Your friends tell you, your parents tell you—sh*t, even their friends say something to you about it. There comes a time in some relationships where everyone starts telling you that you’re way too good for the person you’re dating. While I’m never one to say that you should believe when people tell you things about your relationship when they’re not involved in it—there are some key moments in your life where people are doing you more good than harm. If you’re constantly fighting with yourself to decide if the person you are with is “good” for you, there may be a bigger picture problem that you’re ignoring completely.
If you’re the one who is constantly going out of your way, giving 100% when they give maybe 45%, the one reaching out, the one making plans, the one who calls/texts first – there could be a very, very big reason. You may just be too good for the person you’re currently dating.
1. The people who know you best think you deserve better.
While you may not want to believe everything other people say about your own, personal life – the people who know you best are only going to want what’s best for you. If they’re telling you that you deserve better, finding reasons for you to leave the person you’re with – there could be a very good reason for it. They want you to be happy and also want you to be treated the way in which you deserve. Maybe you need to wake up and smell the coffee of the reality of things, no matter how much you love someone, they may not be the best person for you.
2. The person you’re with is jealous, insecure or always picking fights.
If you’re the type of person who allows your significant other to have freedom and independence, but they don’t reciprocate, it’s a big red flag. Jealousy and insecurity at times can be something to manage and work on in a relationship, but if someone is unwilling to change, you can’t force them. You can’t be allowing someone to have their freedom but be forbidden to do things, say things or wear things that you want at someone else’s expense. Don’t let someone stomp all over you, who you are and what you bring to the table.
Singer Adele—queen of the heartbreak songs—has recently announced she and her husband are getting a divorce. After dating for eight years and being married for three, she and Simon Konecki, are going their separate ways.
“They had a lot in common early on, but eventually they just grew apart. She became a bigger and bigger star, and he was okay [with] being in the background, but as she got bigger and had massive tours and intense schedules, they just grew apart.”
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Many fans are expected Adele to now drop the most gutwrenching album of all time—one that every woman could use in their life.
Adele just split from her husband. I think we all know what happens next…
And, while she has not dropped any new music just yet—Adele responded to the public news of her divorce with the most appropriate meme I’ve ever seen on social media. Shared on Instagram, the singer posted a side-by-side of herself, comparing her emotional state at this given time.
People online were floored and absolutely in love with Adele meme-ing herself during this trying time in her life.
Since the story broke online, multiple people in the Kardashian/Jenner circle have made comments online, basically confirming the reports to be true. Additionally, sources close to the family have stated that Thompson admitted to Khloé that he did hook up with Woods after she confronted him, and, that Kylie Jenner has since asked Woods to move out of her home, where she was living with Kylie and her daughter, Stormi.
Now, on Thursday, Khloé broke her silence through her Instagram stories by posting some cryptic and heartbroken quotes and images for fans and followers to see. The four images are incredibly telling to the situation she is currently in.
The first image is a quote that says, “the worst pain is gettin hurt by a person you explained your pain to,” which, clearly is directed at Jordyn Woods. It’s no secret that Woods has been close with the Kardashian and Jenner family for years—she’s even appeared in early seasons of Keeping Up with the Kardashians alongside a young, teenage Kylie Jenner. It’s probably true that she’s been around when Khloé had spoken about her relationship and situation with Thompson, so, seeing that she betrayed her like that—hurts.
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The second quote showcases that Khloé is trying to look at the betrayal—both from Thompson and Woods—as a blessing. She now knows that Thompson cannot be trusted, even after she was kind enough to give him a second chance. And, she knows that she’s not only helping herself, but the rest of the Kardashian and Jenner family (especially Kylie) by exposing Woods’ true colors.
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The third quote really tugs at the heartstrings, as a direct message to Thompson. She’s basically saying that she loved Thompson with honesty, truth, and patience, but Thompson continued to dog her and break her heart. This one hurts.
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The last image Khloé posted on her story was of a woman crying—one that looks like a cartoon version of KoKo herself (nails and all).
