The Pros and Cons of Matchmaking Services Over Online Dating

If you are interested in meeting your match, there are services to help you. Generally speaking, you can choose between online dating and matchmaking services. Here are some pros and cons of matchmaking services compared with online dating to help you make your decision.

Matchmaking Pros

Here are just some of the reasons that a matchmaking service is better than an online dating service.

– Best Matches

A matchmaker will be able to find the best matches for you. That’s because they take the time to get to know each candidate. They know the candidate’s personality, likes, and interests. They also have similar algorithms to online dating that allow them to match you based on a variety of factors. They add a personal touch to the algorithm that provides even better matches.

– Time Saving

Many people are too busy to date. That’s why they are going to a matchmaking service in the first place. A matchmaker will do the leg work for you. They will go through all of the matches and screen them for you. This will save you a lot of time that you can use to look yoru best for your first date.

– Wingman/Wingwoman

With online dating, you are your own wing person. You can build yourself up in your profile, but that’s not always as effective as you’d like. Your matchmaker will be a wingman or wingwoman for you to your date. Everyone likes to hear another person’s opinions. Your matchmaker will build you up in ways you can’t do on your own so that your potential match is excited going into the date.

– Professional

When you choose matchmakers like Yvonne Allen, you are picking a professional who has years of experience in the field of matchmaking. She has seen it all and made successful matches for even the most difficult clients. She also has a background in psychology, so her insights are deeper than any algorithm can ever get.

– Exclusive

Only a certain caliber of person can afford matchmaking services. These people are also probably not looking for a one night stand if they are going through the effort of going through a matchmaking service. They could go to Tinder for that.

Matchmaking Cons

Here are some of the reasons that a person may choose to go with an online dating service instead of a matchmaking service.

– Expensive

You have to pay for quality results. That’s why there will be a significant expense when you get a matchmaking service. The fees go to the time it takes to match you with the best person and all of the tools required to do this. Now, the best online dating services cost a significant amount as well, and they don’t provide the same personal touch.

– Fewer Prospects

Online dating allows you to choose from a large pool of potential mates. Less people go with a matchmaking service, so there may be fewer prospects. However, the number of prospects shouldn’t matter. Your matchmaker should be able to find the right person after just a couple of tries.

– No Guarantee

Unfortunately, love cannot be guaranteed. When you choose to go with a matchmaking service, you need to realize that results may vary. However, the more open you are to the experience, the more likely you will find the right person.

There are so many reasons to go with a matchmaker over online dating services. Ultimately, it comes down to quality. A matchmaker provides better quality than online dating. You are more likely to find a higher quality match that has the same end goal as you.

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With You, I’m The Happiest I’ve Ever Been And So In Love

Our Love Story

Our love story had all the makings of a fairy tale romance. I fell for you so fast and saw my happy ending in every moment spent with you.

Loving you just made sense. It wasn’t a choice, it was the only option.

It definitely wasn’t something I’d planned for, but it was second nature to fall with fierce abandon. It was so easy, effortless.

My heart had chosen you.

Falling in love with you was out of my control, but I do have a say in what happens next. And I will choose to stay in love with you through everything this life throws at us.

I will choose you through every heartbreak, every speed bump. I will choose you through the unpredictable and the unimaginable.

Because if we’re being honest, when we picture our happily ever after, we picture falling in love. We think of days of happiness and infatuation, not the rough parts or negatives.

I have no idea what the negatives of our picture perfect life will look like.

And, I don’t care. Because the negatives are still gonna be the picture I always envisioned: you and me.

As long as it’s us at the end of each day, I will continue to love you. I will continue to put you first.

I will always cherish our relationship for its imperfections because what we have is real and a work that will forever be in progress.

As beautiful as falling in love is, it is fleeting. It happens quickly, without warning and without the promise of any resolution.

But, I promise permanence. I promise persistence. And I promise that falling in love was just the beginning for us.

When Both Race and Long Distance Are Challenging Your Love

I’ve gone through many relationships: the toxic relationship, the unfaithful relationship, a user relationship, an in-a relationship but not and an abusive relationship. I’ve experienced those relationships with my Filipino Ex-boyfriends before. I’ve been cheated, used, emotionally abused and so on.

