28 Things To Know Before Dating Someone Who’s Adorably Clumsy

Clumsy Love

We should wear a warning. Maybe we make the wrong moves, but our intentions are always innocent. We still manage to get through the day in one piece. If we’re with you, you’ll always have someone to laugh with…or at.

We’re more likely to fall over during a date than fall in love with our date.

But as we’ve learned from our unexplainable bodily movements, nothing is impossible.

Normal people trip on cracks in the sidewalk…

We trip on flat floors.

It’s not that we’re clumsy…

It’s just that gravity hates us.

For us, making an effort in a relationship is us trying not to accidentally hurt you when we’re being affectionate.

We’re used to staring at you really hard after we make a sudden movement.

…because we’re trying to figure out Did I just hurt you?

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19 Things To Know Before Dating Someone With An Outgoing Personality But An Anxious Mind

Outgoing people with anxious minds – or minds that over-think – tend to feel anxiety the most intensely. We’ll never talk about it, but the truth is our self-angst is maxed out. Our personalities are confident, bold, calm even. But our minds are anxious and we require a special type of nurturing that you’re not used to, but it’ll definitely be worth it.

1. We probably won’t make the first move.

And might ignore you the first time even if you do, but we’re not disinterested.

2. Be patient.

We don’t date just to date. Don’t let our outgoing personalities fool you – we can also be mind-numbingly introspective, questioning everything. Our over-thinking and our apprehension to immediately trust someone are, in fact, what makes us very selective about who we surround ourselves with.

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10 Legit Challenges Of Being Low-Key Sarcastic

Being low-key sarcastic means not being straightforward with your sarcasm. It could either be because you prefer to keep your sarcasm under the wraps or because it’s so good that you might lose friends if shown.

Whatever the reason, being low-key sarcastic does come with its own challenges:

1. Your friends are often surprised by what comes out of your mouth…

…because you’re not straightforward with your sarcasm. At all. So in the event that you are which is usually when you’re drunk, they’re caught off guard.

2. It takes time for people to get it.

You have to wait a few minutes before the person realizes you’re being sarcastic or else they give you an awkward look. It’s why being sarcastic can be socially risky for you.

3. You love using puns…

…but not too much because you don’t want to be annoying. When you do use them, they’re very subtle and always intended.

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20 Things You Only Understand If You Love Spending Time Alone

There are two kinds of people in this world—those who love to be surrounded by people all of the time, whether they are out, home, or on the go, and those who love being alone in their silence, solitude, and bed. Not to say that one person is better than the other, but they are total polar opposites. Some people love human contact, others despise it. And, there are just somethings you totally understand if you’re a “me, myself, and I” person.

1. Being alone means there is absolutely zero judgment at all. Zero. None. Negative none.

2. You can walk around without pants on and not have to worry about a damn thing.

3. You can eat whatever you want, at any time of day, and have no one to tell you otherwise. Ice cream for breakfast? Bring on the damn sprinkles.

4. You have a list of excuses that you run through on a regular basis to get out of plans with people you really don’t want to do—like, your mom needs help moving, your sister needs you to babysit the kids, your super is coming to fix the kitchen sink.

5. Ordering food for one is way cheaper than ordering for two-three and having to figure out how to split the Seamless/Postmates bill.

6. You know vegging out on the couch with your show to binge watch with some wine is way better than having to go to a club and rub up against sweaty and annoying strangers who keep touching you without your permission.

7. There is no pleasure quite like lighting a candle in your bedroom and snuggling under the covers with a good book.

8. Relationships are hard to get into because your personal time is more precious than anything else you can imagine.

9. And, the worst thing you can deal with is dating someone who wants to be with you or see you on an everyday basis. No thank you.

10. You don’t understand why people feel the need to text all day, every day. Having time away from the rest of the world is special.

11. People think that you’re a weirdo or a loner because you’re not always out doing something with other people.

12. But, in reality, you are constantly doing something—just solo.

13. Traveling alone is one of your all-time dreams. And, you have no problem going to a new country all by yourself.

14. You think that people who need to go with someone everywhere (including running errands, or going to the hair salon, or even traveling) are crazy and dependent.

15. People always say you’re the most independent person they’ve ever met.

16. You always people-watch and study body language when you’re out, thinking about their stories and where they come from.

17. You don’t understand why people hate eating by themselves.

18. People never worry about you if they haven’t heard from you in a while because they know you’re always around, just under the radar.

19. The only person you’d ever consider spending your life with is someone who is just as independent as you are because you cannot imagine having to do everything with someone else tied to your side all of the time.

