Can Sext Chat Heal a Shaky, Unhealthy Relationship?

Sext chat can be mindless fun, but it is also an excellent way to connect with your partner no matter how much distance separates you. And that’s not all that sex chat can do. Sex chat can be a tool that helps you become a better lover and partner—if you go about it the right way.

How Sext Chat can Heal Relationships

Identify the Problem
Ways to Save Your Relationship
Sexual Healing is Vital
Find a Sext Chat Partner

If you’re in an unhealthy relationship or one that’s not on solid ground, you probably want to figure out how to fix it or whether mending the relationship is even possible. So, below are some ways that sex chat can be healing if you’re in a difficult relationship.

1. Identify the Problem

Relationships become unhealthy for a variety of reasons. Some relationships start out supportive and mutually beneficial, but then outside factors contribute to its downfall. Maybe a personal tragedy has completely altered someone’s mental health. Life changes such as moving to a new town or changing jobs can also significantly impact the health of your relationship.

Other times, the problem starts because of things inside of the relationship. You may have a fight that leads you to stop having sex. Or one person may exert more and more control over the other. If you can pinpoint what caused the relationship to shift from good to not-so-good, you’ll be better able to know how to heal your relationship and avoid similar situations in the future (or, at the very least, identify them in advance).

2. Ways to Save Your Relationship

If you’re in an abusive or toxic relationship, the best thing you can do is walk away and get therapy. More often than not, those situations are too thorny to be mended, at least while you’re still in the relationship. Making a clean break and going somewhere safe is the best thing that you can do.

However, if your problems are significant but fixable, you may want to put in the effort to save your relationship. One of the necessary factors is that both you and your partner are willing to work on the relationship. If the work is being done by one person only, the relationship is beyond repair.

Another sign that your relationship can be fixed: you both agree on what went wrong. If you don’t agree on what is wrong with the relationship, you probably won’t agree on how to fix it. Maybe multiple causes are in play. If you can both identify these causes without pointing the blame solely at your partner, you’ll have a lot easier time working through your issues together.

3. Sexual Healing is Vital

It may sound surprising, but sexting with your partner can sometimes be a safe path back toward relationship health.

For instance, if you’ve had issues with trust in the past, it can be difficult to find ways to be sexually intimate. The partner who was cheated on may feel hesitant to have sex with the partner who damaged their trust. Sex chat can give you both the space to see if you’re ready to get intimate again without having sex in person.

Next, people whose relationship is unhealthy primarily because of their sex life can benefit from sext chat. Some of the most common relationship issues that couples suffer related to their sex life include mismatched sex drives, sexlessness, a lack of passion, and difficulty discussing sexual boundaries—like discussing whether or not they should open the relationship.

Having a sext chat is a gentle way to broach these problems. For instance, mismatched sex drives can be helped by sex chat. When you have a sex chat, you are turning your partner on, and it’s up to them whether they want to climax or not.

If you are in a sexless relationship, turning the ship around and starting to have sex again can feel as intimidating as it did to have sex for the first time—if not more so. When you have a sex chat, you have physical and emotional space to take things slowly and think about what you want to get out of your sexual encounters. It feels like a baby step towards having a sexual relationship again.

Couples who are interested in opening their relationship can feel like even bringing up such a touchy subject could end the relationship. If your partner is open to at least talking about it, you could role-play parts of an open relationship during a sex chat. This gives you both a way to “try on” an open relationship without having sex with other people. You can get a taste of how jealous you would be or how sexy it would be to think about your partner with other people.

4. Find a Sext Chat Partner

Whether you’re in an open relationship and looking for a third or you’re single and want to mingle, Arousr has everything you need to get started sex chatting. Arousr will protect your privacy, and they only hire hosts whose identities they have verified (meaning no bots or catfishing!).

Learn more about Arousr from one of their very own:

So if you are ready to start, join and start sext chat at arousr.com. It’s one of the oldest and most trusted platforms you can rely upon online.

Thanks, But We Actually Don’t Want Your Unsolicited Dick Pic

We get it. You have boy parts. Congratulations. Slow clap

Now that it’s been acknowledged and celebrated, can we stop with the nude “Good morning” photo at 8 am with a sun positioned (poorly) over your package?

This is apparently the new way to say hello… but why. The amount of virtual sex that happens before a real date is becoming far too common. Don’t get me wrong.

Booty calls and no strings attached relationships are completely fine by me but there is an incredibly easy way to make sure that you and the person you’re interested in are on the same page when it comes to the actual kind of relationship or connection they are looking for.

Ask them. I know! It seems so simple but, like everything else in life, it becomes masked and misconstrued by lack of communication and prominent gray areas.

