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7 Dating Mistakes To Avoid In 2020 So Your Love Life Isn’t God Awful Again

Let’s face it—2018 wasn’t the best year for everyone when it comes to love. There are so many times we’ve made mistakes: we’ve drunk texted our ex to rekindle the flame only to be burned twice as hard, we’ve broken up with people we realized we should have never pushed out of our lives, and we’ve isolated ourselves from finding true love because we have a sour outlook on dating overall.

Whatever the reason your love life took a bad left turn this year, it doesn’t mean that you’re doomed forever. In fact, there are so many opportunities and ways to fix your broken romance cycle this coming year, and we’re here to help you out.

1. Not being honest.

This is not only for yourself, but the person you are dating as well. We all have a gut instinct when it comes to anything in life and you need to be honest with yourself when your gut is speaking to you. Stop ignoring your guy and lying to yourself that your gut isn’t trying to tell you something; because it is. Be honest with how you really feel about the person you are with. Something in a relationship things starts out great in the beginning but after a few months, it’s not the same relationship. That is okay but it is important to be honest with yourself if you are staying in a relationship you don’t want to be in.

2. Chasing love that you truly know will never be yours.

Guilty as charged. A lot of us are. It is a natural behavior to chase after something you know that you can’t have or know isn’t right for you. That is a phase that you will eventually fall out of. “Chasing after someone that is not attainable will get old fast and wasting your time doing that will prevent you from chasing someone that is meant to be yours. Yes, the chase is fun every once and a while; and no one likes it when a relationship is easy. Things are boring that way, but it is very important to make sure you are chasing after someone that is attainable in the end. Time wasted is never satisfying.

3. Showing aggressive behavior towards the other person and the relationship you are trying to build.

A.K.A. coming on too strong, forcing the relationship too quickly, stalking the person’s every move after you first meet etc….All behaviors that are unnatural and will prove that you are too crazy to be with before a real relationship can actually blossom. You also can not force a relationship to happen. It just never works out that way. By engaging in aggressive behaviors that try to force a relationship you will just push the relationship back further from ever being a serious thing.

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8 Rules All Ladies Should Follow To Keep Their Vag Happy And Healthy

Everyone knows that vagina health is vitally important when it comes to your overall body health. While we’re always concerned with catching a cold, getting a stomach virus, or anything else that can make us feel pretty crappy–keeping your lady parts happy and healthy is important for homeostasis. In order for you to remain in good health, you should make sure you practice good routines and stay away from certain products that are known to cause inflammation and irritation. As well, there are vitamins, supplements, and other things every female should know about to avoid problems down under.

1. Wear cotton underwear or none at all.

Cotton underwear is the only material that will breathe and allow your vagina to fully maintain its healthy flow. If you wear other materials, they’re likely to hold in bacteria and also rub, causing irritation. Many doctors and OBGYN’s say it’s healthy to go panty-free at home and sleep without any underwear at all, allowing your vagina to get some much-needed air.

2. Never sit in wet or sweaty clothing.

After the gym, swimming, or anything that has you building up sweat and moisture, it’s important to change ASAP. Bacteria tend to enjoy and build up in dark, moist environments, so the longer you sit in your workout gear–the more likely you are to develop an infection.

3. Be careful when taking antibiotics.

Whenever you’re sick and taking any antibiotics, it’s important to take a probiotic with it. Antibiotics kill off lactobacilli, which is known to keep your vag healthy and on track. Taking probiotics prevents the risk of developing a yeast infection.

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Create a Life You Don’t Need to Vacation From

The blazing sun is beating down on your golden skin, the smell of the ocean breeze relaxes your cluttered mind, and you are unbothered by the gritty sand that has worked its way into your not-so-kid-friendly one-piece swimsuit. You are as free as the seagulls that are soaring above and your frozen piña colada hits you as hard as the waves crashing into the shore. The calming background noise of children splashing in the water eases your conscious as you drift away.