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People on Twitter were feeling for Khloé in her time of need and despair, feeling as though they wanted to nothing else but help her and send her positive vibes during this hurtful time in her life.
Came across this on Khloe’s Instagram, and I really feel for her. No woman should have to go through something like this. I hope you find what you’re looking for; I’m rooting for you!! Wishing you nothing but the best. Your fans love you!!! ❤️❤️❤️ @khloekardashianpic.twitter.com/r1I0nCSKGK
In all honesty, I feel for Khloé. Sure, it’s hard to be surprised that Thompson cheated on her again after she had already been cheated on by him with multiple girls (on camera), but, to be betrayed by someone who has been apart of your circle and your family for years—it hurts twice as hard.
I have written this note several times in my head for over a decade, and this one finally feels right. No edits, no overthinking. I have accepted hope is nothing more than delayed disappointment, and I am just plain old-fashioned tired of feeling tired.
I realize I am undeserving of thinking this way because I truly have a great life on paper. I’m fortunate to eat meals most only imagine. I often travel freely without restriction. I live alone in the second greatest American city (San Francisco, you’ll always have my heart). However, all these facets seem trivial to me. It’s the ultimate first world problem, I get it. I often felt detached while in a room full of my favorite people; I also felt absolutely nothing during what should have been the happiest and darkest times in my life. No single conversation or situation has led me to make this decision, so at what point do you metaphorically pull the trigger?
I’m going to miss doing NYT crosswords (I was getting really good). That one charcuterie board with taleggio AND ‘nduja. Anything Sichuan ma la, but that goes without saying. A perfect plate of carbonara (no cream!). Real true authentic street tacos. Cal-Italian cuisine. Hunan Bistro’s fried rice. The pork belly and grape mini from State Bird Provisions circa 2013. Popeye’s of course. Bambas too.
I’m also going to miss unexpected hugs. Al Green’s Simply Beautiful. Cherries in July. Tracing a sleeping eyebrow. Smoking cigarettes. The Golden Gate Bridge at sunset. That first sip of iced cold brew in sticky August. Making eye contact with people walking down the street. When songs feel like they’re speaking to your soul. Jeopardy. Saying I love you. Late night junk food binges. Shooting the shit. And especially the no-destination-in-sight long walks.
No GoFundMes, no funeral, no tributes, no doing-too-much please. All I ask now is for you to have one delicious (I mean a really really great) meal in my honor and let me go, no exceptions.
It’s selfishly time for me to be happy and I know you can get down with that. Please try to remember me as a whole human you shared memories with and not just my final act. This is not your fault. It’s not exactly easy for me either, I’m here for you. I love you. I always have and I always will, I promise. Shikata ga’nai.
I’m coming home, Dad. Make some room up on that cloud and turn the Motown up.
I’m really sorry mama.
Tara was found dead by police, with a strap around her neck, having hung herself. Our heartfelt condolences to Tara’s friends and family during this difficult time.
Recently, Netflix produced, aired, and renewed an original series called 13 Reasons Whybased on a novel “Thirteen Reasons Why” by Jay Asher. The book and show both focus around a high school student named Hannah Baker, a suicidal teenager in high school who experienced immense bullying and torment while trying to live in a society that perpetuates such acts. The show revolves around Hannah’s decision to end her life and a boy she liked, Clay, and their dual narratives on her life and the life that continued after her death.
While the show had a dark, haunting message and plot-line, when Netflix debuted the series, it had a much larger and rapid “cult-like” following than that of the novel. The novel was one I had read in my youth, but one that most teens had strayed away from due to its dark message. Much like “Go Ask Alice,” and books of that nature, many students in my classes strayed away from dark novels and decided to read something more “light-hearted.”
Now that there is a TV series putting the novel’s narrative in the real, 3D world—it has taken off in ways the book never could. And, although Netflix is monetizing on the series immensely, it is one that I refuse to watch nor promote, although I was a fan of the novel it is based on.
