Wearing Your Boyfriend’s Clothes Boosts Mental Health, So Stealing His Hoodie Is Officially Self-Care

Boyfriend Jean… literally,

If you’re one of those girls who love the comfort of wearing your boyfriend’s oversized clothes, then you should know that there’s more to it than looking hella cute while enjoying the way your guy smells. A new study suggests that wearing your boyfriend’s clothes such as an oversized button-down shirt or college hoodie can be beneficial to your sanity, especially when your guy’s far away. Yes, turns out, your guy’s not just good for your heart but also your mental health, so stealing his hoodie is officially self-care.

The University of British Colombia conducted a study using 96 participating couples. The data was gathered as followed: Men were asked to wear new t-shirts for a period of 24 hours, under a set of guidelines that would prevent them from altering their scent. The t-shirts were then collected and frozen to preserve their scent and then given randomly to the women to smell. Not all women were able to smell their partner’s shirt which helped control biases.

Ready for the results…drum roll!

 

1. Your guy’s scent could make you zen.

Results gathered by the group of women who were given their boyfriend’s clothes to smell showed that having close access to your partner’s scent as in “wearing their clothes’ lowers the amount of the stress hormone cortisol in the brain. In short, these women were less stressed.

“Our findings suggest that a partner’s scent alone, even without their physical presence, can be a powerful tool to help reduce stress.”  – UBC Department of Psychology

 

2. You can miss your guy and soothe your heart at the same time.

“Many people wear their partner’s shirt or sleep on their partner’s side of the bed when their partner is away, but may not realize why they engage in these behaviors,” said UBC department of psychology grad student and the study’s lead author, Marlise Hofer.

Well, now we know and we’re loving it!

According to the results in this study, if our loved one is not around, we can assume that the next best thing would be to cozy up in one of your boyfriend’s clothes until you get the real thing. Because, although it might not be the real thing, but it can definitely give you the comfort that you need until they’re back.

On the other hand, there are other interesting findings in the study…

 

3. Another guy’s scent could have the opposite of a stress-free effect.

Not that you’re looking to wear some other guy’s shirt but in case you’re wondering. Results gathered by the group of women who didn’t get to smell their partner’s shirts indicated an elevation in the stress hormone cortisol in their brain. Researchers believe that ‘fear of the unknown played a big role in making these group of women more stressed.

“From a young age, humans fear strangers, especially strange males, so it is possible that a strange male scent triggers the ‘fight or flight response that leads to elevated cortisol. This could happen without us being fully aware of it”

 

4. Girls have a new way to tell their guys how much they want them by their side.

Sounds corny but hey, you love your guy and now science’s on your side. Next time he rolls his eyes when he catches you grabbing his bottom-down shirt to wear around the house, let him know that his scent puts you in a good mood and also makes you less prone to give him shit about him going away for a few days.

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To the Guy Who Claimed I Was ‘The One’, Our Future is Cancelled

If you would’ve asked me back then who I thought I would be with for the rest of my life, hands down I would have never second-guessed my answer.

If you would have told me that same day that the man I thought was meant for me, and I was meant for, would cheat on me with his awful ex, I would have told you that you were crazy.

 

We used to spend all day doing everything together, cooking, studying, taking naps, trying new food, new wines, everything. I would never have thought that when I left my classes early and took that 4-hour drive to surprise you that I would see what I saw. That I would find the two of you in our bed, in our apartment.

 

I would never have thought that you would try to fix your mistake by proposing to me, begging me to stay because you messed up and you knew it. I would never have thought that someone I could love with all my heart would do something so terrible to me. That I would even witness the entire scene.

 

I definitely would never have believed that you would try to make me stay with you after what you did.

 

You claimed I was the one and only girl for you, but you had no problem going out with her and seeing a movie, and then dinner, and then hooking up with her.You had no problem hooking up with her in our apartment. In our bed.

 

A better man would have had the decency to do that in her apartment. Hell, a better man wouldn’t have done it at all. You could have had the decency to end it with me. And you could have had the balls to tell me I wasn’t what you wanted anymore.

 

You told me I was the one and only, so why did you do something like that to me? To us?We talked about everything; kids, marriage, buying a house together. I helped you through school, financially and emotionally. Did she do that?