Then all of a sudden…

You’re snapped back into reality with an urgent email alert from your boss reminding you about an important project with a critical deadline. You feel as if you can’t even enjoy your summer vacation because you’re expected to respond to emails and you’re scared of missing something important. If you’re anything like most working Americans, this probably hits too close to home for you.

So why not do something about it?

Life is too short to build up an empire for somebody else. Put your fears aside and take a risk! There are so many other opportunities out there that can provide you with financial freedom, options, and time.

Fortunately, my husband and I just happened to get introduced to an amazing couple that is coaching us while we build a cash-flow asset outside of our jobs. We’re currently on track to walk away from our jobs in the next two to five years. Forever.

That means that we’re going to spend the rest of our lives traveling to the most exotic beaches of the world, eating the most outrageous meals, sleeping in every morning, driving luxurious cars, being full-time parents when we decide to have children, not having to report to a boss, and giving back to those who matter the most to us.

If any of that interests you, I would highly recommend keeping an open-mind throughout your daily lives. An opportunity could very well be right in front of your face, but you might not recognize it because you’re too busy being negative or dreading going back to work Monday morning.

I don’t understand everyone’s situation, but most circumstances are all about perception. Change the way you think and begin to search for what it is you’re missing.

Stop living for TGIF’s and start getting out of your comfort zone so that you can live as if everyday is Friday.

Create a life so amazing that you don’t need a vacation to escape from it.

10 Signs You’re Dating The Man You’re Supposed To Marry, Not Just Date

When we’re out in the dating scene, we tend to say a lot of goodbyes to guys we thought we’d have a happily ever after with. But every once in a while, we meet someone we don’t have to say goodbye to.

1. He’s not hesitant about making plans.

A guy you date will hit you up once or twice and then never call you again. (Though he will text you saying “sup”? five months later thinking you’ll actually respond.)

But the man you marry isn’t that guy. The man you marry is firm with his intentions to see you tomorrow because he wants to turn that tomorrow into the rest of his life.

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You Attack My Size 0, But I Can’t Attack Your Size 16

“No, I don’t starve myself. I’m naturally skinny and probably eat more than you.” -Anonymous

Why are you allowed to say I’m too skinny when I’ll be publicly torn apart for saying you’re too fat? This has been a topic of discussion that I’ve been seeing everywhere lately.

The god-awful phrase “real woman” makes me grit my teeth with true anger. Apparently, only women who are a size 8 and above are real women.

I don’t know who died and made these standards but please, let me know. Now I know what people are thinking as they read this,that size 0-2 are the general beauty standards, which is slowly fading.

Yet when was it okay to pick apart a young girl or a woman saying that she needs to eat a cheeseburger? Since when has it become socially acceptable to bully one size but when it’s done in reverse to a size 16 everyone is in an uproar?

We all want to preach about unrealistic body standards, but what’s the harm of being naturally thin or desiring to stay within a smaller weight range?

Does that make us smaller individuals, not real women? Do people realize the young thin girl may feel self-conscious when she reads things on Facebook of people ripping someone her size apart?

You bigger girls are no better than the skinnier girls bullying peoples’ weight online. I’ll probably be fused at for saying this but women are the first ones saying us skinny girls aren’t real women but you’re also the first ones wishing to wear the crop tops and short shorts I wear.

Is it that you secretly wish you could look like me or is it that you truly hate the body I possess?

Or is it an insecurity that your man would want someone like me over someone like you. If that’s the case then he’s obviously not someone you should be with.

Rather it be insecurities or not, please figure it out and stop body shaming us and we’ll stop body shaming you.

I’ve been made fun of a lot, especially by men, that I’m to skinny. I don’t have an ass and my breast aren’t big enough. I’ve been told I need to eat more than I would care to hear.

My own family remind me on the daily bases they would love to be smaller but not my size cause I’m way too skinny.

They say it like it’s a bad thing. When I complain about how I feel no one listens cause I’m luckyto be skinny so I have nothing to complain about.

