You might think she’s guarded. You might think she’s not worth it if she’s putting you through all of this. But you’re wrong. I’m sure she’s had her heartbroken and I’m sure she’s broken a few hearts of her own. It doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt either way.
When dealing with the ‘picky’ girl, there are just a few things you should know before getting involved:
1. She won’t waste your time
If you’re interested, go for it. However, the thing about the ‘picky’ girl is, she won’t string you along. She won’t lead you on. If she’s not interested in you, she is going to do you a favor and not play with your feelings.
2. She’s independent and always will be. Don’t expect it to change.
She’s always been independent but there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m sure it’ll take some getting used to but don’t think she isn’t going to be there for you. She will need her space and she will want you to have some time to yourself too. Whether that is hanging with your friends or family.
When she wants you around, know it’s for a reason and a good one at that. Don’t take advantage of it.
3. She won’t settle.
She is looking for her ‘Prince Charming’ or at least someone that makes her feel equivalent to how she thinks he would make her feel. Why? You ask. Well because boys (notice how I use that term appropriately) before you just didn’t live up to the standards. Those standards, well, she will stop at nothing to achieve them. So if you don’t measure up, I’m sure you’ll know.
4. Since she won’t settle, she is a hopeless romantic.
She might seem like she is easy-going, laid back, and low-maintenance but since she chose you…she’s going to expect a lot from you. Sweet stuff, surprises, romantic dates, etc. You know, like all those corny things guys do in the movies for girls they love? That is the expectation. It might seem silly to you but this is what her standards are. She wants you to fight for her.
5. She doesn’t believe that chivalrous guys still exist. So prove her wrong.
Do her this favor. Prove yourself. Prove that you’re different than any other guy she ‘talked’ to, dated, hung out with, is friends with, etc. This is why she is picky. She believes that none of you chivalrous guys are still around so, “Why bother?”
6. She’s confident.
You might think that being independent and being confident are pretty similar. You’re wrong. She knows what kind of girl she is and wants to be. She doesn’t need anyone else to tell her that. So, it is your job to show her that she does need you. Not specifically to make her confident, but in other ways.
So, let her be confident. It is the sexiest thing a girl can wear.
7. She is goal-oriented. So she’ll expect you to be, too.
There is a bar or ceiling that most people see. However, she goes above and beyond it. She’ll expect that from you. If you’re not goal-oriented or driven, then don’t bother. She can date herself instead if she’s going to have to drag you along with her.
8. She only believes in relationships that will better herself.
If the relationship she is in no longer serves her or grows her, she’s gone. There is no convincing her because as far as she is concerned, you’re most likely not going to be in her life.
And sooner or later, she will thank you for that.