it when a relationship is easy. Things are boring that way, but it is very important to make sure you are chasing after someone that is attainable in the end. Time wasted is never satisfying.

 

3. Showing aggressive behavior towards the other person and the relationship you are trying to build.

A.K.A. coming on too strong, forcing the relationship too quickly, stalking the person’s every move after you first meet etc….All behaviors that are unnatural and will prove that you are too crazy to be with before a real relationship can actually blossom. You also can not force a relationship to happen. It just never works out that way. By engaging in aggressive behaviors that try to force a relationship you will just push the relationship back further from ever being a serious thing.

 

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Ladies, Read This If Your Guy Refuses To Put A Label On What You Are

So, you like a guy a lot and you’ve been seeing him for a few weeks and you want to take the next step. Everytime you muster up the swallowed deep down courage to ask him that bold question of “what are we,” he seems to always have a different excuse.

“I don’t want to rush into things.”

“Why ruin what we have now?”

“Labels are stupid, it doesn’t change the way I feel about you.”

“I’m not ready for a serious commitment.”

No matter what the response is if it’s anything other than, “will you be my girlfriend,” it’s a straight-up excuse.

So often, women are stuck in purgatory wondering why the guy they’re fawning over doesn’t want them back. No matter how many gifts you buy him, how many breakfasts in bed you make him, or how many oral pleasures you perform on him—if a guy doesn’t want to make you his girlfriend, he will give you just about any reason he can come up with as to why it’s a bad idea. The excuses come so often that, in time, women start to believe that they’re true.

“Maybe rushing things is a bad idea.”

“I love what we have now, I don’t want to ruin it, either.”

“Labels are stupid, they’re just for show and society.”

“Maybe a serious commitment is a lot to take on right now.”

If you’ve found yourself in this position. Stop, take a breath.

The truth of the matter is, the guy who you’re in love with that doesn’t want to make you his girlfriend is never going to be honest with you—nor is he ever going to tell you that you should stop seeing each other because you want more and he doesn’t. Why?

Because you’ve given him all the things a relationship would, without having the label.

More likely than not, you’ve acted like a “girlfriend” to this guy. Don’t be ashamed—most women who are interested in a relationship with someone jump the gun and act as though they are in a relationship, even without the label. This, however, is a dangerous place to be. Not only are you giving away all the goods before you got yourself a commitment, but you’ve also shown him that you will settle for being treated as temporary. If you want a commitment from someone, you need to hold back and save yourself—your loving, caring, and understanding tendencies—for when he finally commits to you.

In the generation where everyone is “seeing someone,” and “casually talking to someone,” it’s hard to find a person who will truly settle down with you to start something real. That’s why women need to lift their standards when it comes to what they will and will not tolerate. If you’re seeing someone and they give you one of those old excuses—know that you deserve better. There are men out there who will work for what you have to offer. And, don’t just give it away to any average Joe who can’t mutter the words “girlfriend.”

Ladies, know what you bring to the table and never be afraid to eat alone.

Weird Things Every Girl Is Guilty Of Overthinking In Her Relationship

We’re all pretty much insecure about the same things but on different levels. And some of these things we’re insecure about—even in the most secure relationships—aren’t things we’re really willing to admit to our significant others: that his ex is prettier than us, that we kind of want him to text us first sometimes, that we hate asking him for help and more…

1. When you tell us we’re pretty

We know you think we’re beautiful. You say it with your eyes, and you say it all the time. But when you say it too often, we get kinda insecure about it. We know this sounds crazy. But we promise: it’s not. When you tell us we’re pretty every day, we wonder if you’re just saying it because you feel obligated to say it.

2. When you compliment us at all, really. . .

When you tell us the sweetest things, of course, we love it. But it also makes us insecure. And it sucks. Like, if you tell us how smart we are, we feel constant pressure to be smart.

So that means we kinda freak out if we’re wrong about something, because what if that’s the thing that makes you realize you don’t like us as much as you thought?

3. Saying ‘we’re forever’ is beautiful, but also a lot of pressure. . .

When we hear you say “forever,” we get excited but freak out at the same time. We want forever, too! That’s why we’re with you. But the future is scary as hell.

What if we want the same things now, but don’t in five years? We trust in you and this relationship, but things can change in time.

4. We worry that we’re thinking about you too much. . .

Everything either reminds us of you or is something we want to share with you but the idea that this puppy love has consumed us when we swore we would never, ever be like this, makes us majorly insecure about who we are.

Also, we can’t help but wonder: are you thinking about us as much as we’re thinking about you?

5. You know everything about us, you have all our dirty secrets.

Other than our BFF (who literally can’t judge because we honestly know way too much) no one knows our inner demons and flaws and all that dark twisty shit as much as you do.

So when we let you in, we also let in all this anxiety and wonder that you may judge us. That maybe you think we’re not the “confident” person you thought we were.

We never want you to think we’re fake and definitely never want you to get annoyed that we sometimes just need a vent sesh. Ok, we need to vent a lotta the time, and we’re super insecure about because we know how often we do it.

6. Even when you tell us we’re great in bed . . .

Not all of our sex is great sex, and that’s ok with us. But is it ok with you? Sometimes we wonder if we’re doing something wrong, or if we’re boring in bed.

And sometimes we even wonder if you think we’re too comfortable with each other?

7. Having the money talk. . .

Money sucks, but it’s a necessary part of life. And if our relationships are gonna last, we have to talk about it, as much as we don’t want to.

If you make more money than us, we’ll feel guilty when you pay for things. If we make more money than you, we’ll still feel guilty when you pay for things. Too many relationships end because couples ignore this topic altogether, which makes us want to talk about it no matter how insecure it makes us, no matter how scary it is.

