4 Reasons Every Girl Should Model For A Boudoir Photoshoot

It’s promiscuous, it’s too ris-kay, whatever naysayers may say… DON’T LISTEN TO THEM! I recently did a shoot with my favorite photographer that completely pushed me out of my comfort zone, and damn am I so glad I did! I have to say, the last two weeks leading up to the shoot I was so nervous! I wasn’t losing the weight I had wanted, I had the worst breakout, it felt like everything that could go wrong was going wrong. The day of the shoot though… that day is the day all of those feelings went away. It was “The Day”!

I had learned a lot from this shoot, and this is why EVERY WOMAN should model in a boudoir shoot at least once in her life!

1. The ultimate sense of self – love!

This shoot is all about you! Go out and get yourself that sexy outfit you loved, treat yourself to a spa day! mani – pedi’s, facials, the works! you deserve it! pamper yourself and get yourself that happy glow! It will show!

2. You get a built in hype-woman!

You should choose a photographer who you feel completely comfortable with! The photographer I chose I have known for years, shes family! Needless to say I felt completely comfortable with her and boy can I say, BIGGEST HYPE WOMAN EVER! she was so encouraging and made me feel like a total baddie!

3. The power from within!

Theres something about the poses that your photographer will have you do that not only makes you feel like a bad b*** but not only that, but makes you feel like you can command a room. some of my favorites were in front of a window or sitting on top of a couch or playing on the bed!

4. The confidence boost

I promise you, once you see the finish product of the shoot and you get your pictures back… the confidence boost you will feel is like no other! It will have you thinking “omg is this really me?!?! I am hottt!!!”

Getting a budior shoot done is honestly so much fun, with the right photographer the atmosphere will be light, positive and all around just fun! This shoot is sure to have you feeling like a new woman! It’s also a plus if you have a significant other and you surprise them one day with a picture… trust me, you will thank me later! *Insert devilish smile emojii* Even if you don’t have a significant other and you just do the shoot for you, Girl more power to you!

Go Do The Damn Thing! udio

About the author: Ashley Denton is a creative artist who’s mediums include music, theater, dance and creative writing. This girl thrives on coffee, adventure and exploration. Ashley has been writing professionally for five years and editing for four. Ashley is also one of Puckermob’s newest editors.

7 Ways Your Life Gets Better When You Stop Taking Sh*t Personally.

Life is far too short to dwell on the actions of others. When you take things to heart, you slowly become resentful, bitter, and distrustful of the people around you. So take off the shackles of victimization and learn to live and let live:

1. You learn that it’s not all about you.

It’s a liberating feeling when you discover it’s not all about you. You are the center of your own universe: your movements, your actions, your philosophy are geared towards your own life, and none of that is in place to purposefully harm others. This is the same for everyone, and once you come to that realization, everything suddenly becomes a whole lot easier.

2. You connect with people.

Shrugging off the burden of analysing, over-analysing and re-analysing others’ actions brings about a fresh perspective. You become free to engage with a clean slate, with no point scoring or one upping, and this change of tact will draw people towards you. Your demeanor becomes calm, your personality becomes relaxed and all of a sudden you’re free to forge connections with the people in your life that could have never existed previously.

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Confidence is knowing we will walk through pain to the other side

What Is Confidence Anyway ?

“Now, see… the thing that makes women strong is that we have the guts to be vulnerable. We have the ability to feel the depths of our emotion, and we know that we will walk through it to the other side.” -Cat Grant on SuperGirl CW

We Are All Unique

There is no woman exactly like another, but there is one thing that we all have in common with one another, the strength to be vulnerable. We love with every part of our hearts. When our hearts shatters we feel as though we will never make it through. The amazing strength of all of us is that we love with everything and know that we will make it through the heart break.

“We know that we will walk through it to the other side.” This is confidence and after a major break up you don’t have that. You spend time wondering what went wrong but it’s time to make a change in your life. It is time to put your confidence and your life back. Most people make the mistake of thinking that they need superficial badges of success before they can feel good about themselves, things like money, fame, a big house, the right job or the right car. This is not a way to build your confidence because what happens when all these things are stripped away? You feel insecure and worthless again.