So I’ll leave you with this wonderful quote I found online that I wish I could identify who wrote this lovely very true statement:

“Hey eat a cheeseburger gang. Iv’e seen you around Pinterest and Tumblr, and blogs with your obvious concern for skinny women. While I appreciate your desire to lead them to a healthy way of life by eating crappy food, I would respectfully suggest that you stop attacking other women’s bodies. Stop throwing around the cheeseburger line along with these silly ones.”

‘Real women have curves’ There are no fake women.

‘Men like women with meat on their bones’ My self worth isn’t determined by men or what my body looks like.

‘She looks unhealthy’ Really? Do you personally know her? Are you suddenly the body police and get to decide what is and what isn’t healthy.

Attacking other women’s bodies isn’t concern for healthiness, it’s called Misogyny.

To The Person Who Loves Me Next

“So it’s not gonna be easy. It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me…every day.” -Nicholas Sparks

To the next person who loves me,

Whoever you are and where ever you are. I look forward to meeting you. But you should know, I don’t half ass many things in life…love included.

So when you love me, I’m the type that loves hard.

So when you love me, I’m gonna love you deeply.

So when you love me, I’m gonna love only you.

Because unlike most…I know how to love the right way. And when I do I’ll change your life, if you’re able to reciprocate it.

But before we get there, please know a few things…

“So it’s not gonna be easy…

I don’t know if I’m an easy person to love, because I value love in it’s entirety.

I’m very guarded. I don’t trust too many people. I know it has nothing to do with you. It has more to do with the people in the past, who have walked away. I know I shouldn’t judge you based on people in the past. But I’ve loved too easy and I’ve learned.

I love people the right way. But, not many people know how to do that or know how to respond to people who love as deeply as I do.

I love hard. Even the worst heartbreak, won’t change that.It’s going to be really hard; we’re gonna have to work at it.

I’m gonna test you. I’m gonna see if you are even worthy of the love I can give. You can test me too.

To love the right way, requires loving equally. I’ve loved a lot of people who couldn’t reciprocate it. But pain is okay. Getting hurt means I’m taking the right chances, for something I want. But I’m willing to work for the relationship we both deserve. I know love can be the best thing we have in life. I’m willing to take chances. I’m willing to risk getting hurt, in hopes you can love me back.

But I want to do that…

I don’t fear pain. I’ll give you the best of myself. I’ll love you the right way.

Love is a bit of gambling and I’ll be the first to admit, I love playing the game. But I promise, I’ll play the right game. I’ll never play you. I’ll never not take your feelings into consideration. I’ll never intentionally hurt you. I’m a straight shooter, in a world full of liars. Of the many things I’m good at, the best is how I love.

Because I want you. I want all of you.

I want you. I want us to make it. I want us to experience the relationships they write about. I’ve been there once. I know what it takes to get there. It’s takes having faith in one another. It’s a little bit of risk. It’s a bit of vulnerability. It’s a bit of letting your guard down and blindly trusting someone. It’s letting someone know about the past that hurt you.

I’ll tell you about the scars that have prevailed in my past. I’ll tell you about the wounds. I’ll tell you about the things that went wrong. And when I trust you enough to tell you those things, you’ll love me even more for having endured it.When you trust me, I’ll teach you to dance with your own skeletons. I’ll teach you to love your past, instead of resent it. I’ll accept you at your worst and show you how to love someone that way.

If you’re willing to take this chance, I promise it’ll be worth it. You’re in for one hell of a ride.

I ask a few things, have patience with me. I’m very cautious. Trust me first, then I’ll come around and trust you. Love me and I promise I’ll love you deeper. Love me right and I’ll teach you to love better.

I’m not an easy person to love. But that’s because I know how to do it the right way. In a world that teaches us to love with only half of our heart, I don’t do that sort of thing. I’m the girl who will love you in ways you never knew possible. And when I do, that’s the standard you’ll compare everyone else too. Your life will never be the same.

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For The Girl Who Feels Like She’s Everyone’s Second Choice, Read This

She feels like she is just one of the people’s many options, and yet she just sticks around and waits to get picked. She knows she is better than being people’s backup plan, and she doesn’t deserve to be the second choice.