20. You wouldn’t trade your alone time in for anything in the world—except, maybe, a million dollars.

19 Signs That Someone Is Actually Worth Trusting

Putting your trust into someone can be difficult to do. In fact, many of us have trust issues. Either someone screwed us over, or we just don’t like putting our all into people knowing that in the end, they can completely turn on us. But, while everyone may seem like they cannot be trusted, there are some good ones out there that are trustworthy and loyal. How do you know? Thanks to the wonderful people of Reddit, you can use these as “signs” whether or not someone is a good seed.

1.

They sit down to talk to me.

I know it’s weird. But when I started in a new position at my job last fall I was working with people I didn’t know too well, and this woman came into my office to ask if I had something they needed to borrow (we’re a little disorganized, they needed one of the 3 computers chillin in the cabinet). And she asked why I had my laptop out since I have a desktop too. I was explaining that my internet wasn’t working because the computer is 900 years old and it’s not even worth calling IT because it just needs to replaced (seriously it had windows XP guys). And this woman SAT DOWN next to me to listen to my answer, and smiled as we talked briefly. And I have just felt very comfortable in her presence ever since. She’s so sweet.

–mathxjunkii

2.

Complimenting someone behind their back.

–toothinspector

3.

People who automatically introduce you to a new crowd. Instead of them jumping into conversation with their buddies and you’re standing there awkwardly.

–Juicy_Thotato

4.

When they really, truly care about what you’re talking about. Not out of any ulterior motive or anything, just because the person cares.

–bloodblondie

5.

I met someone for the first time who instead of asking me what I do for a living, they asked what I am passionate about.

The question felt so sincere that it shocked me at first. It made it really easy to give more than a quick two-word answer. So I guess genuine interest did it. Small talk just isn’t my thing.

–endangeredRedpanda

6.

They make a point to include the person who constantly gets talked over/ignored in the group. It shows they not only notice that everyone is ignoring them, but that they care.

–Sabora12

7.

Nice to animals/those weaker than themselves even when no one’s watching.

–Lovelyladykaty

8.

I watched a woman the other day on her phone. She looked over her shoulder at a homeless man trying to sleep outside of a timmies. Turned her head back and continued talking and then said wait hold on I’ll call you back.

Lady then woke the guy up super gently and asked him if he needed some food because she’s heading into Tim Horton’s and came back with a whole meal for this guy completely unprompted.

–googleyedjack

9.

Taking out both earbuds/headphones when you’re talking to them. Just makes me feel like they’re genuinely listening to me instead of the usual “one in one out” that some people do.

–Exoquell

10.

If they actually throw away trash instead of littering. Even better if they keep their trash in their pockets before throwing it out.

–BaldMexicans

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10 Things All Outgoing Loners Will Understand

Outgoing loners are compelling humans because we get called ‘intense’ but never actually overwhelm anyone – in fact, we often energize the people around us. We’ve never been told to shut up for talking too much, but we can talk a lot with certain people, and often with our hands, maybe even too much.

Sometimes we’ll have those “OH MY GOD I NEED TO BE AROUND PEOPLE?? days, and sometimes, we’ll sort of isolate ourselves, definitely needing to be alone to recharge our social batteries after we come home from work.

Certain people and crowds can recharge our batteries too, but we’re definitely not as simple as either being a loner or really outgoing..we fall somewhere in between, but exactly where we fall is a conundrum…

1. It took us years to figure out that we don’t actually love to talk

We just surround ourselves with people who we connect with on a deeper level, so we can talk to them for hours, about everything. But overall we actually kinda hate talking because we feel like most conversations are pretentious and we’d prefer not to be involved.

2. It all depends on the company.

We ebb and flow between over-thinking before we speak, to saying whatever is on our mind – with zero filters or shame.

3. That goes for everything in our life, too.

One moment we’re over-thinking everything – we’ll delete texts, hesitate over writing emails and Facebook messages, delete and re-write tweets. And the next we’re living in the moment, thoughts that spark in our mind come out of our mouth and we really don’t give a damn about how we’re perceived by others.

4. It’s not that we don’t love meeting new people and hearing about their lives, we do.

It’s just that it has to feel authentic, we will never do something just to say we did it; we have to be genuinely interested. We’ll never talk just to hear the sound of our own voice. If we feel like the company is ungenuine, we will get really uncomfortable, and most likely withdraw into ourselves.

5. That’s why social situations can be tricky.

We can be loners but not because we dislike people – it’s actually the opposite. We dislike the barriers like small talk (which often comes with going out) creates between people, and try to avoid it at all costs.