 

And the funny part is, after years you still try to see what I am doing. You still want to know if I miss you. I’ll clear it up for you. I don’t miss you, and I don’t love you anymore.

 

I stopped loving you the day I saw you with her. Knowing that I wasn’t what you wanted, wasn’t enough for you, made me realize how much of a fool I was for believing that I was the girl for you.

 

I hope that in the future you find the girl who really is meant for you, that she helps you through everything, finding a job now that you are done with school, buying and fixing up a house. Everything.

 

There were highs and lows in our relationship, but the lowest is what you did. 

I hope that you realize that no girl or woman deserves to see what you let me see. And I hope that one day you realize how much you messed up, and never repeat history.

I hope that you realize I would have given you the world and then some.

Letting Go of Your Deadbeat Baby Daddy

You can go weeks without talking to your kids.  My whole day is off if they are away from me.

You prefer to spend your weekends drinking and clubbing.  I prefer family fun nights.

You show your status by brand name clothes, fancy electronics, and expensive cars.  I show my status by working hard and trying to be a good mom.

You think money is power.  I think education is power.

We both think we are successful.  We are both happy with our different lives.

I’m wasting time being sad for you and what you are missing out on.  You aren’t sad.  You are experiencing the things you want to experience.

I’m wasting my time hating you because you want different things in life.  Hating you isn’t keeping you from doing what you enjoy doing.

My bad feelings toward you affect my heart, not yours.

I don’t like the choices you’ve made or the person you’ve become.  I especially don’t like the pain you have caused.

With a smile on my face and tears in my eyes, I’m letting my hatred go.

I’m done.  Done hoping and praying.  Done believing things will change.  I’m letting my feelings go and accepting you for exactly who you are.  I won’t expect any more from you than what you have been willing to give.

Do what makes you happy.  Be with who makes you smile.  Live the life that you love.

I hope as the years go by and your kids grow up that you have no regrets.

My only regret is that I didn’t let you go sooner.

 

7 Signs You And Your Partner Should Definitely Breakup

You probably clicked on this article for two reasons. One is that you think this is click bait and I have zero clue about what I’m talking about and are looking to troll me and my relationship advice for the entire Internet to see. Two is that you’re in a relationship where you are unhappy or borderline unhappy and want to know if it’s just you that’s feeling this way. If it’s reason one – go home. If it’s reason two – you’re not alone.

I was in several long-term relationships in my life where I overstayed my welcome. Sometimes, there are warning signs and red flags that are right in front of your face – waving in thin air – but you stay because you don’t want to lose something special – comfort. Far too long, people stay in relationships they are severely unhappy in because of being comfortable and, the fear of being alone. For these two reasons, we find ourselves settling – wondering what else is out there and is there someone better suited for me – and yet, we may lose opportunities to meet those someones because we are suffering in our own despair.

There are a lot of tell-tale signs that point to a relationship ending, but, some people don’t want to face the truth. But, when it’s there, there’s no denying it.

1. You’ve lost that loving feeling.

Sure, I just took song lyrics and made it a point – but it’s actually true. When you look at your partner and no longer smile right away or feel that “overcome with emotion” sensation – chances are, you’re falling out of love with them. You want to look at them less and when they come home from work – it’s just “whatever.” The more you fall out of love, the less love you will feel. We all know how it feels to look at someone we are in love with. We laugh, we get giddy, we smile and we become hot and bothered (sometimes). But, when you feel indifferent towards them, you’re going to begin to resent them eventually. Their qualities you once loved will become flaws and sooner or later – you’ll hate yourself for not ending it.

15 Reasons Getting A Dog Is Better Than Getting A Boyfriend

Think you want a boyfriend? Well, maybe you do. But have you ever considered that you what you really want is a dog?

Hear me out: boyfriends can be great. They’re nice to sometimes have around. Sometimes you might even love them. But they can be problematic. They don’t always do the stuff we want them to do or pay attention to us like we hoped they would.

Dogs don’t always do what we want, either, but there’s no denying that they love us like nothing else in the whole world. They’re about as near to perfect as creatures can get. They always try their hardest to please us, and their only real drawback is that they don’t stick around as long as we want them to, which would be forever. A dog such as a cavapoos would be your true loyal partner.

