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Letting Go of Your Deadbeat Baby Daddy

You can go weeks without talking to your kids.  My whole day is off if they are away from me.

You prefer to spend your weekends drinking and clubbing.  I prefer family fun nights.

You show your status by brand name clothes, fancy electronics, and expensive cars.  I show my status by working hard and trying to be a good mom.

You think money is power.  I think education is power.

We both think we are successful.  We are both happy with our different lives.

I’m wasting time being sad for you and what you are missing out on.  You aren’t sad.  You are experiencing the things you want to experience.

I’m wasting my time hating you because you want different things in life.  Hating you isn’t keeping you from doing what you enjoy doing.

My bad feelings toward you affect my heart, not yours.

I don’t like the choices you’ve made or the person you’ve become.  I especially don’t like the pain you have caused.

With a smile on my face and tears in my eyes, I’m letting my hatred go.

I’m done.  Done hoping and praying.  Done believing things will change.  I’m letting my feelings go and accepting you for exactly who you are.  I won’t expect any more from you than what you have been willing to give.

Do what makes you happy.  Be with who makes you smile.  Live the life that you love.

I hope as the years go by and your kids grow up that you have no regrets.

My only regret is that I didn’t let you go sooner.

 

To The Fearless Girls Who Had The Strength To Break-Up With Their Toxic Dad

A Fearless Girl And Her Toxic Dad

Dads…Who needs them? All girls do but unfortunately, yours didn’t fit the bill as ‘world’s best dad’ and you had no choice but to gather up your ‘daddy’s little princess’ dreams and kicked the toxic bastard to the curb.

It hurt, stung and burned your soul, but you must trust that it’s the best decision you ever made and that you’re going to kick ass at living  life without your dad.

Whether it was because of emotional or physical abuse, the dude failed at his fundamental job to unconditionally love, protect and nurture you.

 

It must be clear that his toxic lack of effort and ability to love is not your fault. It doesn’t have to define you or haunt and shape your capacity to love and receive love.

Your resilient heart has come this far, you made the conscious choice to separate yourself from his toxic influence, and that along has already set you up for a better mañana.

Yes, it’s a great loss, probably one of the hardest break-ups you have to endure, but it has also shown your inner strength and the power you have to fight for the love that you warrant. Cheer up, you’re a self-made badass!

 

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