(Un)scripted Romance: Hookup Dating through the Cinema Lens

Nowadays, everyone is talking about hookup culture, but that’s not a new phenomenon both for movies and real life. It has simply become popular because of online dating. In the past, people living in remote areas had low chances to hook up with someone new. Busy people were in a terrible position as well.

The point is that movies simultaneously show parts of a society. By doing that, they shape society because they might (start to) change their beliefs. Maybe someone overly ambitious steps on a break after seeing Andy Sachs (Anne Hathaway) almost lose everything in “The Devil Wears Prada.”

And then, some people start dreaming about their love at first sight and happily ever after just because they’ve watched a romantic movie. But how real is that nowadays? Let’s see.

Rom-coms vs. Real-world Hookups

Romantic comedies (rom-coms) often depict a glossy, idealized version of romantic encounters. Sometimes, they feel like fairy tales for adults. Before the happy ending, the director might treat us with some dating scenes in local settings to make it more realistic.

Yet, in the end, most rom-coms are solved by a grand gesture. And rom-coms tend to downplay the significance of time for creating genuine connections. Some make relationships seem very simple when the reality is far from that.

But hookups are not romantic. Someone browsing their local hookups sites isn’t dreaming about holding hands and walking in a park. They have other things in mind. And since movies often picture reality, our guess is that we’ll be seeing more movies about hookup culture, probably some mixes of rom-coms and casual local romance.

Maybe soon we’ll have a movie in which a busy project manager in her 20s decides that she should enjoy life, so she joins the local site that shows up after she searches “find hookups near me” on the web and hooks up with 32 guys during a 90-minute movie.

It’d be interesting to see from which angle they’d show narratives of local relationships because while some people are for hookups, some are against them. Nothing is ever black and white in life.

That’s why we love movies. Screenwriters and directors mix black and white into gray only to separate them in the end as either black (sad ending) or white (happy ending).

Let’s look at some examples in hookup movies.

Cinematic Implementation of Hookup Culture

Cinematic depictions of hookup culture often highlight the complexities, humor, and sometimes the consequences of casual local relationships. Here are a few examples from big movies:

● “Friends with Benefits” (2011): Starring Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis, this film explores the challenges of maintaining a purely physical relationship without evolving it into a local love story. It delves into the blurred lines between friendship and romance, reflecting the intricacies of modern hookup dynamics.
● “No Strings Attached” (2011): Featuring Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher, the film describes the problems that arise when emotions mix with hookups.
● “Trainwreck” (2015): Written by and starring Amy Schumer, this comedy shows the modern narratives of local relationships compared to traditional romantic norms. It follows a woman who embraces casual hookups until she stumbles upon the chance for real love.
● “Swingers” (1996): This indie film, starring Vince Vaughn and Jon Favreau, portrays the dating and hookup scene in Los Angeles. This is a good film portrayal of local dating in a city known for its transient relationships. Something many people can relate to nowadays.

Character Archetypes and Dating Dynamics

Archetypes contribute to the film portrayal of local dating in a way that resonates with audiences because they are universally understood (even if the audience isn’t aware of that). Here are the most common archetypes in romantic movies:

● The Charmer/Flirt – Excels in the initial stages of dating, leveraging charisma to hook up with, usually, whoever they want. Someone like Leo in The Wolf of Wall Street (2013).
● The Commitment-Phobe – Embodies the fear of emotional entanglement. Movies featuring that archetype usually have at least one local hookups scene, sometimes shown from a humorous angle.
● The Hopeless Romantic – Even in a hookup context, yearns for deeper connections. Their journey toward local love involves reconciling romantic ideals with the raw nature of hookup culture, adding depth to the narrative.
● The Player/Casanova – Navigates hookup dating with finesse, always looking for a nearby hookup. This archetype highlights the dynamics of casual dating.
● The Reformed Character – Undergoes personal growth through hookup experiences, transforming from someone avoiding commitment to someone open to genuine connections.

Learning from Cinematic Mistakes

Some people watch movies for the sake of entertainment. Others watch them because they know they can learn from narratives of local relationships shown in them. Movies are often like exaggerated everyday life. We can relate to situations in them, so it’s logical that we can use them to gradually change ourselves.