So if you’re actively pursuing getting a boyfriend, stop and think about it for a few minutes. Do you want a guy around, or do you just need the awesome love of a dog? If you visit Dogbreedo.com they have listed some of the most popular dog breeds you can consider. From Retrievers to German Shepards you can find your perfect and budget-friendly dog which we are sure will be a better option than having a boyfriend!  Check out these 15 pervasive reasons that dogs, on the whole, are way better than boyfriends.

1. Dogs are always happy to see you.

2. Dogs don’t complain.

3. Dogs never lie.

4. A dog never comes home from a bad day at work looking to fight with you over some nonsense.

5. A dog will never cheat on you by secretly having another owner.

6. Dogs will never say anything mean to you and they always think those jeans look great on you.

7. A dog will never get drunk and embarrass you.

8. Conversely, a dog is not embarrassed by you when you are embarrassingly drunk.

9. Some dogs—not all, but some very, very good dogs—will happily wear whatever adorable sweater you choose to put them in. Boyfriends, not so much.

10. Dogs never cancel on you.

11. Dogs are wonderful listeners.

12. Dogs always appreciate your cooking.

13. Dogs don’t judge you for laying around in your pajamas all day. In fact, they’re usually more than happy to join you.

14. The worst thing a boyfriend can do is betray you. The worst thing a dog can do is maybe get into the trash. Really puts it into perspective.

15. Dogs look at you like you’re the most important person in the world, because to them, you are.

This Girl Invited Her Ex-Boyfriend To Her Wedding And His RSVP Takes Petty To A Whole New Level

When you think of your wedding guest list, you don’t always think you’re going to invite your ex-boyfriend to the “most important day of your life,” where you marry another man.
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People Reveal The Pettiest Thing Their Ex Has Ever Done And It’ll Have You Swear Off Dating Forever

Breakups can be hard for everyone involved sometimes. Other times, one person is hurt way worse than the other. When this happens, whoever gets hurt the worst wants to get sweet, sweet revenge on the person who broke their heart. While physical violence is frowned upon in society, and no one wants to go to jail, the next best thing is to be absolutely petty. What’s a better way to get back at someone who hurt you than by stealing something, breaking something, or constantly reminding them how much of an awful person they are? People online shared the pettiest things their ex has ever done for “revenge” after a breakup and the responses will really make you thankful for never having to date any of these savage souls.

thedoctorismyparabatai:

My ex-husband gave me back my KitchenAid mixer but kept all the attachments.

techdumay:

Stole and used checks on my name,
sold my TV via facebook- all while i was moving out.

But her grand finale must be waiting for me outside my doorstep, on my birthday, with a wrapped dildo in her hand.

Two years after we broke up!

While i was living with my new girlfriend!

humdrumdummydum:

About a month after I moved out of my exs place he told me to come pick up some mail. As I was leaving work I told him I’d be there in 15 minutes, and he said he’d be home.

I texted him that I’d arrived and after a few minutes knocked on the door to be let in by the roommate who directed me to the back room. I walk in to him fucking a stripper he’d recently made his girlfriend, bent over a desk I’d built him. I waited for them to dress so he could give me my mail, because he wouldnt just tell me where to find it. As soon as he handed it to me I began to walk out, and he persued me saying things like “hey don’t you wanna talk?” And “come back! How have you been?”. I just said “youre disgusting” and got in my car.

Four months to the day of our breakup, he married the stripper, and is currently in the process of getting divorced. That relationship was a mistake, for sure.

thegirlnamedisla:

After I broke up with my first high school boyfriend, he left messages on my desk with misspelled words and incorrect grammar, knowing how irritated I would be, as it was (and still is) one of my biggest pet peeves.

gr8fulde4d420:

Moved out while I was at work one day. Took my cat, and had him put to sleep. It was petty to her.

To My Ex’s Mom, Thanks For Your Kindness

Your son and I had a special relationship and I will always consider it an amazing chapter in my life. Part of how great it was is the fact that you welcomed me into your family and made me feel like one of your own. You were far from the typical mom who doesn’t like any of their son’s girlfriends. Not you, you genuinely liked me, so it was definitely an added bonus to the already special relationship your son and I had.

