The 3 Main Types of Soul Mates

The romantic soul mate, the friend soul mate, and the twin flame.

There’s a lot of controversy as to if soul mates are real. In my opinion, I believe that they are. But, I also believe that there is more than one kind of soul mate – there are three. Some people believe in more types. But, personally, I think that there are three individuals out there that match you on some sort of elevated level.

1. The Romantic Soul Mate

This type of soul mate is the most commonly thought of – the person who you romantically and emotionally can’t stand to live without. Usually, your attraction to this individual is undeniable and you quickly realize that there’s no one else in the world that will fit you better. You know that whatever you do, you can’t do it without them by your side.

I believe that if you find your romantic soul mate but the timing is wrong, they’ll come back around.

I haven’t met my romantic soul mate, but I know they’re out there. People around me have met and ended up with theirs, and it gives me reassurance to know that they do exist. The person you end up with long-term, maybe raise children with, travel with, live with, experience life with… The person that will always find a way back to you because there’s no one else in the world that makes sense.

2. The Friend Soul Mate

Also called the Companion Soul Mate, this connection is like finding one person in the whole world that understands you and accepts you on a whole other level. This connection is usually strictly platonic. However, elements can be found in a romantic soul mate, as well.

This person has your back no matter what situation and usually knows you better than you know yourself.

The friend soul mate that I have knows me better than anyone, even to the point of knowing how I’m feeling about something before I even realize it, myself. We know the good, bad, and ugly parts of each other and choose to stick around because we know that if we don’t, we’ll never find another friend like each other.

3. The Twin Flame

The twin flame is, in my opinion, the most flustering. When meeting this person, it’s like meeting a part of yourself. The way you interact, the way you talk, the way you live… It feels like two parts of the same soul connecting. It’s a type of feeling that can’t really be described without maybe sounding a bit crazy to some people. But, you’ll know without a shadow of a doubt that they’re a part of you and you’re a part of them. When you’re apart, it’s like a piece of yourself is missing. And, if you do separate, you know that a part of you is left with them, and a part of them is left with you.

You are two parts of the same soul.

I recently met my twin flame and it was like looking at myself. In all honestly, I didn’t believe in twin flames or really know what it was until I spent time with mine. We have the same personality, the same interests, we understand each other on a higher level that no one else can really understand… We knew each other better than we ever could have imagined in just a few days. We can exchange a look and know exactly what the other is thinking. Just being around them makes me feel like I’m complete and safe to really be myself.

Soul mates are a very real, sometimes scary, thing. But, when you’ve found them, you’ll know – and when you do, your life will never be the same.

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Emmie Pombo is a latte and tattoo-loving Tennessean who specializes in mental health and beauty writing. She holds a degree in Journalism and a certification in Makeup Artistry and Airbrushing. Follow her on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.

To The ‘Best Friend’ Who Cut Me Out Like I Never Existed

So here we are, “bestie”. After everything that we’ve gone through; thick and thin, ups and downs, it never crossed my mind that our friendship would ever fall apart. You suddenly cut me out of your life like I was nothing.

 

It’s really hard to swallow how I never saw it coming from you; the one person that I trusted the most in this world. I didn’t think it would affect me this much. Feeling torn and crushed is really an understatement.

 

It’s not easy to come to terms with the fact that your betrayal is the biggest slap in the face, but I’m finally beginning to put the pain that you’ve inflicted behind so that I can move on from our broken friendship.

 

The memories that we built together cannot be erased but they can no longer have the place in my heart that they once had.

 

As hard as it might be, you chose to end our friendship by wrecking me and I have to learn to live with that. I also have to find forgiveness within myself, so that I can move on from our friendship without resentment.

 

But I have to say, it won’t be easy. What you did to us was cruel, but I guess that’s something you have to live with. I know in my heart I was loyal to you. I might have not been perfect but to the best of my knowledge, I was always fair to you.  Even if we didn’t always agree on everything, I was always willing to talk things out and compromise. That’s what friends are for, right?