Someone who has been seeking local love for the last 4 years might try some hookup sites after watching a movie about casual dating. Or, someone experienced in casual dating might decide to seek love.

Cinema as a Hookup Date Icebreaker

Going to the cinema to watch a movie about casual dating with someone you’ve met on one of the hookup sites is a great icebreaker. It sets the tone for the night. A couple is more likely to hook up after watching a movie filled with excitement and sexual tension than after watching Jumanji.

 

10 Rom-Coms That Will Keep You Believing in True Love

A two-hour journey that will restore your faith in love again? Sounds too good to be true, right? Despite their sappiness, and sometimes completely unrealistic scenarios, rom-coms really have a way of giving us the slightest glimmer of hope that true love does exist. So grab your popcorn and your favorite cozy blanket and settle in for a full-on love fest with these 10 rom-coms.

1. Clueless (1995)

Falling in love with your former step-brother may sound gross, but ​Clueless​ is somehow able to make it totally acceptable. Spoiled socialite Cher (Alicia Silverstone) starts off only caring about clothes and being the most popular girl at her Beverly Hills high school. After a few failed dates and a successful attempt at setting up two of her teachers, she suddenly finds love in the most unexpected place. But will it last? If you think we’re going to tell you- as if! You’ll have to watch to find out.

2. Sweet Home Alabama (2002)

Imagine getting engaged to your dream man, only to discover you’re still married to your annoying ex-husband because he never signed the divorce papers. That’s exactly the predicament Melanie (Reese Witherspoon) finds herself in just months before her wedding. She’s forced to return to her roots in this heartwarming story about a second chance at love and having to choose between the past and the present in order to have the best future.

3. My Best Friend’s Wedding (1997)

Realizing you’re in love with your best friend right before his wedding seems like quite the dilemma- but it makes for some awesome laughs in this rom-com starring the exquisite Julia Roberts as Julianne. As she tries to sabotage the pending nuptials, she discovers that the soon-to-be bride is actually pretty amazing and struggles with whether or not to tell her best friend how she feels. What will she decide to do on the big day? The anticipation is killing us!

4. 10 Things I Hate About You (1999)

You’ll find plenty of teenage angst in this humorous story about the most unexpected high school romance. Tomboy Kat has absolutely no time for hearts and flowers- especially not with her arch nemesis at school, Patrick (played by the late Heath Ledger). As Patrick starts chipping away at Kat’s hardened heart, will she discover what true love actually is, or will she stay bitter forever and miss out on a once-in-a-lifetime romance?

5. 27 Dresses (2007)

Always a bridesmaid, never a bride. That’s a saying that’s held true for Jane (Katherine Heigl)- until now. As she begins to process the news that her little sister is getting married to her boss (whom she’s had a crush on for years), Jane realizes that she’s tired of always being the bridesmaid. She wants her chance at everlasting love. Enter Kevin- a reporter covering her sister’s wedding who knows exactly what buttons to push to drive Jane crazy. As Kevin interviews her for the story, he starts falling for his subject. But will Jane fall too? You’ll have to watch til the end to find out.

6. Sixteen Candles (1984)

Jake Ryan! Need we say more? Awkward teen Samantha (Molly Ringwald) thinks turning 16 will be the best day of her life. Turns out it’s anything but. Her family forgets her birthday and her crush stands her up at the school dance. There are plenty of cringe-worthy moments in this story that lead up to perhaps one of the sweetest moments in all of rom-com history. Will Samantha finally win Jake’s heart? The romantic in us desperately hopes so!

7. 50 First Dates (2004)

Imagine finding a man who makes you fall in love with him all over again, each and every day. That’s exactly what happens in this super sweet rom-com starring Drew Barrymore as Lucy and Adam Sandler as Henry. Lucy suffers from short-term memory loss, which means she can’t remember that she’s in a relationship. That doesn’t stop Henry from wanting to be with her, though. In fact, it only makes him more determined to win over the girl of his dreams.

8. The Proposal (2009)

Sandra Bullock is the queen of rom-coms, and this movie is no exception. She plays Margaret, an overbearing book editor who forces her handsome assistant Andrew (played by the lovable Ryan Reynolds) to marry her so she won’t get deported back to her native Canada. Most of Andrew’s family in Alaska are supportive of his upcoming nuptials (including his adorable grandmother, played by the phenomenal Betty White), but as the wedding day nears, Margaret starts having second thoughts. Will they end up getting married, or will Margaret head back to Canada and leave Andrew free to find the love of his life?

