Want to figure out the soul nature of a current relationship? Find out here!

I do intuitive work. One of the most asked questions is: Is this person my soul mate?

The second most popular query is: How do I attract my soul mate?

I hate to break it to you, but the age-old concept of “having a single soul mate” is antiquated.

You actually have a lot of soul mates, and most aren’t romantic. Your child, friend, cousin, or co-worker might be a soul mate. Even your pet can be a soul mate.

Sure, you might be mated with a soul mate, but the truth is that there are several different types of soul relationships. Figuring out how to negotiate a relationship—or match with a true-blue, forever mate—is dependent on understanding these differences.

After I review the nature of soul relationships in general, I’ll outline the major soul relationships as described in my newest book, Advanced Chakra Healing. Then I’ll provide a short exercise you can take to label and best embrace a relationship you’re already in.

Soul relationships recognize that we each have a soul. That’s the part of you here on this earth to gather experiences and learn about love. Souls are grouped into soul families, which are based on spiritual purpose, lesson plans, and insights already attained about love.

These categories work the same way that they do regular family and extended friend groups. You have a lot in common with some set of individuals and not with others. You’ll like some members and not others. A few friend-types, you might be cool to marry. Others? Heaven, spare me, you think. Why would spiritual matters be any different?

Following is a list of the various versions of soul relationships. As you read through this outline, pay attention to your Ahas! That’s a great start to getting the most out of your various relationships.

Soul Mates: Souls that share similar qualities, experiences, or spiritual goals. You have probably participated in several past lives with soul mates.

Companion Souls: Souls that assist each other in meeting life tasks. Some companion souls become life mates, lifelong friends, or even trustworthy business partners. They might also be members of the same biological or adopted family. These are typically positive and friendly relationships.

Causal Souls: These help you become more solid in your life, requesting that you clean up your side of the street. However, they are totally difficult, like the proverbial and troublesome in-laws, difficult marriages, or challenging parenting relationships.

Cosmic Souls: These carry a high sexual charge and, paradoxically, lead to an examination of your spiritual purpose. The explosion of sexual energy often activates your kundalini, a divine life energy that cleanses issues and enables enlightenment. These relationships play havoc, especially if you’re already romantically committed to someone else.

Twin Flame: This is your seeming double. You complement each other. Twin flames often try to become life partners, believing that the other person is their “other half.” That statement isn’t true; we are here to become complete beings, not halves of a whole.

Now it’s time to figure out what a particular relationship might be!

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(Quiz)

Want to figure out the soul nature of a current relationship? Focus on the following lists and select the one that best describes the relationship. Then turn to the Answer Key.

Connected, easy, like you’ve known each other forever. You’re on the “same path.”

Trustworthy, friendly, and positive. You get things done together.

Hard, disturbing, and irritating. You rub each other the wrong way but are forced together.

Vavoom! It’s all about passion and sexual charge. Is this your soul mate? (No.)

Similar, two peas in a pod, complementary. Like halves of a whole.

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Answer Key

What type of soul relationship might you be in? Read through the line that matches the number you picked in the Quiz and consider the advice.

Soul mate. It’s safe to be yourself and share your heart. Enjoy all levels of the relationship.

Companion soul. You can trust each other. Look to partner on anything from vacations to projects—and maybe even as mates!

Causal soul. Though challenging, you are teaching each other. Learn your lesson, and the relationship will get easier or end.

Cosmic relationship. The attraction will burn out, so be wary. Go otherworldly, not physical. It’s time for both of you to seek things spirit.

Twin flame. You seem identical but aren’t. See yourself in the other and further develop those traits. Then you can become friends or move on.

And remember, the penultimate to any relationship is love. Enjoy the love that is present and make decisions accordingly.

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Cyndi Dale is an internationally renowned author, speaker, and energy healer. She is the author of 28 books on energy medicine, intuition, and spirituality. Her newest book is Advanced Chakra Healing: Four Pathways to Energetic Wellness and Transformation.

How You Know You’ve Met Your Twin Flame

The twin flame, also called the mirror soul, is one of the most unique types of connections someone can find. Meeting your twin flame is like meeting another part of your soul. This is based on the idea that one soul can be split into two bodies, which makes meeting your twin flame overwhelmingly special and sometimes a little scary.

I’ve met my twin flame. Prior to it, I didn’t really believe in anything more than a relationship soul mate and a friend soul mate. The thought of the same soul in different people seemed a little unrealistic. When I really think about it logically, it still doesn’t really make sense. But, after finding my twin flame, I can say that that kind of connection is 100% real. Here’s how I knew, and how you can know, too.

You’ll feel like you’re home.

This is usually a feeling you develop over time, the more you feel comfortable with the person. But, with your twin flame, you’ll be able to look at them and know that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be in that moment – and that’s with them.

You’ll feel overwhelmingly comfortable.

What would take weeks or even months of “getting-to-know-you’s” is diminished and you’ll find that there’s an instant comfortability that can only be achieved by being connected on a different level. Since you’re part of the same soul, you already know each other, in a way.

You’ll have insane similarities.

