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To The Girl With an Anxious Mind and a Guarded Heart

The world can be a cold, bitter place — your past can make you or break you, and standing on your own makes your knees shaky. But what happens when your knees are shaky but your heart loves wholly?

I’ll tell you what happens — your knees reach their breaking point and no longer can withstand their own weight, and your beautiful, untouched heart becomes guarded and covered in fingerprints you wish you could erase.

Your mind begins to wonder places it’s never been before … places it didn’t even know existed. Places that are unable to be turned away from. Anxious thoughts consume your mind and swarm every ounce of beauty you’ve spent years and years exploring.

Things become harder to comprehend, and trust becomes nonexistent. Relationships become a wasted memory and love becomes a battle you no longer want to fight.

Normal, stress-free thoughts? Do those even exist anymore? You can’t think straight and even when you’re able to, it all seems so foreign. Your mind wanders and creates scenarios of complete nonsense. And every little thing stresses you out. Literally.

You can distinguish logic from ridiculousness, but your guarded heart and anxious mind take control. You may even begin to wander how to make it by and how each day passes without entering a complete anxiety attack.

But one thing we need to remind our anxious minds and guarded hearts is just this:

There is nothing wrong with us, and although our thoughts and actions are completely irrelevant to just about every situation, we are normal functioning people.

There is someone out there who will come along and truly make you understand and realize exactly why it never worked out with anyone else. And just why you built the wall of China around your heart.

Just because you may not understand yourself does not mean that you are alone or that no one else will be able to understand or deal with you. There is a special someone out there that will understand more than you have ever or will ever understand yourself.

This I promise you.
Your mind will eased and your heart will begin to beat again with all of it’s beauty.

Pick me. Choose me. Love me.

“I lied. I’m not out of this relationship, I’m in. I’m so in it’s humiliating because here I am begging…You choice it’s simple. Her or me. And I’m sure she’s great. But Derek, I love you, in a really big way. I pretend to like your taste of music.. I let you eat the last piece of cheesecake. I’ll hold a radio over my head outside your window, in an unfortunate way that makes me hate you, love you. Pick me. Choose me. Love me.” – Grey’s Anatomy

Pick me.

I don’t want someone who doesn’t want me. But, I have this feeling there is still something there. And if there is, I don’t want to give up on you or us. I’ve never been one to beg or plead. Attention isn’t something I have ever had to seek, in others. I’m not one to try too hard. I’ve always believed, if I have to try that hard, it’s the other person, that probably isn’t worth it.

But with you, every rule in the book doesn’t apply. I’ve completely lost myself to all of this. I don’t care how much of a fool I appear to be. I don’t care if you think I’m crazy. Because you’re right, I’m crazy about you.

So I ask you to stop everything else with anyone, who might be in the picture. I ask you to pick me. Do it today. And I will pick you every day, from this day forward. Because you have never been a choice, but rather the only thing, that has ever made sense in my life. I didn’t have to pick you. My heart did.

So I’m standing here before you, begging and pleading to pick me because I don’t want to know what a life without you, is even like.

Choose me.

We all make choices in life, some little choices impact things here and there. But then there are those big choices, like choosing which road to go down. And it is the course you choose, that impacts your future and your life forever. Some choices are easy, others come bearing pain because eventually, someone prevails in the choice you have made. I hate that someone will get hurt in this, but I hate more that it could be me.

I’m asking you to choose me. And I may sound desperate. In fact, I know I do. But here I am putting it all on the line and holding nothing back. I want you and only you. I want us. Choose us today and forever.

Because I’ve only ever envisioned a future with you. And of the things that don’t scare me about my future, is if you are standing beside me.

Love me.

While our heart chooses who we love, we make the choice to stay in love, every day. Because love doesn’t just happen, but you work to keep that flame alive.

I’ve never questioned you, I’ve never questioned my love for you. I’ve only ever wanted you because you just seem to make so much sense in my life. I want you. I want you more than anyone. And if it’s not us in the end, I don’t know if I’ll be okay. Because I’ve only ever wanted us to make it. I just can’t seem to accept a story where it isn’t us in the end.

I know you are conflicted and it won’t be easy. The best things in life never are. But if you choose me, I’ll make it as easy as I can. If you choose me, I promise to love you, every day.

It’s only ever been you. And I have this feeling it’s always going to be. We always find our way back to each other, so instead of fighting it, I’m asking you to fearfully take my hand, as I do yours, and let’s see where this thing can take us.

Let’s see if we have it in us, to be that story people write. I want us to be the example others want to follow. Let us be that couple that makes everyone gag. Let’s live in our own little world, where the only thing that matters is each other. Because you are the only thing that has ever mattered in my world.

I want you. Not just want. I need you. Because the only thing that has ever made sense in my life has been you.

