Loving myself before I can love another: a tale of relationships gone wrong

 

In my early days of writing, I was told to captivate the audience with an amazing opening quote, hook, line, etc. Well, there is nothing more eye-catching to me today than an opening quote by the brilliant professor, Brenè Brown : We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection. Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves…”

 

In the weening days since an unforeseen heartbreak, I have done a lot of introspection (and listening/reading Brenè Brown to be quite frank). I have looked back at all of my relationships and tried to pinpoint the common denominator in the aftermath (besides me that is). I have been racking my brain trying to find some sort of commonalities that tie into each and every romantic relationship in which I have had to find some sort of exactitudes to explain my losses. 

 

Don’t Forget To Love Yourself While Loving Someone Else

Love is a very powerful thing. 

Love can make us feel like we’re on top of this world, or it can make us feel like we’re drowning at the bottom of the ocean.

Whether you are in love or trying to find it, don’t forget to love yourself. 

Sometimes as humans we want to give all of our love to others, and neglect ourselves in the process. It is unhealthy and very true. I have had the opportunity to love some of the most amazing people, but it’s never worked out because I forgot how to love myself while giving them my all.

It’s okay to spoil yourself sometimes.

Its okay if you need a spa day or a day of shopping to free your mind. You need to do things by yourself that make you happy sometimes. Being alone isn’t always bad.

You can love someone else even if you don’t love yourself

Even though you can, your relationship might suffer from it. Don’t neglect your passions and wants while trying to make your partner happy. Find love in all of the right places. Love is more than just a guy. You can find love in your passions, your animals, your travels, and whatever else your heart desire. Keep on loving yourself and doing what makes you happy.

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