9. 13 Going on 30 (2004)

Jennifer Garner has never been more endearing than in this heartwarming story about falling in love with your childhood best friend. Garner plays Jenna, a 13-year old who makes a wish on her birthday to be “thirty, flirty, and thriving”. When she opens her eyes, her wish has come true, but being 30 isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. She runs across her childhood best friend Matt (played by Mark Ruffalo) and suddenly all she wants is to go back in time so she can redo the last 17 years. Is it possible to undo her wish? Watch to find out!

10. How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days

You can’t have a rom-com list without including a Matthew McConaughey film. He stars opposite the always-funny Kate Hudson, who plays Andie- a writer trying to nab the job of a lifetime. In order to land that dream job, she has to write a feel-good piece about how to lose a guy in 10 days, but there’s just one problem. She ends up falling in love with the subject of her story. Will she choose love over her career, or is there a way she can have both? We promise the ending will give you ALL THE FEELS.
Does true love exist? These rom-coms sure make us believe it does, even if only for a few fleeting moments.

About The Author

Lindsay is a writer and single mom whose mission is to remind other women going through a divorce or breakup that they are strong, beautiful, and worthy of all the good things life has to offer. You can find more of her writing on her blog or follow her on Instagram.

13 Borderline Unbelievable Behind-The-Scenes Facts About Romantic Movies

There’s something about romantic movies that make us truly believe in the power of love. Between the perfect casting, a wonderfully adorable script, and scenic destinations—romantic films can make anyone believe in “true love.” But, as with all movies, there are tons of things that happen behind-the-scenes that make even the sappiest movies hilarious (and honestly, even better).

1. The director of The Notebook cast Ryan Gosling because he’s “not handsome.”

In an interview with Vanity Fair, Gosling said:

Cassavetes called me to meet him at his house. When I got there, he was standing in his backyard, and he looked at me and said, ‘I want you to play this role because you’re not like the other young actors out there in Hollywood. You’re not handsome, you’re not cool, you’re just a regular guy who looks a bit nuts.

2. Emma Stone had a breakdown when she had to film the “dirty dancing scene” in Crazy, Stupid, Love.

While filming the scene at Gosling’s house where Stone leaps into his arms a-la Dirty Dancing, the actress had a full-on meltdown. According to Stone, she suffered a freak accident while doing gymnastics as a kid and broke both of her arms. They ended up using a body double to film the actual scene. Crazy.

3. Alicia Silverstone actually didn’t know how to pronounce “Haitians” in Clueless.

Like her character, Silverstone had made the mistake IRL when trying to pronounce Haitians during her speech scene. Director Amy Heckerling told Entertainment Weekly:

The first day we shot the scene in debate class and Alicia said, ‘Hate-i-ans’ instead of ‘HaitiansEverybody started to run up to her to tell her she was wrong. I had to stop them. It’s SO much funnier the way she said it. That was Cher.

4. The director of When Harry Met Sally—Rob Reiner—showed Meg Ryan exactly how he wanted her to fake her orgasm…in front of his own mother.

Who can forget Ryan’s memorable f-orgasm in Katz’s Deli (side-note, I recreate the scene every time I’m knee-deep in a pastrami sandwich at Katz’s). Reiner told The Daily Beast he sat across the table from Billy Crystal and showed Ryan just what he wanted…and his mother had been there, too.

She did two or three [takes], and she did it kind of weakly…I think she was nervous about having to do it in front of the cast, crew, and everybody. And finally, I said, ‘Here, Meg—this is what I’m looking for.’ And I sat down opposite Billy and I acted it out. I pounded the table again and again going, ‘Yes! Yes! Yes!’ and when we were done, I turned to Billy and said, ‘Uh-oh, I just realized I had a huge orgasm in front of my mother!'”

5. Jason Segel actually went through the “naked breakup scene” from Forgetting Sarah Marshall in real life.

Everyone remembers the epic scene in the movie where Sarah dumps Jason’s character while he’s naked eating cereal (who can forget?!?) Turns out, it happened to Segel in real life.