8 Things To Know Before Dating The ‘Picky Girl’

You might think she’s guarded. You might think she’s not worth it if she’s putting you through all of this. But you’re wrong. I’m sure she’s had her heartbroken and I’m sure she’s broken a few hearts of her own. It doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt either way.

When dealing with the ‘picky’ girl, there are just a few things you should know before getting involved:

1. She won’t waste your time

If you’re interested, go for it. However, the thing about the ‘picky’ girl is, she won’t string you along. She won’t lead you on. If she’s not interested in you, she is going to do you a favor and not play with your feelings.

2. She’s independent and always will be. Don’t expect it to change.

She’s always been independent but there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m sure it’ll take some getting used to but don’t think she isn’t going to be there for you. She will need her space and she will want you to have some time to yourself too. Whether that is hanging with your friends or family.

When she wants you around, know it’s for a reason and a good one at that. Don’t take advantage of it.

3. She won’t settle. 

She is looking for her ‘Prince Charming’ or at least someone that makes her feel equivalent to how she thinks he would make her feel. Why? You ask. Well because boys (notice how I use that term appropriately) before you just didn’t live up to the standards. Those standards, well, she will stop at nothing to achieve them. So if you don’t measure up, I’m sure you’ll know.

4. Since she won’t settle, she is a hopeless romantic. 

She might seem like she is easy-going, laid back, and low-maintenance but since she chose you…she’s going to expect a lot from you. Sweet stuff, surprises, romantic dates, etc. You know, like all those corny things guys do in the movies for girls they love? That is the expectation. It might seem silly to you but this is what her standards are. She wants you to fight for her.

5. She doesn’t believe that chivalrous guys still exist. So prove her wrong. 

Do her this favor. Prove yourself. Prove that you’re different than any other guy she ‘talked’ to, dated, hung out with, is friends with, etc. This is why she is picky. She believes that none of you chivalrous guys are still around so, “Why bother?”

6. She’s confident. 

You might think that being independent and being confident are pretty similar. You’re wrong. She knows what kind of girl she is and wants to be. She doesn’t need anyone else to tell her that. So, it is your job to show her that she does need you. Not specifically to make her confident, but in other ways.

So, let her be confident. It is the sexiest thing a girl can wear.

7. She is goal-oriented. So she’ll expect you to be, too. 

There is a bar or ceiling that most people see. However, she goes above and beyond it. She’ll expect that from you. If you’re not goal-oriented or driven, then don’t bother. She can date herself instead if she’s going to have to drag you along with her. 

8. She only believes in relationships that will better herself. 

If the relationship she is in no longer serves her or grows her, she’s gone. There is no convincing her because as far as she is concerned, you’re most likely not going to be in her life.

And sooner or later, she will thank you for that.

8 Things You Need to Know before Dating an Anxious Girl

Loving someone unconditionally through the ups and downs can be extremely challenging. Despite, the challenges of having a strong and balanced relationship it’s even more difficult when you’re dating an anxious girl. Don’t worry, the positives outweigh the negatives, you just have to take the time to understand what’s going on with her.

1. Small areas make them feel panicked and claustrophobic.

NEVER take them someplace where they feel trapped or boxed in. They will definitely have a bitch fit. When anxious girls go outside of their comfort zone their anxiety kicks in almost immediately. So, don’t say I didn’t warn you. Just avoid any intimidating situation and you’ll be golden.

2. She will probably have a mere panic attack before the first date.

Just a heads up, she’ll probably be the girl to knock back two shots before you pick her up to take the edge off. She just wants her anxiety to not be too high before she even steps into your car.

3. Doing the whole waiting game just won’t work with her.

Text or call her as soon as you can before her anxiety gives her a nervous breakdown. She needs extra support and assurance, but that shouldn’t be too much of a hassle. You do love her right?

4. Do everything you can to be there for her, and she will be forever grateful.

The anxious girl always assumes the worst. Try your best to provide constant communication with her, and be upfront about how you truly feel. She’s the one that will assume you got in a car accident, you’re cheating on her, or you could leave her at any time. For your own sake, tell her how it is, and don’t leave her guessing. She’s already having ‘what if’ thoughts. If you are there for her when she needs you, there’s not a doubt in my mind that she will be head over heels for you.

5. Trying new things is a big step for her.

Be patient and kind. There are a lot of thoughts going through her head. She needs comfort and a promise that it will be okay. There are times where she won’t want to do something because she feels uncomfortable. At the end of the day, it will be more rewarding when she takes a chance at something new. Just give it time.

6. You’ll probably wait around for her to get ready. A LOT.

She is going to be deciding on what to wear to dinner for hours. Give this girl a heads up. A surprise date is completely off the table. If you really value how she feels, your compliments will make her feel beautiful and she will stop stressing about how she looks.

7. She’s always uptight, but for that reason, she keeps it classy.

You won’t have to worry about her being the sloppy drunk. She’s always on point with what she does. She values her morals and wants to be good enough. A girl like her is one to keep around because even though she worries way TOO much, she wants the best for you and her.

8. On an even better note, when she loves you, she whole-heartedly does.

You know that this girl has thought out every aspect of her relationship with you. When she says she is in love with you, she really means it. She’s probably already received advice from ALL her friends and family about you. If you’re still her boyfriend, you will know that things are working out between you and her. And boy, if she introduces you to her family and friends, you are the one she wants to keep.

Dating an anxious girl is a challenge. If you find one you care about, it’s entirely worth it.

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