My twin flame and I have the same hobbies, personality traits, senses of humor, career goals… We have the same ways of dealing with conflict, trying to understand others, and letting feelings dictate how we live our lives. It’s truly like looking in a mirror.

You’ll complement each other.

Your personalities will go hand-in-hand perfectly. You’ll understand each others’ senses of humor instantly. The way you work through problems and find solutions will help each other immensely since you’re already on the same wavelength.

You’ll keep coming back to each other.

Like two magnets, the connection you have will always bring you back together over and over and over again. Whether it’s for short periods or long lengths, you’ll pop in and out of each others’ lives exactly when you need them. And, the times you are apart, you can rest assured knowing that there’s another part of you out there in the universe, and you’ve found them.

You’ll be able to read each others’ minds and feelings.

Like a supernatural feeling, you’ll be able to look at your twin flame and know exactly what they’re feeling and why – probably because you’re feeling the same thing, too. With other people that aren’t your twin flame, that ability can take a long time. But, with your twin flame, the feeling and understanding are already there.

The whole idea of finding a twin flame doesn’t make sense until it’s happened to you. You may sound crazy to other people when you try to describe it, and that’s understandable. Unless you’ve met your mirror soul or twin flame, it’s impossible to understand. But, if you have found your twin flame, you know what it’s like to meet another part of yourself – the same soul, just in a different person. It’s a little spooky and definitely confusing, but the feeling is unmatched.

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The 3 Main Types of Soul Mates

The romantic soul mate, the friend soul mate, and the twin flame.

There’s a lot of controversy as to if soul mates are real. In my opinion, I believe that they are. But, I also believe that there is more than one kind of soul mate – there are three. Some people believe in more types. But, personally, I think that there are three individuals out there that match you on some sort of elevated level.

1. The Romantic Soul Mate

This type of soul mate is the most commonly thought of – the person who you romantically and emotionally can’t stand to live without. Usually, your attraction to this individual is undeniable and you quickly realize that there’s no one else in the world that will fit you better. You know that whatever you do, you can’t do it without them by your side.

I believe that if you find your romantic soul mate but the timing is wrong, they’ll come back around.

I haven’t met my romantic soul mate, but I know they’re out there. People around me have met and ended up with theirs, and it gives me reassurance to know that they do exist. The person you end up with long-term, maybe raise children with, travel with, live with, experience life with… The person that will always find a way back to you because there’s no one else in the world that makes sense.

2. The Friend Soul Mate

Also called the Companion Soul Mate, this connection is like finding one person in the whole world that understands you and accepts you on a whole other level. This connection is usually strictly platonic. However, elements can be found in a romantic soul mate, as well.

This person has your back no matter what situation and usually knows you better than you know yourself.

The friend soul mate that I have knows me better than anyone, even to the point of knowing how I’m feeling about something before I even realize it, myself. We know the good, bad, and ugly parts of each other and choose to stick around because we know that if we don’t, we’ll never find another friend like each other.

3. The Twin Flame

The twin flame is, in my opinion, the most flustering. When meeting this person, it’s like meeting a part of yourself. The way you interact, the way you talk, the way you live… It feels like two parts of the same soul connecting. It’s a type of feeling that can’t really be described without maybe sounding a bit crazy to some people. But, you’ll know without a shadow of a doubt that they’re a part of you and you’re a part of them. When you’re apart, it’s like a piece of yourself is missing. And, if you do separate, you know that a part of you is left with them, and a part of them is left with you.

You are two parts of the same soul.

I recently met my twin flame and it was like looking at myself. In all honestly, I didn’t believe in twin flames or really know what it was until I spent time with mine. We have the same personality, the same interests, we understand each other on a higher level that no one else can really understand… We knew each other better than we ever could have imagined in just a few days. We can exchange a look and know exactly what the other is thinking. Just being around them makes me feel like I’m complete and safe to really be myself.

Soul mates are a very real, sometimes scary, thing. But, when you’ve found them, you’ll know – and when you do, your life will never be the same.

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Why Finding Out Your ‘Person’ Doesn’t Feel The Same Feels Like Absolute Sh*t

There comes a time in everyone’s life when they fall in love with someone they feel like they can spend the rest of their lives with. While we go from relationship to relationship in life, experiencing the blissful beauty of falling in love, there comes a particular moment in your life when you fall in love with someone you truly consider to be “the one.”

You start to build a life with this person, planning things, including them in your everyday life and decisions, building a future with them, fantasizing about your life together—it all seems like everything is amazing, perfect, wonderful.

But, there are often times in life that the person you want to be “the one,” doesn’t exactly feel the same way about you. Now, this is not to say that they aren’t in love with you, or, that they don’t want to be with you. But, there are often times when you’re sure about someone, but, they’re not sure about you.

And, when you realize this, it feels like you got hit in the chest by an 18-wheeler.

Heartache.

What do you really do when you fall in love with someone and want them to be your “happily ever after,” but, they aren’t even sure of what they want in life? What if they decide they never want to get married, have children, start a family—what do you really do?

The decisions that you have to make as you get older and fall in love are terrifying. Sometimes, you have to make sacrifices and compromise, but, you should never sacrifice your happiness just to be with someone and live in their own comfort zone.