6. Dating is weird.

Like extroverts – we can be extremely charming, laughing and being very talkative, genuinely having fun and connecting on a date. But then, we won’t want to answer their texts for a few days, because like, we just want to be left alone…

7. Because this facet is such a contrast to our big, bold personalities.

It’s really hard to explain to friends. But we really do have a tendency to isolate ourselves to recharge and be left alone with our thoughts.

8. It’s especially hard to keep up with old friends.

It’s not a lack of love or interest – we always have mad love for them. Sometimes we’re just not so good at replying and talking on the phone. It’s not personally – we screen our phone calls, even from our closest friends.

9. Outgoing loners sometimes hate the phone.

Because it’s all, like, intrusive and tears our minds away from whatever we’re deeply focusing on (and we are always deeply focusing on something).

10. Our mind doesn’t change direction easily.

Listening to one thing and seeing something else is a lot of sensory input piled on top of everything that’s already going on in our heads. But when we do see our friends, there is nothing in the world we’d rather be doing.

10 Struggles Of Being An Old Soul But Also Spontaneous At The Same Time

On one hand, we’re very old school – we feel like we just don’t fit in with this hook-up culture where Facebook is an attractive people menu and everyone has one eye wandering at the options. But on the other hand, we couldn’t be more spontaneous.

It’s like our head and heart are a paradox all within themselves. We feel as though we’re always going back and forth between searching for security, but also never wanting, or actually never being able to settle for a life that is “normal.”

1. Enigmatic traits rule our life.

On one hand we value stability, but on the other hand, we also require a lot of freedom in our lives and in our relationships, so it can get a bit tricky.

2. We have a lot of conflicting emotions.

At times we need some time alone to reflect but sometimes we’ll just need you to get us out of our heads. We’re often conflicted about what we want – it’s very hard to find the balance between our big hearts and our creative, constantly thinking minds.

3. We need freedom but…

We also need a lot of security from the people we surround ourselves with. If we feel secure with you but also that you give us independence, we will really thrive.

4. We’re unconventional in everything except our relationships.

In our personal lives, we’re very old school. If we’re involved with someone in any way, it means we feel a connection that goes beyond the surface level. Try as we might, we will never be able to have a casual encounter with someone who was romantically involved with, we can’t just “date” or “Netflix and chill.”

If we like someone, we really like them and we either get into a relationship where we know that we’re putting our time and energy into something that will ultimately pay off or end in a serious commitment… or we’re just not going to bother. We’re either 100 percent in, or we’re out.

5. We love old-school romance and dates.

Take us dancing, not grinding at the club dancing, but the old-fashioned dancing, cheek to cheek, and we’ll actually melt. The same goes with all the old-fashioned stuff, like calling us – (it’s sad that making phone calls is now considered a dying art) or picking us up for a date.

We need our romantic experiences to have a deeper meaning. So yeah, if we get romantically involved with you it means we won’t stand for communication that’s detached or impersonal. What can we do; we want and need real passion.

6. But our lives couldn’t be further from conventional.

We hate the concept of how things “should be.” We couldn’t live a “normal” life if we tried. We have no desire to follow the pre-determined form which means we will never just accept something, we question everything and investigate things for ourselves.

In our careers, we see right through existing structures and methods, and all the ways they’re terribly inept and unnecessary. It’s our intolerance of how things are “suppose to be” that has sparked us to innovate the lives we actually want to live.

7. Communication is actually the greatest form of intimacy to us.

Communication is one of the greatest forms of intimacy to us. Old souls are very cerebral people. Hearing about your history, learning about the way you look at life, and how you understand the world around you based on your past experiences, is exactly what helps us to better connect with the person we’re dating. None of your stories are unimportant. We want to hear it all.

8. We also see the world and our life on a much larger scale.

We’re old school romantics at heart – even our constantly thinking, mind-numbingly introspective minds can’t stop us from believing in ‘the one,’ but we still see breakups and problems as a learning experience and consider our struggles as just a part of our overall journey.

9. Our lives consist of always searching for ways to improve things.

We see the potential for humanity and have a lot of faith and expectations so this can sometimes be the cause of a lot of pain and disappointment, but that still won’t stop our creative minds from making plans to execute our big goals and dreams.

We’re always thinking outside the box, for lack of a less cliché term.

10. But in our romantic lives, at times we need someone to ground us.

Sometimes our view of love and romance is too romantic, we can idealize and romanticize things too much and become let down by our own expectations. We love when someone can get us out of our heads and make us live in the moment.