Our confidence is determined by closing the gap between where we are now and where we want to be.

The beauty of this is that you can be miles away from where you want to be and still be confident. Picture yourself living the life you want, with the person you want to spend it with, doing the things that make you happiest. And picture yourself not crying over a guy who is not crying about you. Picture yourself out with friends having a great time and happy.

We all deal with confidence issues.

Every girl, every guy, ever person has dealt with a confidence issue or will deal with another confidence issue. It could be you don’t know where the problems lies in your lack of confidence or it could be you are lacking the tools to fix it.

Once all your merits and possessions have been stripped away, how much can you genuinely love yourself? It’d the extent to which you can look in the mirror and say: “That person right there in front of me is the best friend I will ever have.” When you can do this nothing else matters at the end of the day, because this is the layer of confidence that no one can takeaway from you.

Here are ten ways to up your confidence when you are feeling down and out.

1. Look at your best self.

Don’t save it for special occasions. If it makes you feel good about yourself, then add it to your morning ritual. Anything you do from washing, shaving,brushing/flossing your teeth, putting on moisturizer, dressing your best, make-up,sorting out your hair.Take some pride in your appearance and take the time to look your best. This might mean you have to get up 45 minutes earlier, well so be it! It will make a huge difference when you start the day.

2. Work on your body.

Start exercising 3-4 times a week. I know it’s a pain and we don’t always have time for it but you will feel better, look better, and sleep better. Don’t spend hours in the gym. It takes 30-45 mins for a proper gym session so work less and enjoy more. Get creative! You don’t always have to go to the gym. Be outside and do new things.

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There’s No Shame in Letting People See Your Struggles

When Life Is A Struggle

It’s hard not to compare our lives to other people’s.

Sometimes, we look at others and feel envious because they appear to have figured it out. They work hard. They keep it together. And, they are gracious about it.

You feel in awe of this person but also like you’re failing. You ask yourself: why can’t that be me? Why can’t I be stronger? Better?

And that’s when your confidence starts plummeting.

But the truth is, things aren’t always what they seem. The person you are jealous of is struggling with their own demons. You just haven’t seen them.

They are waking up, gathering their courage to face another day, and they are headed back out onto the battlefield, just like you are.

And the funny part is, that person may very well look at you and see grace, perseverance, and tenacity. That person may be looking up to you for strength and guidance.

Because we are all a little broken, whether we always show it or not. We are all struggling with something and just finding a way to keep fighting.

There’s no shame in letting people see some of the struggles sometimes. Because it can bring immense comfort to someone to see that they aren’t the only ones hurting.

When we let go of our pride, we give ourselves permission to be human. We give ourselves permission to slip up and to hurt and to grow without ridiculous standards of perfection constantly looming over our heads.

We give ourselves a chance to face conflicts, to face ourselves, and to heal.

And in this healing process, we give others a chance to follow our lead.

Because the world is full of unrealistic notions about what it means to be strong, and they’ve got it all wrong.

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Why You Need to Keep the Girl Who Has Her Shit Together

This girl is rare. She doesn’t feed into all things insecure girls would, she has a full understanding of who she is and that isn’t going to change for anybody.

1. She doesn’t have to play hard to get because she is hard to get.

Games aren’t her thing. She’s picky AF and won’t apologize for it.

She’s careful about who she lets in, but once she does, it will all be worth it because she is as amazing as she seems.

2. She radiates confidence and bad bitch.

She does everything with her head held high, and won’t need you or anyone else to validate her or her choices.

She’s sure of herself and doesn’t act wishy-washy. Her feelings for you won’t vary from day to day. If you’re hers, you’re hers. End of story.

3. Who does she take shit from? Fucking nobody.

She’ll call you out if you try to play games or treat her with less respect than she knows she deserves.