I want us to make it. And I pray we do. So here I am standing in front of you, playing every card I have, asking you to be mine. Now and forever.

“It’s not hard. It’s painful. You know what to do. If you didn’t you wouldn’t be in so much pain.” -Grey’s Anatomy

She’s Not Emotionally Unavailable, She’s Just Guarding Her Heart

“Her heart was a secret garden and her walls were very high”

The guarded girl is basically a girl with a big heart who’s been hurt way too many times. Her beautiful, sweet essence is not gone, it’s just hiding underneath the strong shell that protects her heart. At her core, she’s a sweet, warm-hearted, passionate and an extremely loving individual.

She’s built strong walls around her heart but deep down, she just wants to be understood and loved.

She also wants to give her heart away deeply and intensely. It just takes a real man to see right through her and love her for who she really is.

She might seem emotionally unavailable but she’s far from lacking emotion, if anything, she feels too much. Her true nature craves passion, she wants to love hard and unconditionally, so be patient with her heart.

This type of girl is not going around playing games, she’s unapologetically honest and direct.

She’s not going to put up with any bullshit, so any signs that your intentions might be potentially harmful to her soul, and she won’t even bother giving you the time a day.

She’s not cold-hearted, she’s just guarded and there’s a difference.

Her trust issues prevent her from being fully open about her emotions at first, but that doesn’t mean she won’t eventually open up and allow you to see her for who she truly is.

She’s a great listener and also highly observant, so don’t try to deceive her in any way.

She pays attention to everything around her because she knows that there’s always more than meets the eye. Remember, she’s been fooled and hurt a lot so, she’s a master at reading people.

She’s super selective with people and she will never apologize for protecting her heart.

The girl with a guarded heart takes a while to commit, but once she knows that her feelings for you are real and that they’re reciprocated, she’ll slowly become more and more trusting, open and loving.

Don’t doubt her feelings, just be honest, gentle and patient with her emotions. Her heart is in the right place and she just needs to be certain that you’re deserving of her love. She might seem tough and intimidating but she’s really a sweet soul, so be sure that once she knows that you’re the right person for her, she’ll love you with her whole being.

18 Ways The Guy with a Guarded Heart Loves Differently

A lot of woman are guarded for their own reasons, but they are also more open to expressing their feeling. Guys on the other hand, unlike woman are taught from when they are little, to hide their feelings. They are taught to be strong and not show something has affected them. So many guys walk around with these wounds no one knows about. They are secretly guarded, wary of everyone around them.

“When everyone thinks they know you, it’s hard not to be guarded,” -Erica Jong

1. They may appear to be fun loving…They are going to seem like the happiest people you know. They are the ones with a big smile on their face. They are that person that says good morning to you every day.

2. But their mind is a different story. But inside their heads there is no off button. They are constantly thinking and playing out every possible scenario.

3. They are more observant than the average person…They have a keen ability to just watch everything going on around them, saying nothing.

4. Because they can tell when someone’s trying to hide something. They notice facial expressions, the words people choose to use, all because they are hiding something themselves too, so they can read the signs. They listen with a keen understanding of everything.

5. They fear letting people in…They have learned the only person they can rely on is themselves, so they do.

6. So they might push you away. It might seem like you are getting closer, but then they push you away.

7. It isn’t that they are trying to hurt you…They aren’t out to get you. They don’t want to add you to a list of people they have spited. They wish they weren’t guarded but its just who they are.

8. They are just protecting themselves…Pushing someone away is a defense mechanism. They do it because they know if someone gets too close, it can hurt them.

9. So they’re gonna test you…It’s gonna seem like a tiring act trying to keep up and pass every test they put in front of you. But keep trying with them.

10. Because they want to see if they can let you in. Once they realize they can trust you, all these doors will begin to slowly open up.

11. At first they might not talk about…Whatever it is, that’s why they are guarded.

12. That secret. When they decide to tell you, whatever it is about their past that made them that way, its your job to value that, and just listen.

13. They may appear strong on the outside… To you and the world they seem like superman. And once you realize what they went through it will only make you respect them more.

14. But on the inside they hide broken pieces. You’ll love them, despite the brokenness. You’ll want to fix them, but it isn’t your job to do that. Your only job is to love them, despite the things they lack.

15. And when they let you in…You’ll realize everything that is behind those guarded walls is something so much more beautiful than any average person.

16. You’ll suddenly get it. You’ll understand why they are the way they are. People from the outside may judge what they don’t understand, but that’s a flaw in them. Because the person standing before you is the definition of perfection, even though they don’t see it.

17. You’ll realize the guy with the guarded heart…He’s gonna change you. He’s gonna love you, the way you deserve. He’s gonna be that standard you compare everyone too.

18. Is the best type of man to love. And for the rest of your life, you’ll never look at people the same way. You’ll never love the same way. Because once you fall in love with a man that’s guarded there’s no going back.

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