10 Ways People With A Hard Shell (But Soft Center) Love Differently

People who have a hard shell don’t really let others onto their feelings. They seem cool and aloof on the outside, but inside, they’re just like anyone else, wanting to love and be loved.

1. They blush on the inside.

Though they might respond to your compliments with a quick “thank you??? and an averted gaze, it’s not because they don’t appreciate it – they’re hanging onto your each and every word. It’s just that they internalize it a bit more.

2. They prefer to show, not tell.

People often have this idea that people with a hard shell simply don’t have any feelings – but it’s the depth of their feelings that makes it so difficult for them to talk about it. If they get started, they might just end up crying. So just when you think they’re off on another planet when you try to have pillow talk with them, they’ll be the first to graze up behind you for a spooning sesh.

3. They’ll go out of their way to please you with thoughtful gestures.

Since they’re not so good at talking about their feelings, they’ll make sure to show you how they feel. Think sweet surprises, breakfast in bed. Or a text when they’re out with their friends – anything to let you know you haven’t left their mind. And aren’t going to leave anytime soon, either.

4. They appreciate their space.

And if you don’t smother them in the beginning, they’ll be drawn to you even more. Eventually, they’ll want to get rid of the space between the two of you altogether – but they need to take their time to make sure they fully trust you.

5. Though they’ve put up walls, they’re there for a reason.

People with a hard shell can often seem cool and indifferent – like they don’t need anybody. But it’s often an act they’re putting on to mask previous heartbreak.

6. They ain’t about that tacky PDA life.

The thing that really gets them is a simple, powerful act, like holding your gaze in a room full of people, or standing just a bit closer to you so that your arms slightly graze past each others. Something invisible to others, but visible to the two of you.

7. They’ll make you feel like you’re in on a secret when you’re out with them.

Their attention is reserved for a special few, but because of that, it’s that much more intense. When you’re walking around with them on a hectic street, you won’t even realize other people are there.

8. They know how to pick their battles.

They’ll let go of the small, unimportant things, without letting them build up. But if they bring up an issue, it means that they’re really hurting about it.

9. If they fight with you, they really care about you.

The bright side is that if they do bring something up, they must really, really care about the relationship. Otherwise, they wouldn’t have said anything in the first place. But if they’ve tried enough and they still feel like they’re not important to you, they’ll retreat as far back as possible – to the point where your existence pretty much becomes irrelevant.

10. They’re incredibly loyal.

At the end of the day, they’ll move mountains for you. They’ll be there for the little things, like celebrating a promotion or a raise. But they’ll also be the one to go with you to the doctor’s office or help you drive your first uHaul when you’re moving into a new apartment.

10 Signs You’re The Quirky Friend In Your Group

Every group of friends is made of different personality types. There’s the gossip, the overthinker, the old soul…and you, the “quirky” one. Maybe you’ve been called a goofball, living somewhere between awkward and weird, a few miles outside the box.

If you’re one of those awesome people that makes life a lot more fun for everyone else around, then you most likely share some of these quirky qualities:

1. We have questionable conversations.

At some point, you’ve gone on and on about what you think your life would be as an astronaut, or an avocado (or you’re maybe considering a career as an astronaut…or an avocado). We tend to talk about things people think of but are too embarrassed to talk about. We have to work out the crazy things that run through our fuzzy minds and we’re pretty grateful to have friends to work it out with…even if they might get a little weirded out about them.

2. Going out for us is always random…and a little scary.

Quirky friends redefine the concept of hanging out. Going out for us is mini-twerking while waiting for our burritos at Chipotle, skipping or doing cartwheels down a bridge, dancing on a ferris wheel, shopping for top hats at thrift stores, and more. There is no such thing as “chilling” with us quirks because “chilling” with us will be an indie film-like adventure. So be prepared, be very prepared.

3. We have outrageous dress codes.

For us, fashion is the perfect opportunity to express our creativity. Quirky friends love to add that flair to their wardrobe – brightly colored corsets with long skirts, large red bow ties as tube tops, kaki trench coats, sunflower crowns (and this isn’t just for girls – quirky guys can get away with these things, too!) – the list goes on. We pick out outfits that make our friends scratch their heads, yet nod in approval at the same time because as strange as our fashion is, it’s also alluring.

4. We notice the weirdest things about our friends…

that they don’t even know themselves. It’s true that quirky see quirky in this case. We’ve pointed out to our friends about how their freckles look like a birthmark, how often they put eyeliner on in a day, or the adorable look on their face before they sneeze. It’s not because we’re stalkers, we just really love our friends…maybe a little too much.