I also understand that some people simply don’t know what they are looking for and that’s fine as well.

But please, don’t test the waters by randomly sending a nude Snapchat at 1:30 in the afternoon on a Tuesday after asking me what I want to do with my degree after graduation.

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To The Naughty Girl, This Is Why You Should Be Sexting Him Like Right Now

There is something undeniably empowering and intimate about a good sexting session with someone you’re head over heels about!

Now this is completely different than the nudes you get on Tinder. They’re gross-but to each their own!

But what I’m talking about is the saucy, racy pictures you may get from your boo.

It actually adds a spice, can amplify the sexual satisfaction, add an interesting dynamic to your relationship, and build a whole new level of trust.

This behavior is being seen as more so fun, carefree and some actually expect it in their relationship.

Just make sure you use common sense. If you’re in a high profile position keep your thoughts to yourself; some things are better left unsent. Someone queue Anthony Weiner and Jeff Bezos.

If you’re looking to spice up your relationship here are a few pro’s to sexting your man….

It’s fun to keep a secret –

Imagine sending a sext to your partner while they are in the middle of a meeting, just that fast the two of you share a secret no one in the world knows but you.

Sure a customer could be wailing in his face, their boss can be going on and on about those copies he didn’t make yesterday but suddenly there’s a photo of your tits accompanied by “I’m going to give you the best blow job later….??

Builds sexual tension while you’re apart –

Just because you guys aren’t around each other doesn’t mean you can’t get each other hot and bothered. By the time you see your man again you’ll be able to cut the sexual tension with a knife, way to make him jump your bones girl!

Happens When you Want, Where you want –

This is one of my personally favorite reasons, it’s among the most liberating.You say when and where. Doesn’t matter if he is at work or he might be out with his buddies – this gives him all the more reason to rush home to you.

Gets your freak on –

Remember everything is a learning tool. You voice your sexual desires (finally). It’s like a prerequisite to dirty talk. And you can build up your own collection you know the very important- SPANK BANK?! Sexual nostalgia is the most tantalizing type of nostalgia.

Builds Trust/Bonding Experience –

The two of you airing out your fantasies, those dirty little secrets, and the trust that is involved with you sending him some nudes really strengthens your bond. It also makes dirty talk during sex more exciting, less intimidating or embarrassing.

If you and your partner are serious take my advice send him a sext, and just like that their world is restored – nothing else matters.

Kudos to you – you just made your man’s day you naughty girl you 😉

24 Dudes Who Tried To Sext But Ended Up Ruining Everything

Online dating means anonymity and an enormous pool of willing applicants to choose from. So it’s not really surprising that dudes are on there trying out the world’s worst pickup/sexting lines left and right. They have very little to lose, after all.

But, still. Some of these sext attempts are just…a lot. Where do these dudes even come up with this sh*t? Some of them were clearly cribbed off more clever people on Reddit. But others are the result of unrestrained horniness, and/or stupidity, and/or just willful ignorance? Honestly, I don’t know. I couldn’t tell you. Nobody can.

But there is one among us who is dedicated to documenting all these sexting fails anyway. They go by the Tumblr name of straightwhiteboystexting, and before you get all mad about the name, let me offer an explanation straight from the horse’s mouth: “The name of this blog is based off of the phenomenon of the “straight white boy text” aka asking “hey what’s your bra size ;)” in the middle of a conversation, or things like “what would you do if you were here haha lol ;)”. Basically things that even if you want to sext with the person, they either completely ruin the mood either because they’re not sexy or because it pretty much puts all the sexting work on you. The phrase “you sext like a straight white boy” comes from this. Boys of all orientations and races do this. And not all of them do it, either.”

So there.

1. Christopher, who started off so strong:

2. This dude, who asked the perfect thing if his intention was to disgust:

3. Sadegh, who clearly has way too much going on:

4. This guy, with the perv cat:

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An Open Letter to a Textationship

Pretty sure we’ve all been in one of these so-called relationships.

To all the ladies who are in “textationships” you should know that you deserve way better than that and need to end it as soon as you can. You deserve to be taken out on cute dates and treated with respect. A textationship is simply this: “Texting all the time without EVER making an effort to see you in real life.”

For all the people in textationships, it’s hard to avoid I know, but the more you realize what’s actually going on here makes things a lot better.

The moment you understand that it’s just a textationship and that’s all, leave that relationship in the past. Been there, done that. Something real and meaningful is where all the feels come into play.

Texting is such an awful way to miscommunicate how you feel and misinterpret what other people truly mean. Through all of the technology we have, it’s extremely easy to just talk through the phone and leave it at that. WAKE UP PEOPLE! If you’re interested in someone, the best way to get to know him or her is to personally get to know him or her in PERSON.

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