 

7 Reasons Why Having A Long Distance BFF Is A Blessing In Disguise

Being apart from your BFF sounds awful, and don’t get us wrong, it’s not ideal. The relationship is bound to be different with a lot of miles between you two and without your regular hang out seshes, but don’t despair! It’s not all terrible, either. There are actually some things that are really awesome about it, even though it might not seem like that first.

1. You’re only a text, Facetime call, or phone call away.

Not being able to hang out in person is hard to get used to, but with today’s technology, it’s really easy to keep in touch. Whenever you’re feeling lonely, you know your bestie is always going to have time for you.

2. Seeing each other is a big deal.

Much like a long-distance dating relationship, having your BFF far away means that the times you do get to see each other are extra special. You learn to really value being able to see them, and you never take them for granted.

3. It’s a fun trip to go visit them.

Not only do you get to see your best friend, you also get to meet the people they talk about and see all the things they see and do during their daily routine. You’re not just hanging out doing the same old, same old, there are all kinds of new adventures that you can have together that you wouldn’t be able to have if they still lived in the same place as you.

4. You have someone to send mail and presents to.

Receiving old-fashioned mail is the best! Especially mail sent to your best friend, when you can decorate the envelope with stickers and fun stuff. Taking the time to mail something to your BFF really lets them know that you’re thinking about them and that you care. And that you want to embarrass them in front of the mail carrier.

5. You now have someone who will give you totally unbiased advice.

Now that your best friend no longer lives near you, chances are you’ll end up hanging out with some new people who your bestie doesn’t know. That’s actually pretty cool because, since your BFF is on the outside of this particular friend group, she or he will be able to give you honest advice, unclouded by personal bias.

6. You won’t take each other for granted.

You love your best friend to death, but sometimes spending too much time with the same friend can get a little humdrum. If your BFF lives far away, just about every interaction is meaningful, because it takes more work than just being able to hang out whenever you want to.

7. Making a friendship work long distance is a good sign that this person will be in your life for a long time to come.

If you can make a long distance friendship, with all its shortcomings and communication challenges, work, then you can be pretty sure this is someone who is going to stay your friend for the long run. It’s easy to be friends with someone you see every day, but when you and your bestie make the effort to keep each other in your lives, then it’s a sign the friendship is strong enough to stand the test of time.

These Unpopular Opinions About Best Friends Will Have You Rethinking Your Friendships

Recently, a new trend has surfaced on Twitter in which a user will suggest a topic for people to share their “unpopular opinions.” From food to music to relationships, people all over Twitter have revealed some of their most unpopular opinions—like one guy who suggested bacon isn’t “all that.” Thank you, kind sir, but, next.

The latest topic to be thrown out was from Twitter user LUSH LAVIÉ, who suggested that people on his timeline share their unpopular opinions about best friends.

https://twitter.com/Lushlaviee/status/1098749479610650626

Let’s face it, there are tons of societal expectations and stereotypes when it comes to our friendships—but, not all of them are legit or accurate. In fact, there are tons of unpopular opinions in this thread that may have you rethinking the way you look at friendships in your own life.

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My Boyfriend Is My Best Friend And I’m Not Ashamed To Admit It

I always struggled through life maintaining close friendships. For whatever reason, I was always the “back up friend.” I had a lot of friends who I considered to be sisters—my very best friends in the world. I confided in them, I trusted them, I always thought of them as my confidants. But, whatever the reason may be, I was always 4th, 5th, 6th on their list of friends. I was never anyone’s “best friend.” I was never the girl that someone would call and text first, the one who became someone’s family. I was always kind of on my own, doing my own thing, looking for a “girl gang” to call my own.

 

But, that all changed when I met my boyfriend.

We met randomly; at a bar when I least expected it. I was out with some co-workers and he was out with his friends and our eyes locked on opposite sides of the bar as if we were looking for each other the entire time. It sounded cliché—like a scene out of a movie. But, when we talked, it was if we had known each other all our lives. I always think, maybe we met in a past life. Maybe we were friends in another galaxy. Whatever the reason was—we clicked.

 

15 Reasons Getting A Dog Is Better Than Getting A Boyfriend

Think you want a boyfriend? Well, maybe you do. But have you ever considered that you what you really want is a dog?