And yet here she is, being treated that way.

She cares so much about everyone around her, to the point where she has a hard time telling them she is hurt by their actions.

Honestly, she’d rather allow her own feelings to get hurt than to hurt someone else’s.

But what she needs to realize is that people can see it. She lives her life not giving herself credit, or treating herself like a top priority, so no one else does.

Once she begins to respect herself, other people will respect her too.

Except she is so caught up in her head, jumping to conclusions… and they’re never good ones. She can’t stop overthinking every single thing that happens in her day, no matter how hard she tries.

She loves with her entire heart but her heart is extremely stubborn as well.She would do anything for those she cared about and ask for nothing in return.

It’s exhausting though trying to be the better person for everyone. It takes a toll on her.

What she needs is to take a deep breath.

No matter what it was that made her become like this, it’s okay. A relationship, her parents, a toxic friendship, it could even have been a mix of the three.

But what she needs to remind herself is that in any form of relationship both parties should be equal. She deserves to be treated like she is important because she is important.

And she is so much more wonderful than she thinks she is.

She has a beautiful soul which makes her an inspiring person so she needs to put herself first sometimes.

There’s a simple phrase out there from the wonderful Dr. Suess that goes a little something like this…

“Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”

So here’s that daily reminder that you are not an option so don’t let people treat you one.

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What Is With Women’s Dumb Obsession With Wearing Leggings Everywhere?

In a world where women have been held down by the strong, long arm of men—we’ll do just about anything to succeed. Fighting tooth and nail, clawing our way to the top, it takes a lot more for a woman to reach success than it does a man. In all honesty, I’m proud to be a woman—damn proud. But, in order to reach my peak, I have had to fight for my right. And, a lot of this had to do with the way in which I hold and present myself in the public eye.

So often, I see women going out in public—to dinner, shopping, even on job interviews—wearing workout attire. Things such as leggings, shorts, big t-shirts, and hoodies—they make you look sloppy and unpresentable. Sure, comfort is key and many women wish to be more comfortable than walking through the world in heels. And, sure, many women believe that heels were invented by men to make women hard to chase—but, in all reality, some of the things women want to do away with due to “feminism” like skirts, dresses, and heels, actually makes you look professional and confident.

Think about this: if you were to walk into a job interview wearing leggings and Nikes, would you get hired? If you’re looking to work at a gym or fitness company—sure. But, as someone working in the corporate world, you need to dress for success.

But, this shouldn’t stop as soon as you leave your office.

Putting time and effort into the way you look gives you a sense of confidence that can become contagious. The way you feel about yourself can, many times, be read by others meeting you for the first time, or even those you surround yourself with every day. Why would you want to walk the world feeling sluggish and sloppy, when you can walk around feeling successful and thriving?

While social media and trends may dictate your life, you may fall into the traps of looking acertain way to “fit in.” But, fitting in may not always be what’s best for you. Instead of doing what everyone else is doing, and wearing what everyone else is wearing, make your own path. Don’t just reserve your “nice” clothes for important occasions and events—wear them regularly.

Try it out—even for a week, and watch how much your world will change.

A Thank You To My Mom, Everything I Am Is Because of You

From the moment I entered this world, my mom has had my back. She is my absolute everything.

She is the first one I call when something goes wrong and the first one I call when something incredible happens.

She was there when I was a rebellious teen and pushed her away and is still here now that I’m twenty-something and call her thirteen times a day.

I honestly couldn’t have asked for a better woman to be my mother. She is my teacher, my comforter, my home, my best friend. She has never steered me wrong.

She has stood by me through stupid boys, late night study sessions, random phone calls asking what setting the washing machine should be on because I’d never lived away from her before.

Through every smile and every stress-induced, tear-filled, crazy moment, she’s been there.

She knows exactly how I think and how deeply I feel things, and, most importantly, she knows I don’t mean the things I say when I’m hangry.

Without a doubt, she is my rock and will forever be my best friend. I would be lost in this world without this beautiful angel I was assigned.