I even got to the point of giving up on those damn relationshits! My friends calls me stupid for forgiving my cheater boyfriend and get back to him after our so called break-up. My sister calls me crazy for being “okay” with my emotionally abusive boyfriend. And my cousins calls me a piece of shit for accepting my user boyfriend after saying how “sorry and stupid” he was for choosing the other girl instead of me when I was there all along. I’m a total crap. I know!

But I’m human too. I gets tired. I loses hope and eventually gives up. But why would I give up? If there’s this someone new who keeps your heart skips a beat again? How would I give up if someone recharges my drained heart? How would I say no if someone keeps me genuinely happy again? How would I take a step back if he keeps running unto me and dragging me to my present and made me think of my future with him?

He’s honest and sweet. He makes me smile in his own simple way even if he didn’t know it. He even took time to get to know my family even if we live thousands of miles away from each other and we came from a different race. It’s a Long Distance Relationship indeed! But it didn’t hinder us to get to know and love each other.

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I Still Hope It’s You and Me in the End

“I knew right away that you were it for me. There were no reservations or second thoughts. I saw you and in an instant knew in my bones, my soul had known your soul lifetimes ago.” Beau Taplin

Never in my life did I ever think that I’d meet someone that I would click with from the start. From the moment that I met you something in my gut told me that you were different.

You were my person. You were the reason why I had to go through what I went through. You were the prize at the finish line of an incredibly painful race.

From the start you reminded me of what it was like to feel again, you reminded me of my love for music and photography. You got my weird and joined in on it without a single second of hesitation. You don’t come across that often.

To be completely honest though, I didn’t want to fall. I didn’t want to get attached. I didn’t want to believe that it was you that I’d been waiting on for so long. I was terrified to get hurt again. But with every moment I got to spend with you I let my guard down.

I let myself be vulnerable to you. I felt something that I didn’t think I’d ever be able to feel again, and it was the happiest I’d been in a really long time.

I think that’s where I went wrong. I let you in too quickly. I scared you, and you ran.

You see, I have a rule that I keep everyone at arm’s length because they always seem to leave just as I let them in. But I broke my rule for you, I let you in and you proved to me why no one gets close to me.

You broke my heart and I don’t even know where to go from here. My soul and your soul, I still believe are old friends.

My gut is never wrong; I still think that you’re different. I still think that you and I belong together. I don’t think you meant to hurt me.

I think you started to feel what I felt and it scared you as much as it scared me. But you took your hobby to a whole other level and ran far and fast.

My hope is that one day our paths will cross again, and I hope that this time you’ll have the courage to stay.

You Will Find Love Again

Sometimes it happens. Out of no where… You just fall in love. I never thought I would love again. But I did and I’m so glad I did. Eight months ago I was in the worst position possible. My children’s father was doing anything possible to get high. DSS was called.

I went from from hiding my kids in a closet to comfortably sleeping with them in a bed. I met the love of my life 6 months ago. It was my brothers friend. He turned into my best friend. I would do absolutely anything for him.

8 months ago I was living four hours away. Trapped in a situation I never believed I would be in. Four hours away from my whole family and all my friends. I had no one besides my kids. I was living with their father but I was still all alone. I was the only one providing. I would go on grocery trips alone with three kids, doctors appointments, and I was the only one who would take them to do anything.

It just wasn’t fair to me to be with a man who did absolutely nothing. I was never physically abused but I was definitely in some emotional torture. One morning I came to the realization that he always hid his pants from from the night before tucked under the bed. So I decided to pull out his pants pockets to see what he was hiding. A big bag of white powder. It looked like glass. I did some research on the internet and sure enough he had like 300 dollars worth of methamphetamine. We got kicked out of the house we were living in and moved in with his friend. Not even three weeks later DSS was knocking on our door. I was so afraid I told all the kids to get in the closet and we pretended we were not there.

The next few days of my life I lived in pure fear. I was completely sober its not ok for my kids to get taken from me when Im doing everything in my power to make sure my kids were safe, they were always fed and taken care of. I would be devastated even spending one day away from my kids. What if they got taken away? They would be traumatized. I would be traumatized. Four days later I made the call.. I had my aunt come pick us up and I haven’t been back since. A few days later I got a call from a correctional facility, he had been locked up.

On the way back to my hometown, I was so hurt. I kept thinking how much I was going to miss him, how much my kids were going to miss him. How heart broken they were going to be to no longer have their father in their lives. I kept thinking who would ever want a single mother with three kids.