Hear me out: boyfriends can be great. They’re nice to sometimes have around. Sometimes you might even love them. But they can be problematic. They don’t always do the stuff we want them to do or pay attention to us like we hoped they would.

Dogs don’t always do what we want, either, but there’s no denying that they love us like nothing else in the whole world. They’re about as near to perfect as creatures can get. They always try their hardest to please us, and their only real drawback is that they don’t stick around as long as we want them to, which would be forever. A dog such as a cavapoos would be your true loyal partner.

So if you’re actively pursuing getting a boyfriend, stop and think about it for a few minutes. Do you want a guy around, or do you just need the awesome love of a dog? If you visit Dogbreedo.com they have listed some of the most popular dog breeds you can consider. From Retrievers to German Shepards you can find your perfect and budget-friendly dog which we are sure will be a better option than having a boyfriend!  Check out these 15 pervasive reasons that dogs, on the whole, are way better than boyfriends.

1. Dogs are always happy to see you.

2. Dogs don’t complain.

3. Dogs never lie.

4. A dog never comes home from a bad day at work looking to fight with you over some nonsense.

5. A dog will never cheat on you by secretly having another owner.

6. Dogs will never say anything mean to you and they always think those jeans look great on you.

7. A dog will never get drunk and embarrass you.

8. Conversely, a dog is not embarrassed by you when you are embarrassingly drunk.

9. Some dogs—not all, but some very, very good dogs—will happily wear whatever adorable sweater you choose to put them in. Boyfriends, not so much.

10. Dogs never cancel on you.

11. Dogs are wonderful listeners.

12. Dogs always appreciate your cooking.

13. Dogs don’t judge you for laying around in your pajamas all day. In fact, they’re usually more than happy to join you.

14. The worst thing a boyfriend can do is betray you. The worst thing a dog can do is maybe get into the trash. Really puts it into perspective.

15. Dogs look at you like you’re the most important person in the world, because to them, you are.

7 Reasons Why Having A Long Distance BFF Is Actually Amazing

Being apart from your BFF sounds awful, and don’t get us wrong, it’s not ideal. The relationship is bound to be different with a lot of miles between you two and without your regular hang out seshes, but don’t despair! It’s not all terrible, either. There are actually some things that are really awesome about it, even though it might not seem like that first.

1. You’re only a text, Facetime call, or phone call away.

Not being able to hang out in person is hard to get used to, but with today’s technology, it’s really easy to keep in touch. Whenever you’re feeling lonely, you know your bestie is always going to have time for you.

2. Seeing each other is a big deal.

Much like a long-distance dating relationship, having your BFF far away means that the times you do get to see each other are extra special. You learn to really value being able to see them, and you never take them for granted.

3. It’s a fun trip to go visit them.

Not only do you get to see your best friend, you also get to meet the people they talk about and see all the things they see and do during their daily routine. You’re not just hanging out doing the same old, same old, there are all kinds of new adventures that you can have together that you wouldn’t be able to have if they still lived in the same place as you.

4. You have someone to send mail and presents to.

Receiving old-fashioned mail is the best! Especially mail sent to your best friend, when you can decorate the envelope with stickers and fun stuff. Taking the time to mail something to your BFF really lets them know that you’re thinking about them and that you care. And that you want to embarrass them in front of the mail carrier.

5. You now have someone who will give you totally unbiased advice.

Now that your best friend no longer lives near you, chances are you’ll end up hanging out with some new people who your bestie doesn’t know. That’s actually pretty cool because, since your BFF is on the outside of this particular friend group, she or he will be able to give you honest advice, unclouded by personal bias.

6. You won’t take each other for granted.

You love your best friend to death, but sometimes spending too much time with the same friend can get a little humdrum. If your BFF lives far away, just about every interaction is meaningful, because it takes more work than just being able to hang out whenever you want to.

7. Making a friendship work long distance is a good sign that this person will be in your life for a long time to come.

If you can make a long distance friendship, with all its shortcomings and communication challenges, work, then you can be pretty sure this is someone who is going to stay your friend for the long run. It’s easy to be friends with someone you see every day, but when you and your bestie make the effort to keep each other in your lives, then it’s a sign the friendship is strong enough to stand the test of time.