Many people who watch the series are that of Hannah Baker – young, Millennials that may have struggled in ways Hannah has struggled herself. The intended audience for the show in the series’ promotion were those who could relate to Hannah Baker, who had felt the same torment and pain she had felt in the show.
While many shows that target youth and discuss suicide and mental health awareness can be dark and dangerous to produce, it so happens that the majority of them attempt to give a message of optimism and hope—or, try to give a storyline of help. 13 Reasons Why, in my eyes, fails to do so.
From studies by lead adolescent psychologists I have read over the last several weeks, after the series took off, calls into suicide hotlines had increased by a large percent. As well, teenagers who had experienced bullying and other tormenting behaviors from peers were now writing on blogs and chat lines on the Internet about “following in the steps of Hannah Baker,” and “leaving letters behind to those who had wronged them.”
According to the U.S. Center for Disease Control and Prevention, suicide is the third highest cause of death for those aged 15-24. Lead adolescent psychologists have authored dozens of studies on the effects of media on teenagers and have discovered that teenage suicide is contagious. According to Dr. Harold S. Koplewicz:
“Teenage suicide is contagious. We know for over three decades that when kids watch television where they depict a suicide, they’re more likely to attempt and they’re more likely to actually (kill themselves).”
While Netflix argues that the show “opens the dialogue on suicide and depression amongst youth,” and can “push people to be kind and show empathy and support,” several scenes within the show, according to researchers, promote the opposite. Instead, the show promotes the idea that Hannah’s peers looked at her suicide as a cry for attention rather than an illness and an alarming call for help. In turn, her suicide in the show is painted as a way to “get revenge” on those who have wronged her and for them to realize they had been cruel by her tragic death.
The show, in the end, glamorizes suicide in a way that is a huge trigger towards youth who are depressed and suicidal. Many teens who experience these mental health issues feel alone and discouraged – needing support and help. What they received from this show was a huge push to do the wrong thing.
The reason I can’t come to support this show isn’t just because of the glorification of suicide, but a bigger issue amongst society as a whole. With the Internet and media becoming so invasive into people’s lives, we’ve become desensitized to important and major issues amongst individuals.
Suicide, which is something that should never be made into a joke, has become something that people laugh about – for example, when Aaron Hernandez recently committed suicide in prison, it was only hours before I saw memes appear on the Internet about dropping him in fantasy football drafts.
The more often these kinds of TV shows, series and content appear within society, the further we become desensitized towards human beings.
It’s been so long since you abandoned me, Dad, but people still ask about you. Most want to know how I’m doing without you, but sometimes they’ll ask how you are and I’m forced to admit I have no idea.
I don’t get too upset by the questions. But even if I refused to speak about you for the rest of my life, I’ll never be able to forget the morning you left.
Because other people don’t ever get it. They say I should be happy that you weren’t a deadbeat my whole life. And, I am thankful for the times when we were close, but that doesn’t mean I don’t ache over you every day.
I wish I could forget the day you chose to leave, but it’s burned into my memory. My life has never been the same.
I try to stay positive. I don’t want to be bitter, but it’s so damn hard.
Why did you break my heart? There was no logical reason. Many parents don’t live with their children, some get divorced and remarried but they still stay in contact. Why did you have to just abandon me?
Something in you changed and took my Dad away. Maybe it was unresolved pain or depression. Maybe it was pure selfishness. Whatever the culprit, I hope you overcome it someday.
Yes, sometimes I scream that I hate you and will never be okay, but I know I will be. I don’t really hate you. You’ve done something I don’t think I will ever forgive, but I’ll always love the person you used to be.
I hope you find happiness because I don’t hate you. Our relationship is marked by things you used to be, but you are always going to be my dad, that will never change.
Next time I see you, I hope I see something different in you, a smile or some confidence. Something I can’t see now. And if I don’t ever see you again, I hope you love your new life, Dad.
Because I am your daughter and I will never stop loving you. Even if you stopped loving me.