We got home, got settled and life did move on even though I didn’t think it would. One day my brother and cousin and sister in law kept trying to get me to hang on with this guy that they knew really well. I had never met him, so I kept brushing it off. I didn’t want to meet someone and fall for someone who would just leave me or feel like my kids were a burden. I was starting to feel so lonely. The kids were driving me mad. My mom agreed to keep the kids one night so I could go out for the night and relax, just take a break.

I ended up at my brothers house with my brother and sister in law and a few friends. The guy that they had been trying to get me to hang out with had texted and asked what I was up to. Everyone kept telling me to just let him come over. Of course I said no. Then started thinking, why not? Maybe nothing would ever come of it, he would be the first guy I hung out with since leaving. Who cares if nothing came of it Id be ok, but I was just so nervous After a couple glasses of wine, to chill my nerve LOL I decided to text back. I told him where I was and asked if he wanted to hang out. It took him a few minutes to respond and my heart was pounding! He responded with, “I’m on the way.” I instantly regretted telling him to come over because I was so afraid and nervous.

When he texted me and asked me for the gate code I knew this was real. I was about to hang out with someone else for the first time in 6 years. I was so overwhelmed I locked myself in the room with the cat hahah! Took me about fifteen minutes to come out that room. I was so shy and my heart was beating in over drive. He was so smiley! So cute and oh so sweet. I was sure it was a front. He asked me to ride to the gas station with him so I did and we talked. We shared our first kiss that night! I will remember that kiss for the rest of my life. He was unlike any one I had ever met. But I was still sure it was just a front.

We went on a few dates after that night. He was so much fun, so kind, the type to open the door! Never had I met a guy to open the door for me. I started to fall, and fall hard. 6 months later this guy is my best friend. He is for sure the love of my life. The way he treats my kids is absolutely amazing. He takes us places, he buys them things, I get roses and least twice a month. He would never let us go without. I watched him dance with my kids at a wedding the other day, it was absolutely breath taking.

I know there are probably plenty of single mothers out there afraid to take a chance, afraid to love again, afraid to find them selves heart broken over and over again. Please, please don’t stay bottled up in your emotions. It may not work out the first time, or the second, or the tenth, but there are good men out there, I have one. My kids didn’t deserve the lives they use to live and neither did I. We deserve the life we are living now. No more hiding in closets, no more asking why Daddy dont love us. Now we have unconditional love!

He will never know how thankful I am for him. He will never know how happy I am he walked into our lives. He will never know how much I love him. Thank you. Thank you for everything. Thank you for being my best friend and the best father to our kids.

Why You Should Never Settle

“There are no half measures in love, only all or nothing. And if it doesn’t make you tremble and go mad at the very thought of its absence, you should move on.”

~Beau Taplin // Move On

I think we’ve all let this world turn us a little bit bitter towards love.

I think we need to fight for the love we want. The take your breath away, butterflies in you belly kind of love. Nowadays people settle. We settle for mediocre.

It’s bullshit.

I want a love so passionate that I can’t think straight, I want a love that will consume me. I want to wake up every single day with you on my mind.

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This is What it Truly Means to Give Your Heart to The Right Person

“If I’ve only done one thing right in my life, it was when I gave my heart to you.”

When I met you, I just couldn’t resist my feelings for you.

I couldn’t resist your sweet smile, your gentle kisses, and the way you looked deep into my eyes with such sincerity that I had never seen or felt before. You broke through my walls faster and easier than I ever thought was possible, but I’m so glad you did.

If I’ve only done one thing right in my life, it was when I gave my heart to you.

It may have taken me awhile to fully express my feelings for you (I knew I was in love with you long before I ever told you), but the best thing I’ve ever done for myself was open up my heart to you.

I can’t imagine my life without you in it. Every dream I have for my life revolves around you. I can’t wait to stand next to you at the altar. And in a gorgeous white dress, promising to love you for the rest of my life. I can’t wait to buy our first home together, or to lay in that hospital bed as the nurse hands you our newborn baby.

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51 Phrases That Prove He Loves You Before He Drops the L-Bomb

He Loves You. Let’s Count The Ways

Every single person is unique in their own way and that is the same for the way they express love. Sometimes, the little things are the big things in disguise.

Text me when you get home so that I know you’re safe.

Talking to you is my favorite part of the day.

Drive safe.

I love spending time with you.

Can I call you?