5. We speak in run-on sentences.

The dialect of quirkiness is speaking in sentences that can go on for paragraphs without going off topic. A conversation with a friend about a weird guy you met on the train can become a novella that lacks periods and commas, “This guy who was sitting next to me on the train told me he could travel to other universes, can people really do that? I think I saw something like that on the Discovery channel, actually. It was like Interstellar…come to think of it, he did look a little like Matthew McConaughey. Do you think…” On the plus side, our friends never get bored with us.

6. Platypus!!

That’s it…just felt like randomly and excitedly typing “platypus.”

7. We get excited…like really excited.

Whether it’s seeing a little golden retriever at the park or Tom Hiddleston on screen or hot dog stands, your friends have to get ready for your cry of excitement. When quirky people get excited, they get really excited. Our friends enjoy watching us jump up and down, twirling them around, and the wringing of our hands every time we see something that pinches our hyper nerves.

8. We always twist our “rites of passage.”

Nobody would be surpirised that your first ‘seven minutes in heaven’ consisted of pitching someone’s nipples or your prom night involved you table dancing. We always get nervous during bar conversations about “rites of passage.” Our friends will talk about their hilarious first times or getting their licenses, while we sit there looking at our fingers, trying to see how we could talk about that time when we tried smoking weed for the first time and ended up running out of the house screaming because we thought we saw the Kool-Aid man in the flesh without sounding disturbed.

9. We’re not shy eaters.

Our friends always wonder where we put it all. Quirky people are usually foodies. We love trying different foods and we’re always the one person in the table who will get more than one appetizer. We’re not calm about it either. You’ve definitely hit the quirky line if you’ve attempted to feed your friends. Extra points if you made airplane sounds while doing it.

10. Cartoons and snacks are our Friday nights.

A bowl of popcorn mixed with M&Ms, skittles, and Reeses buttercups with episodes of Hey Arnold! ready to be watched on Netflix? That’s definitely our Friday night and we’re not secretive about it at all. Quirky people will proudly drag their friends along for the ride when it comes to these things. They may not like it, of course, but secretly, we know they love it.

Why Every Girl Needs To Be A Little More Unfiltered

She’s been called “crazy” many times just for having feelings and being unfiltered. Are human beings not supposed to have human emotions anymore? She must have missed the memo.

She used to hide her so-called-crazy. She used to apologize for it, but she won’t anymore because it’s just who she is. She’s a bold, crazy, unfiltered, brash, outspoken girl and she doesn’t give a single fuck.

1. She’ll never pretend to be someone she’s not.

She’s happy. She’s had bad relationships and great ones, been in love and fallen out of it. Trying to hide her true self only got her hurt.

Now she’s her authentic self at all times and her authentic self just so happens to be a badass bitch. Sorry, not sorry, that makes her pretty awesome.

2. She gets what she wants when she wants it, no games necessary.

Unfiltered girls tell the truth, even when it’s harsh. She asks the hard questions in the heat of the moment, goes with her instincts, and acts on what her conscience tells her.

And that’s why she gets what she wants. She says what she wants and fights for it when necessary; eventually, she gets it.

3. She never hides her true intentions.

If she only wants to sleep with him and keep romance out of it, she lets him know right away. If she’s falling for him, she tells him. When she’s in love, she says so, even if she’s scared or it’s “too soon.”

She won’t sugar coat shit. She knows what and who she wants. She wants a king, not a prince because she’s a queen, not a princess.

4. No one fucks with her… at least, not more than once.

Her reputation precedes her. She’s intimidating for a reason: to protect herself. She DGAF who’s scared of her or who calls her crazy (it’s actually a compliment at this point.)

Men know not to play with her heart like it’s silly putty. People who haven’t even met her already know her…well, they know that “she’s crazy.” Her resting bitch face helps deter the few who don’t.

5. She’s passionate and she’ll fight to keep the things she loves.

She knows how to love. She feels every feeling to the extreme, that’s why she acts on every little thing. Every pesky argument she starts comes from an uncontrollable place in her brain that’s directly connected to her heart.

She wouldn’t be worried that someone was lying to her if they didn’t matter. All of her craziness is pure, caring, and true; it’s dramatic, but it’s not an act. She doesn’t fight for people who aren’t worth it.

6. She’s herself, always, and there’s no one she’d rather be.

She has absolutely #nofilter. She says what she thinks when she thinks it. When she says “I’m fine,” she’s actually fine. She doesn’t have two personalities and she’ll never put on a show for anyone.

She will never change. Anyone who thinks that’s a bad thing can walk away – she won’t care. She’s not interested in wasting her time on people who want her to be different. She may be unfiltered, but she’s sure as hell never boring.