Patience and Love

Anything worth having, whether it is a friendship or your next love story, takes time to bloom. Each requires both parties to be on the right page. I am going to use my best friend in this example because despite the fact that I love her to death and I cannot picture who I am or what I would be without her, our friendship has needed so much time to get to where it is today. Any relationship involves two unique individuals with their own experiences and timelines. We grew up together and spent the first few years of our lives being annoyed at each other.

Fifth grade we finally became real friends. 7^th grade drama came around and our friendship was pulled apart by outside influences and necessary circumstances. We both had a bitch phase that we needed to grow out of and pride to suck up. Coincidentally, we ended up at the same high school so this friendship was able to bloom and breathe on its own. And we have been able to maintain it going to different colleges and a 2 hour distance involving texting every day and copious amounts of effort.

I am partially a believer in the mantra “fuck those who don’t make an effort to be in your life”, but that is selfish and limiting. Yes, you should not wait around for those people and mope around that they don’t want to be there, but we should also give them leeway and understand that they have their own battles and hurdles to overcome. A person will come around through their own will and means and not when it is convenient for us. If that person comes back into your life and you understand this journey they had to go through to make it here then you have a good starting point for a lasting relationship. Don’t wait around for a person to change but when they do, meet them where they are rather than keeping the door closed.

When it comes to a new possible relationship, it is also helpful to keep this mindset because that person will not always be in the same place as you are and trying to force them to feel something they don’t can only push them away. Some people need time for overcoming solidarity, unpacking their baggage or coming back into the world of dating. It is great when two people are in the same place and everything clicks into place, but life isn’t always sunshine and roses. People are constantly changing and evolving and it is our job as fellow humans to respect this divine process as Charles Darwin would have us do. I, for one, hope to evolve into Charizard and bring my relationships alive with the fire of my sassy personality. Keep it classy, bitches.

Being Patient And Its Benefits

Patience. They say it’s a virtue.

What it really is, though, is a lifeline. Dictionary.com defines patience as “the bearing of provocation, annoyance, misfortune, or pain, without complaint, loss of temper, irritation, or the like.” Because patience allows a person to refrain from extraordinary reactions where they likely aren’t warranted. And patience can provide peace of mind for the person who practices it. Additionally, being patient makes it possible for people around you to experience a similar relief.

If one can handle the pressure of life while maintaining a level of patience, great things can happen. Check them out:

You will experience a more beautiful life.

Without a cloud of frustration fogging your take on the world, you have the potential to appreciate more in your life. And you will learn to slow things down, while weighing the experiences testing your emotions against the consequences of them. Moreover, you will absorb the experiences for what they are – learning ones, trying ones, or wasteful ones.

If you can experience life with a sense of patience, you will be better equipped to sit with the reality of those experiences. And make them positive encounters. That means you will see a traffic jam as a reason to look into other routes before your next commute. And understand that a child’s tantrum is a way for them to learn about boundaries. So rather than letting these be inconveniences that have ruined the course of your day, you soak up the good vibes.

Your relationships will benefit.

When you exhibit patience among your friends and family, you will find that your interactions go more smoothly. And that you can enjoy their company far more. Patience means to accept the way that life is unfolding.

Certainly, when people take advantage of your patience by consistently being late for dinner dates or not putting away their dishes after eating on them, you have a right to be upset.

But patience will aid you in these experiences, however, because you can approach any issue with a sense of calm seriousness, rather than clouded emotion. Try this out and watch your relationships change before your eyes.

You will become better at your job.

Even at workplaces where urgency is critical, patience can make you a more effective employee. Stress can simply pull the mind away from what matters most, instead of zeroing in on priorities. When you practice patience, you will see that stress becomes less of a barrier to success. You will handle coworkers and clients with more tact. And you will not put the same pressures on yourself as you typically might under other circumstances. So you will better be able to evaluate your own output.

A patient person can be a happier person. And happiness at work is currently underrated. Invest in your patience and see your productivity and workplace satisfaction flourish.

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The Key to a Happy Heart is Patience