She carries me when I am weak, picks me up when I fail, and rejoiceswith me when I succeed.

She has taught me that it’s okay to make mistakes and that my ponytails don’t have to be bump-free. She has taught me how to love but also how to stand up for myself.

Everything that I am and hope to be I owe to my mother. I wouldn’t be half of what I am today if not for her guidance, love, and support.

I could write pages about her forgiveness, kindness, strength, unconditional love… But no amount of words could ever express how grateful I am to have her in my life or just how much I love her.

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Single People Are Sharing What They Love Most About Being Single And It’s Legit Making Couples Jealous

Many people go through life looking to find that “perfect someone.” Society has created the ideology that the true measure of success lies with finding someone to spend your life with. However, not everyone in life is out there looking for a significant other. In fact,there are people all over the world who are happy and content being single. And while they are often looked down on for “forever alone,” there are a lot of great things about flying solo.

Recently, single people on Reddit have been sharing the best parts about being single and honestly—it’ll make you want to break up with your boyfriend/girlfriend and live that life.

1.

I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. I can spend money on myself with zero regard for what anyone else thinks. I don’t have to factor anyone else into my plans or life decisions.

–TheCorvus303

2.

Everything in my car and apartment is exactly where it should be.

–Scrappy_Larue

3.

Being able to sleep diagonally across my bed, so much space !

–spicednut

4.

i don’t have to chose between hanging with my friends or my SO

–CLEAN_WATER_

5.

Not getting dragged into lame events with her family that essentially ruin my weekend.

“Oh no, I totally want to drive three hours and hangout with your family this weekend. I had these crazy plans to relax, maybe go for a bike ride, have some beers by pool, go to a movie with our friends, etc. But you’re right, lets drive three hours away to listen to your family argue about politics, eat bland food, and sleep on a futon. Sounds great.”

–JohnyUtah_

6.

I’m free of the constant anxiety of if I’m being a good boyfriend.

–BlanketCop

7.

All of my shit is exactly where I left it when I get home.

My bed is still made, my dishes are still done, my food is still there, my clothes are still clean, and nothing is missing from my cash stash.

If I want to stay up late and watch movies or listen to music, I can.

If I want to go to bed early, and use the whole damn bed, I can.

If I want to go out and have a few drinks with my friends, I can.

I never have to laugh at unfunny memes’ found on FaceBook, or explain why I’m laughing so hard at anything.

I never have to justify my joy.

I’m my own person. Full, complete, and content.

And no one can drain that from me.

–helljack

8.

the fact that I have no obligations to anyone on a daily basis (outside of my family and shit). all I gotta do is worry about myself. also I get to use all my money for me

–ConnorOB1522

9.

That stuff can just happen. If I want to change my entire weekend plans, bam – done. If I stumble upon a thing that happens and want to participate, boom – done. If I don’t want to talk to anyone, ka-blam – done.

–frerky5

10.

Nobody is cheating on me.

–Latter45

11.

Not having to share your food.

–spiderBlastoise

12.

I enjoy not worrying about their success. Life can be difficult, so supporting an SO and putting personal struggles on the back burner to do so can be exhausting.

–Minnesota-

13.

not having to worryabout texting someone back

–pandapwz

14.

Being carefree and careless

–LeftHandBandito_

15.

Not to have buying presents and gifts for your girlfriend/boyfriend.

–TorfinnD

16.

I can fart whenever.

No guilt.

–Mwuuh

17.

What I liked most about the single life vs. living together with my ex, is getting solid alone time. I like hanging out with people, but I need one or two nights a week just being by myself to keep sane.

–rbbdrooger

18.

The fact that I can just talk to my (female) friends and no-one gets jealous or gets the wrong impression.

–sybert123

19.

I can masturbate to anyone i want

–Zoiidy

20.

I love that I’m no longer being emotionally tortured and made to feel like I’m not any sort of priority, even to the person I made to be my priority. Now I’m the most important person in my world, and I can do whatever I want with no compromises.

–Crownfall

h/t: Reddit