I just wanted to hear your voice.

And I need you by my side.

I respect you

And I am a better person because of you.

How was your day?

Be careful.

Have you eaten today?

I miss you.

Can I see you?

I appreciate you.

I’m here for you.

Buckle up.

You just made my day.

I care about you.

You matter to me.

I need you to be myself.

I’d do anything for you.

I’m a better person because of you.

You are my better half.

I’ll drive you home.

I’m sorry.

You make me want to be a better person.

And you make my world a better place.

You make rainy days not seem so dark.

You’re different.

I’m here to listen.

I won’t judge you.

I forgive you.

You fill my heart.

You’re my soft spot.

You make me feel good about myself.

You make life worth living.

Let me fill up your gas tank.

I’ll scrape the ice off of your window.

How are you feeling?

This song reminds me of you.

Can I pray for you?

You mean the world to me.

I can’t live without you.

I’m thankful I have you.

You’re beautiful.

Can I get you anything?

Just five more minutes.

You are the best thing that has ever happened to me.

You are everything I ever wished for.

I think about you all the time.

People seem to overuse the words ‘I love you,’ but words have a way of becoming meaningless when repeated over and over and over again. What a beautiful thing that you can still express those three immensely important and meaningful words by using different words of choice.

Don’t forget to remind the people that you love that you love them because life is short and so unpredictable.

With You, I’m The Happiest I’ve Ever Been And So In Love

Our Love Story

Our love story had all the makings of a fairy tale romance. I fell for you so fast and saw my happy ending in every moment spent with you.

Loving you just made sense. It wasn’t a choice, it was the only option.

It definitely wasn’t something I’d planned for, but it was second nature to fall with fierce abandon. It was so easy, effortless.

My heart had chosen you.

Falling in love with you was out of my control, but I do have a say in what happens next. And I will choose to stay in love with you through everything this life throws at us.

I will choose you through every heartbreak, every speed bump. I will choose you through the unpredictable and the unimaginable.

Because if we’re being honest, when we picture our happily ever after, we picture falling in love. We think of days of happiness and infatuation, not the rough parts or negatives.

I have no idea what the negatives of our picture perfect life will look like.

And, I don’t care. Because the negatives are still gonna be the picture I always envisioned: you and me.

As long as it’s us at the end of each day, I will continue to love you. I will continue to put you first.

I will always cherish our relationship for its imperfections because what we have is real and a work that will forever be in progress.

As beautiful as falling in love is, it is fleeting. It happens quickly, without warning and without the promise of any resolution.

But, I promise permanence. I promise persistence. And I promise that falling in love was just the beginning for us.

To The Girl Kissing Frogs

Kissing Frogs

Growing Up

Growing up I always fantasized about the day that my knight in shining armor would ride down from his kingdom and save me from my humdrum life. I indulged in ever princess movie, knowing that one day that could be me. Once I started entering my first relationships, I took to heart the idea of the Princess kissing the Frog. I too was willing to search within the frogs to find my prince. I did not realize at the time that you cannot take someone with no worth ethic, respect for others or respect for themselves and turn them into your Prince Charming.

The idea of transforming a boy into the man you wish to be with is completely ridiculous and misleading to young girls. I longed to be the girl to take the boy who cared about no one other than himself and change him into the loving gentleman I wanted. For the majority of my life so far, this has been my outlook has been on relationships.

That it is my responsibility to take the seedling of a boy and turn it into the mighty tree of a good man. I cannot stress enough that this is not how to find love, this is how you find disappointment and betrayal. We over fantasize being with someone through their “struggle.???

There is a very serious difference between crushing on a guy who sits on his couch all day with no motivation than loving a man who is busy building himself. It was not yet until a man with an understanding heart, strong motivations and playful demeanor that I realized I had gone about relationships all wrong. He came to me, ready to be the man that God had intended him to be for me.

I am not saying at all that he is perfect and that we have not helped each other grow. I have watched him transform into an even better man than he was before, but the key information being that he was a good man before and a better man now. You cannot help an unwilling participant grow, you have to find someone who is dedicated to growing with you and for you.

But how do we get this information across to the next generation of girls who are willing to do anything to get their fairytale ending? Although my story has a rather pleasant ending, I fear for the girls who take this route for it can have many negative outcomes. Do not let go of who you are for the sake of transforming a frog into a prince, for your prince will come to you later and be ready to respect you.