10 Signs You’re The Quirky Friend In Your Group

Every group of friends is made of different personality types. There’s the gossip, the overthinker, the old soul…and you, the “quirky” one. Maybe you’ve been called a goofball, living somewhere between awkward and weird, a few miles outside the box.

If you’re one of those awesome people that makes life a lot more fun for everyone else around, then you most likely share some of these quirky qualities:

1. We have questionable conversations.

At some point, you’ve gone on and on about what you think your life would be as an astronaut, or an avocado (or you’re maybe considering a career as an astronaut…or an avocado). We tend to talk about things people think of but are too embarrassed to talk about. We have to work out the crazy things that run through our fuzzy minds and we’re pretty grateful to have friends to work it out with…even if they might get a little weirded out about them.

2. Going out for us is always random…and a little scary.

 Quirky friends redefine the concept of hanging out. Going out for us is mini-twerking while waiting for our burritos at Chipotle, skipping or doing cartwheels down a bridge, dancing on a ferris wheel, shopping for top hats at thrift stores, and more. There is no such thing as “chilling” with us quirks because “chilling” with us will be an indie film-like adventure. So be prepared, be very prepared.

3. We have outrageous dress codes.

For us, fashion is the perfect opportunity to express our creativity. Quirky friends love to add that flair to their wardrobe – brightly colored corsets with long skirts, large red bow ties as tube tops, kaki trench coats, sunflower crowns (and this isn’t just for girls – quirky guys can get away with these things, too!) – the list goes on. We pick out outfits that make our friends scratch their heads, yet nod in approval at the same time because as strange as our fashion is, it’s also alluring.

4. We notice the weirdest things about our friends…

that they don’t even know themselves. It’s true that quirky see quirky in this case. We’ve pointed out to our friends about how their freckles look like a birthmark, how often they put eyeliner on in a day, or the adorable look on their face before they sneeze. It’s not because we’re stalkers, we just really love our friends…maybe a little too much.

5. We speak in run-on sentences. 

The dialect of quirkiness is speaking in sentences that can go on for paragraphs without going off topic. A conversation with a friend about a weird guy you met on the train can become a novella that lacks periods and commas, “This guy who was sitting next to me on the train told me he could travel to other universes, can people really do that? I think I saw something like that on the Discovery channel, actually. It was like Interstellar…come to think of it, he did look a little like Matthew McConaughey. Do you think…” On the plus side, our friends never get bored with us.

6. Platypus!!

That’s it…just felt like randomly and excitedly typing “platypus.”

7. We get excited…like really excited.

Whether it’s seeing a little golden retriever at the park or Tom Hiddleston on screen or hot dog stands, your friends have to get ready for your cry of excitement. When quirky people get excited, they get really excited. Our friends enjoy watching us jump up and down, twirling them around, and the wringing of our hands every time we see something that pinches our hyper nerves.

8. We always twist our “rites of passage.”

Nobody would be surpirised that your first ‘seven minutes in heaven’ consisted of pitching someone’s nipples or your prom night involved you table dancing. We always get nervous during bar conversations about “rites of passage.” Our friends will talk about their hilarious first times or getting their licenses, while we sit there looking at our fingers, trying to see how we could talk about that time when we tried smoking weed for the first time and ended up running out of the house screaming because we thought we saw the Kool-Aid man in the flesh without sounding disturbed.

9. We’re not shy eaters.

Our friends always wonder where we put it all. Quirky people are usually foodies. We love trying different foods and we’re always the one person in the table who will get more than one appetizer. We’re not calm about it either. You’ve definitely hit the quirky line if you’ve attempted to feed your friends. Extra points if you made airplane sounds while doing it.

10. Cartoons and snacks are our Friday nights.

A bowl of popcorn mixed with M&Ms, skittles, and Reeses buttercups with episodes of Hey Arnold! ready to be watched on Netflix? That’s definitely our Friday night and we’re not secretive about it at all. Quirky people will proudly drag their friends along for the ride when it comes to these things. They may not like it, of course, but secretly, we know they love it.

