20 Things That Make You Look Selfish Even If You’re Not

It’s important not to worry too much about what other people might say about you. It’s really easy to get called “selfish” just for taking the time to make sure your own personal needs are met. But we’d never be able to take care of others without taking care of ourselves first.

And honestly, we’re not always up for taking care of others anyway. There is no rule that says other people are always supposed to come before yourself.

Here are some behaviors that might get you labeled “selfish” when you really, truly aren’t.

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Putting your mental health first.

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Being judicious with your time and energy, when people ask you to do things.

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Telling your family “no” when you feel you have maxed out your contribution to whatever cause they are campaigning. Especially when their methods of negotiation include applying guilt.

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Limiting contact with a friend whose issues are now affecting your own happiness. You have to look out for yourself, too.

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Healthy firm relationship boundaries.

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saying no to people. you dont have to always help people if it will spread you too thin. self preservation is a thing.

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Thinking about yourself first. You’re no good to others if you aren’t good to yourself.

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Solitude.

Sometimes it’s insanely healthy to be with yourself.

Sometimes the timing doesn’t mesh with others’ lives.

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Cutting off toxic family members/in-laws. I have cut my narcissistic abusive sister out of my life and I am in the process of cutting off my mother-in-law. Life is too short to allow abuse into your life because your abuser is a family member.

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You are told when on a flight that if the oxygen masks come down, put yours on first before you try to put them on your child.

You can get yours on relatively quickly, but if you’re spending all your oxygen trying to fight your kid first, that’s asking for trouble and it might not be enough time to do both that way.

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