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5 Signs You’re a Unicorn Person Who Everybody Loves

Ok, so not everyone in the world is actually going to like you, we all know that. But there are people out there whose luminous hearts attract others like magnets.

We don’t try to, it just happens. And if you’re reading this, I’m guessing you’re one of us and:

1. You don’t have a mean bone in your body, honestly.

If people have a problem with you, it’s probably because of a mistake you made rather than you being a terrible person.

2. You try to dislike those who aren’t on good terms with your besties, but you can’t get past the fact that “they haven’t done me wrong.”

3. You’re not acting nice because you’re afraid people won’t like you otherwise.

This is just who you are.

4. You’re constantly being told you’re easy to talk to.

Sometimes people are thrown off by how easily they let you in. You listen well and are incredibly trustworthy, and it shows.

5. People tell you that you’re different from most people they’ve met but they can’t quite figure out why.

6. You can make friends anywhere!

In an elevator, a bar bathroom, a grocery store, you name it.

7. You feel humbled by your ability to accept people for who they are and not their past.

8. Your intuitive instinct helps you uncover the real person behind the masks people tend to put on.

9. You have high emotional intelligence.

You watch and listen intently and are able to detect a person’s emotional state fairly easily. If you really know someone, you can tell when something is off and you know how to use that information appropriately.

10. You know how to fake your way through small talk like the pro you are.

11. Others constantly confuse your kindness with a romantic interest.

“No, I don’t want to go home with you – I was just being nice. I know that’s hard to find these days but c’mon.”

12. When someone gets close enough to open up to you but doesn’t stick around long enough to create any sort of friendship, you feel hurt and used.

13. When heavy stuff is dropped on you, you take a while to process it.

14. You can be a little naive about others and their motives.

15. No matter what, you love who you are.

You love being open, letting people in, and making an impact on their lives because you know they won’t forget about you.

Why We Desperately Need To Stop Telling Guys To ‘Man Up’

Feelings. They are not unfamiliar to us and in fact, everyone harbors them. Some showcase their feelings more than others, but we cannot deny that we have them even if we tried. As human beings that we are, we hold a special ability in which we are able to fabricate emotions. Sensitivity is a beautiful trait to hold because it makes you well..human. It’s just the nature of things.

So why is it totally acceptable to tell any man he should “man up” when they let their feelings be known? Generally speaking, why should anyone withhold from having any emotions?

As we grow up into our own personas, we tend to be shown that only girls are able to cry and be sensitive, while guys should never show their feelings. Hence, crying is not an option and being afraid is out of the question. If they do happen to show even an ounce of any of said acts, then they are automatically labelled as being p*ssies and too feminine. Well, lemme tell you how much bullsh*t that is.

As a society, we have done a great job in shining light on very important problems in the world like body image, mental illnesses, sexist mindsets, etc. Just as how women are able to become the victim of all those problems, men can too. But, they are so often afraid to share their stories in fear of being labelled weak. They should be able to openly share it without fearing the status of their masculinity. Why? Well because men are just as human as women are.

Taking that into consideration, why can’t both genders equally display their emotions without one of them being criticized? Valuing a man who cannot fathom the notion of any type of sensibility is not cute. In other words, it’s not cute to tell any man to “man up.”

Making a man completely trash his emotions just makes for a frustrated male. A frustrated male who has been told to bottle up his feelings and adopt the typical macho man persona. What good does that do to our world? Other than not being able to develop any sort of empathy or sensitivity to be able to relate to others, nothing. Just a typical socially accepted emotionally disconnected guy. Cue the F*ck Boy.

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How Implementing ‘5×5’ Rule Will Actually Change Your F*cked Up Life

In your 20s and 30s, you’re going to go through a lot of changes and trials – it’s only natural. You’re growing up, you’re moving out, you’re falling in and out of love and you’re trying to find your place in this messed up place we call “the world.” Inevitably, you’re going to be faced with a lot of challenges that hit you in the face like a brick – they hurt, they’re painful and sometimes you have no idea how to deal with them. Recently, I’ve been going through most of these myself and, I’ve been dealing with them the absolute wrong way. Wrong, in the sense that the way in which I deal with them helps no one – especially myself.

My sister, who is way more experienced in life and chock-full of more wisdom than a fortune cookie, gave me some pretty solid advice after I ran to her apartment in tears over my latest f*ck up. After I had finally relaxed and vented my guts up, she told me about something called the “5×5 rule.”

If it’s not going to matter in 5 years, don’t spend more than 5 minutes upset about it.

Now, it may sound pretty cliché and “typical” for someone to give advice like this, and, it seems like a cheesy quote pulled from Pinterest (because it was), but, this rule is actually pretty damn effective if you apply it in the long run.

1. It will help you find perspective.

If you’re like me, you get emotional at the sight of a problem or argument in your life – with friends, family or relationships. I always get pretty upset in arguments with my boyfriend and my friends, so much so that it clouds my judgment and I act out. I say things I don’t mean, sometimes I do things I shouldn’t. If you think about the situation at hand and ask yourself “will this really matter to me later,” it can give you the perspective you need to chill out and just breathe.

2. There are better ways to handle things.

Instead of screaming or fighting with someone over something that may not be as big of a deal as you think, you can realize that this issue is something that can be easily worked out. Knowing it’s not a make-or-break problem can help you ease into a conversation, rather than having a blow-out fight.

3. Some things don’t deserve your attention.

Petty drama and stupid mishaps don’t require your attention. Know when things are “worth it” and things aren’t. And, if someone repeatedly does the same thing over and over again, know when you should do something about it.

4. You’ll realize the bigger problems much earlier on.

Once you implement the 5×5 rule, you’ll start seeing things a lot clearer – especially your problems. In whatever relationship, whether it’s a friendship or romantic relationship, you’ll know what problems are actually problems. And, when the time comes, you’ll know what needs to be done.

5. You’ll be a much happier person.

Overall, when you learn to manage your reactions to things, you’ll become a happier person. Long gone are the days when little things bothered you all of the time, you felt slighted or upset by other people and you were walking around with an angry cloud over your head. Instead, you’ll see things in the long-run and how the pettiness of today will not matter in 5 years, so why waste the now?

Tumblr User Brilliantly Explains Why Men Need Emotional Support In Relationships Just As Much As Women

In society, there’s an unspoken norm that in relationships it’s women who need emotional support and encouragement, not men. Often, people believe women are the ones who need to be complimented, loved, surprised, and nurtured–and men just get by on their own, happy to just be there.
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