To The Friend Who Forgives Me When I Make The Same Mistakes

Thank you, doesn’t simplistically convey it.

Somewhere along the way, we went from friends to family. You became this extension of me and it’s not just my life I’m leading, it’s a life you are choosing to be a part of. And I’m so grateful because the wonderful thing about friendship is you are choosing to stand in front of a door that is open and staying put.

Your loyalty is the greatest gift I could ask for.

Your loyalty to me is something I try so hard to match. Sometimes I wake up and I wonder how on the earth did I get so lucky?  Because of the many things I’ve done wrong in life, what I’ve done right is maintaining this friendship. I look at you and I see the good things I’ve done in my life, despite the bad.  We both know I’m no saint and with every mistake I make, you’ve been there to pick me up and dust me off.

You help me to become better.

But we both know there are some mistakes I’ve made and some mistakes I continue you make. I come to you first. I analyze the situation, I replay all the details and there you are listening, probably rolling your eyes and repeating the same thing over and over again.

Because we both know it’s a conversation we’ve had before. You want something more for me. And I know it feels like you can’t help someone who doesn’t first want to help themselves.

Because you have better intentions for my life than I have for myself sometimes.

Maybe it’s in the people I choose to date. Maybe it’s the 700th chance I’ve given a person you’ve grown to hate. Einstein once said, “insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

I’m sorry I do this. Because all you’ve ever done is want what is best for me. You see me in the best light and see me making the wrong choices. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is watch someone you love to do wrong and know the only thing you can do is pick up the broken pieces afterward. You want to pull them in and stop them from walking towards danger. But more than other people we are our own worst enemy.

Your love and support motivate me.

I know it’s not fair to you. And I know I’m stubborn. You may think I don’t listen. But I do. I hear you loud and clear. And there’s nothing that hurts me more than disappointing you. And sometimes you are honest and I’m oversensitive. But it’s what I need.

I know I first need to help myself. I know I have to make the change in my life. And I value you for standing by me through it.

I honestly think you are a guardian angel walking with me.

More than anything, I want to say thank you. You should know if it ever came down to it (a habit I can’t kick, even if those habits are toxic people) I’d pick you every time. You stand by me and it isn’t something I take for granted. And I know it will never come down to you walking away. Because just as I’d never walk away from you, you’re one of the only things I’m completely confident in, in my own life.

I love you. I value you. And every day I’ll try and do better and be better. Motivation comes in knowing I never walk alone in this crazy thing called life.

Of every person in my life, you’re not only the one person I can’t live without but I’d never want to.

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To My Ex’s Mom, Thanks For Your Kindness

Your son and I had a special relationship and I will always consider it an amazing chapter in my life. Part of how great it was is the fact that you welcomed me into your family and made me feel like one of your own. You were far from the typical mom who doesn’t like any of their son’s girlfriends. Not you, you genuinely liked me, so it was definitely an added bonus to the already special relationship your son and I had.

You were non-judgmental, nice and treated me like a daughter.

You supported me, always looked out for me, and truly cared about me. Also, you always went out of your way to make sure I was okay, even after your son and I decided to put an end to the relationship.

The breakup was hard, but I think it was harder for me because I not only had to part ways with your son but also with everything related to him, including his mom. I understand that the dynamic of our relationship has to change, it’s just how it works. Even if your son and I decide to continue being friends down the line, it wouldn’t make sense for me now to be around like I used to.

I’m truly going to miss you.

Our long conversations about life, your stories and especially your good advice. You always knew the right things to say to me and I’m so grateful for all the knowledge that you were always so willing to share with me.

I hope you know that regardless of how my relationship with your son evolves in the future, I still have the same love and respect for you.

I’m extremely grateful for all the guidance that you’ve provided me with while I was around and for your infinite kindness.

Thank you for welcoming me into your family and for also being so understanding throughout the process of your son and I breaking up.

I know that if we ever cross each other’s path, you will greet me with a big smile and a big hug, that’s how amazing you are and that’s why the love and respect that  I have for you will never change.

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