She has high standards for how she thinks she should be treated, but it works both ways because she keeps in mind how others deserve to be treated as well.

4. She has her shit together.

Someone who knows their value also values everything about their life. She makes sure to do everything with care and passion because she’s worth it.

This is not a girl who would let herself fail out of school, suck at her career, or be a deadbeat girlfriend. She’s highly organized because she takes herself seriously.

5. She’s not the type to fight over nothing.

You won’t fight with her as often as you would with somebody else.

This girl isn’t insecure about ridiculous things, and won’t take issue with what pictures you’ve been liking because she knows she’s number one in your heart.

She also knows picking BS fights with you isn’t going to help anything.

6. Her expectations = her reality.

She knows that it is her job to make her happy and that you’re the icing on the top. Since she knows this, she won’t have any wild, unrealistic expectations for you.

She won’t expect you to fulfill every aspect of her life because she’s already fulfilled. She just wants you to be the guy who she can depend on, and have fun with.

7. She’s inspiring in so many ways.

She’s happy, well-adjusted, and has such a positive outlook on life. Of course, other people want to be like her.

She’ll influence you in a great way, whether it’s fixing your view of yourself or leading you to make a positive change in your community.

She’s truly something special, so don’t let this one getaway.

8 Things To Know Before Dating The ‘Picky Girl’

You might think she’s guarded. You might think she’s not worth it if she’s putting you through all of this. But you’re wrong. I’m sure she’s had her heartbroken and I’m sure she’s broken a few hearts of her own. It doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt either way.

When dealing with the ‘picky’ girl, there are just a few things you should know before getting involved:

1. She won’t waste your time

If you’re interested, go for it. However, the thing about the ‘picky’ girl is, she won’t string you along. She won’t lead you on. If she’s not interested in you, she is going to do you a favor and not play with your feelings.

2. She’s independent and always will be. Don’t expect it to change.

She’s always been independent but there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m sure it’ll take some getting used to but don’t think she isn’t going to be there for you. She will need her space and she will want you to have some time to yourself too. Whether that is hanging with your friends or family.

When she wants you around, know it’s for a reason and a good one at that. Don’t take advantage of it.

3. She won’t settle.

She is looking for her ‘Prince Charming’ or at least someone that makes her feel equivalent to how she thinks he would make her feel. Why? You ask. Well because boys (notice how I use that term appropriately) before you just didn’t live up to the standards. Those standards, well, she will stop at nothing to achieve them. So if you don’t measure up, I’m sure you’ll know.

4. Since she won’t settle, she is a hopeless romantic.

She might seem like she is easy-going, laid back, and low-maintenance but since she chose you…she’s going to expect a lot from you. Sweet stuff, surprises, romantic dates, etc. You know, like all those corny things guys do in the movies for girls they love? That is the expectation. It might seem silly to you but this is what her standards are. She wants you to fight for her.

5. She doesn’t believe that chivalrous guys still exist. So prove her wrong.

Do her this favor. Prove yourself. Prove that you’re different than any other guy she ‘talked’ to, dated, hung out with, is friends with, etc. This is why she is picky. She believes that none of you chivalrous guys are still around so, “Why bother?”

6. She’s confident.

You might think that being independent and being confident are pretty similar. You’re wrong. She knows what kind of girl she is and wants to be. She doesn’t need anyone else to tell her that. So, it is your job to show her that she does need you. Not specifically to make her confident, but in other ways.

So, let her be confident. It is the sexiest thing a girl can wear.

7. She is goal-oriented. So she’ll expect you to be, too.

There is a bar or ceiling that most people see. However, she goes above and beyond it. She’ll expect that from you. If you’re not goal-oriented or driven, then don’t bother. She can date herself instead if she’s going to have to drag you along with her.

8. She only believes in relationships that will better herself.

If the relationship she is in no longer serves her or grows her, she’s gone. There is no convincing her because as far as she is concerned, you’re most likely not going to be in her life.

And sooner or later, she will thank you for that.