You were non-judgmental, nice and treated me like a daughter.

You supported me, always looked out for me, and truly cared about me. Also, you always went out of your way to make sure I was okay, even after your son and I decided to put an end to the relationship.

The breakup was hard, but I think it was harder for me because I not only had to part ways with your son but also with everything related to him, including his mom. I understand that the dynamic of our relationship has to change, it’s just how it works. Even if your son and I decide to continue being friends down the line, it wouldn’t make sense for me now to be around like I used to.

I’m truly going to miss you.

Our long conversations about life, your stories and especially your good advice. You always knew the right things to say to me and I’m so grateful for all the knowledge that you were always so willing to share with me.

I hope you know that regardless of how my relationship with your son evolves in the future, I still have the same love and respect for you.

I’m extremely grateful for all the guidance that you’ve provided me with while I was around and for your infinite kindness.

Thank you for welcoming me into your family and for also being so understanding throughout the process of your son and I breaking up.

I know that if we ever cross each other’s path, you will greet me with a big smile and a big hug, that’s how amazing you are and that’s why the love and respect that  I have for you will never change.

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Hey Douchebag, Stop Popping Up When It’s Convenient For You

I’m having the best day ever, and BAM! You creep into my messages with pathetic excuses and more bullshit lies.

Stop! Stop contacting me when it’s convenient for you. I don’t have the time or patience. You’re sounding like a broken record. It’s getting old.

You don’t miss me. You don’t love me. You don’t even want me. You’re just sitting around realizing how badly you messed up. The silence of an empty house and life is catching up with you.

Where were you when I wanted and needed you? Where were you when I wanted to be together? You were too caught up in your games to see the actual picture.

The reality is setting in that I’m not there anymore. I got tired of being there at your convenience, dropping everything because I cared. Because you were all I wanted. Because I thought I was what you wanted too.

Don’t text me with your problems and feelings. That door has closed. And that’s your own damn fault. You only have yourself to blame for pushing away the one person who had your back always.

Don’t try to use guilt or manipulate my feelings in order to get your way. I don’t need your drama or your narcissistic comments anymore. You should have thought of that before you tried to destroy me.

I don’t rely on you or your love. I never needed you for anything, I only wanted you for the person I fell for. I thought you were who you claimed to be. But the person I thought you were was all a lie, and our love was a lie.

You’re NOT the man I met or loved.

So stop with the selfish shit and reaching out to me only because no one else is around, or because you feel alone. Don’t get caught up in feelings and memory lane because you’re drunk.

You didn’t want me then, and you sure aren’t going to have me now.

Open Thank You Letter to My Ex Boyfriend

“I have come to realize that there is nothing lovely about having to continuously convince someone to love you.” -S.L.

After sitting here and thinking about everything, all I have left to say is “thank you.”

For awhile I hated myself. I couldn’t help but question everything that I had ever done wrong that would make you leave. This left me broken and unfixable. I would keep asking myself if there was anything I could do to fix us and it kept me lingering.

I didn’t want to wait for you to love me, but that’s all I could do. You left me stranded and I couldn’t get over it. You were a part of my life for so long and I didn’t know how to let go.

Then one day, I woke up. It was sort of like waking up from a dream. I finally was able to see our relationship from the outside. I realized how toxic our relationship really was. It was always one thing after another and we were never entirely happy.

All I could do was hate you. It felt like you ripped my heart out, stomped on it, and set it on fire. It felt like you intentionally wanted to cause me pain and I never expected that to come from you.

But as time has passed and life has moved on, all I can do is thank you. Thank you for not loving me. Thank you for breaking my heart time and time again. Thank you for letting me go. Thank you for not realizing my worth. Thank you for taking all of my love for granted.

Thank you. As I sit here and think of all of the amazing things that have happened since you left, all I can do is smile. I’ve learned so much about myself and I love who I am. I will never hate myself the way you made me. One day, when the right man comes along, I will know what it is like to feel loved and appreciated no matter what.

I will never hate you. I will forever be thankful for the relationship we had and the things I learned. Now it’s time for me to let go.

Sincerely,

The girl you let go.

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