That scene is autobiographical. I got broke-up with while naked in real life. My girlfriend had been out of town and she called me from the airport like, ‘Hey are you at home? I’m back, can I come over?’ And I thought, ‘Yeah, okay, I know what’s about to happen.’ So when she got there I was waiting for her like Burt Reynolds, and she said, ‘We need to talk.’ Then this break-up commences.

6. Melissa McCarthy based her character from Bridesmaids on none other than Guy Fieri, the mayor of Flavortown.

McCarthy said that when they asked her what she wanted, she got hella specific.

They [the costume team] were like, ‘What is it that you want?’ and I was like, ‘I want to dress like Guy Fieri. I tried to get this in the movie, but it didn’t make it in, but every time I took off my sunglasses, I’d put them on the back of my head.

7. The 40-Year-Old Virgin almost didn’t get made into a film because studios thought Steve Carell’s character seemed too much like a serial killer.

While it goes down as one of the funniest comedies ever, it almost didn’t get made. Carell said:

After the first week Universal pulled the plug. So we had to go in, we had only been shooting for five days, and they said ‘we’ve been watching footage and…you look like a serial killer,”We hadn’t shot any dialogue! It was me riding my bike with a weird helmet and me walking down the street and seeing suggestive posters. Just that week compiled they went ‘Oh no, this is NOT a comedy.’

8. During the filming of Love & Other Drugs, Anne Hathaway actually flashed the cast and crew by accident.

Hathaway told Hollywood Life that this particular scene always comes back to haunt her as one of the most embarrassing to film.

The scene where I have to remove my trench coat and be nude underneath. I thought we were filming, but it turned out we were just rehearsing and I got unnecessarily naked in front of a lot of people.

9. 10 Things I Hate About You’s film title was inspired by the co-writer Karen McCullah’s diary entry about a boyfriend she loathed.

I had a boyfriend named Anthony that I was frequently unhappy with. I made a list called ‘Things I Hate About Anthony.’ When Kirsten Smith and I decided to write this, I went through all of my high school diaries. When I told her about that list, she was like, ‘That’s our title.’ Anthony is very proud of that fact. We’re still friends today. Every now and then I’ll get a phone call in the middle of night: ‘My nephew doesn’t believe that this title is about me. Tell him.’ On the phone, I’m like, ‘Yes, I hated Anthony in high school.’

10. The director of No Strings Attached told Ashton Kutcher he was “taking too long to finish” while recording a sex scene.

According to Kutcher, the director had spoken to him about “finishing sooner.”

“Ivan [Reitman, the director] comes in and is like, ‘I think you need to orgasm sooner.” So you’re trying to, but your male machismo is like, ‘No, no, it would take me much longer than this!'”

11. Molly Ringwald wanted a completely different actor to play Jake Ryan in Sixteen Candles.

Ringwald told Entertainment Weekly:

It was between two men — well, young men. It was Michael Shoeffling, who ended up being cast, and Viggo Mortensen, who had just moved from Denmark. t got to the Jake Ryan shot, and we had the kissing scene. Michael Shoeffling did not kiss me during the audition — and Viggo Mortensen did. He made me weak in the knees. Absolutely.

12. Rita Wilson made Tom Hanks see Nia Vardalos’ one-woman show, and he immediately wanted to produce My Big Fat Greek Wedding.

Nobody would read [the script] and I didn’t have any representation, so I jumped on stage and started doing the material as a one-person show. I thought, ‘Well, the agents will come, and maybe I can play a bridesmaid. The next thing I know, Tom Hanks and Gary Goetzman, who had just formed Playtone, came to the show. Tom called me after and said, ‘I’m gonna make your movie.

13. David O. Russell originally wanted to cast Zooey Deschanel and Vince Vaughn to play the lead characters in Silver Linings Playbook. 

Although Jennifer Lawrence and Bradley Cooper landed the lead roles in the film, Russell originally didn’t have them in mind.

 I wrote this script five years ago and I rewrote it 20 times. And I thought I was going to make it with Vince Vaughn and Zooey Deschanel before I made The Fighter. And then it didn’t happen, for any number of reasons that were out of my hands.”

 

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