You may love this person – you may love them with every single inch of your being, but, if they cannot give you exactly what you need, you can start over, you can find someone else. Or, you can take a break from dating and reassess your needs and desires.

If you’re someone who needs a definitive timeline and answers, but your “person” can’t give you them, take a step back and think things through. Maybe, this person just cannot give you what you need and, if that’s the case, you need to face those facts. Maybe, after hearing this person doesn’t want those milestones, you decide maybe you don’t either and, you’d rather be with this person than be “married.” Maybe, you’re okay with waiting to see how things unfold. But, maybe, you don’t want to push aside your own needs to please someone else.

Whatever happens—whatever you do decide—remember that the most important person to listen to is yourself. Face the hard truths, the painful realities, and the heartbreaking decisions if you have to – because, staying with someone who cannot fulfill you will always leave you empty.

Your Words Are My Drug Of Choice

Your words are my drug of choice. They hoist me up to the heavens, leaving me awash in airy lightness as you strip the weight of life from my soul. They leave me high off a blissful euphoria as I long to hold onto every coveted syllable, hoping I can remain among the clouds for eternity.

As the words cascade from your lips, every hit of you leaves me longing for more, clinging to your promises that I am your future, wishing you were beside me. My worries escape me as I savor your powerful high; a sense of unquellable serenity. I drift further and further away from my problems as I immerse myself in your swirling kaleidoscope of colors, knowing there is nothing on Earth but me, you, and your magical mirage of deep blues and pure golds.

Your vivacious appellations seem to vanish too quickly, a mystical haze of fragrant smoke too alluring to resist. They can never seem to satiate my powerful hunger for endless sweet nothings, until you faithfully supply me with your linguistic charm, the drug that keeps my heart beating only for you.

I aimlessly flit away the days mindlessly dreaming of the music that flows from your lips and endure the nights lying awake in your absence, tossing and turning as my entire body burns with a passionate fever, itching for you as if you are the sole key to my survival. With an aching heart, I withdraw from the gentle rhythm of your voice, fruitlessly convincing myself that I can live without you.

But I am hopelessly addicted to your adoring locutions, the powerful ecstasy of pure love. Every trip takes me higher, further into your heart’s endless wonders. I ensconced myself in your dreamy euphoria, too faded on your love to return below the clouds.

Perhaps, I will recover from my unyielding desire for your passionate language. Perhaps, I will discover the natural high of self-validation. But every time the fantastical syllables slip from your mouth, leaving me high off your addictive love, I know that your words will always be my drug of choice.

This article originally appeared on Thought Catalog.

20 Signs You’re Sleeping With Your Soulmate

Soulmate Signs

Who wouldn’t want to wake up next to their soulmate every morning? It may well be, that your partner’s already your soulmate. Still, what are the signs that tell you that you’ve already found your soulmate? If you sleep this way and can relate to these 20 signs, you can already be sure that you’re so fortunate you can wake up next to your soulmate every morning. Here you go.

1. You sleep with your partner comfortably, even naked.

2. You love the smell of your partner and their stubble doesn’t bother you.

3. You often say ‘I love you’ even in bed, either.

4. You find each other’s body perfect.

5. Without words, you know exactly what the other wants in bed.

6. You like to make love, even every night.

7. You always hug after making love.

8. Making love is spontaneous as you don’t have to plan it ahead.

9. It doesn’t matter which side you’re sleeping on in the bed, even though you have a favorite one.

10. You like to cuddle.

11. You wouldn’t go to sleep without a kiss.

12. You fall asleep easily and you feel well-rested in the morning.

13. The affection doesn’t wear off even after years.

14. You never go to bed after an argument, you always reconcile before going to sleep.

15. You can’t imagine waking up next to somebody else.

16. You feel like your partner is the best ‘thing’ that happened to you.

17. You like to talk in bed, regardless of whether you made love before.

18. You feel weird and lonely when you don’t sleep with your partner for some reason.

19. You feel tranquility and wholeness when you’re in bed with him.

20. In the morning, you kiss and hug, that’s how you start the day.

Rare and Spiritual Connections

There can exist undeniable spiritual connections between some individuals. I am talking about two people who will love each other until the end of time. They are everything they have been looking and waiting for.

These two persons might have passed each other at some point in their pasts. And they might have had spiritual communication but they had no idea that their paths would miss each other only because the universe would want them to wait for the right time to start a journey together.

Then, when the exact moment comes and their paths cross, they have no idea what had been set in motion. There are only few times in life where this magnetic pull between two individuals occurs.

Everything in the past has led up to this point and event. Everything that someone has suffered to get through in life has now made sense. What had been missing in their soul, now feels complete when next to them.

Life took its twists and turns,but their connection is like the magnetic pull between the waves and earth. The waves always find their way back to land. When they meet this person, it is as though they have reached that land. The pull between them is inevitable and necessary. It is natural.

When these two souls desist from one another for some reason or another, it feels unnatural. The balance in their universe is unstable. Once their energies have mixed, they have forever become entangled with one another.

This is a connection like no other ever experienced. There are so many things in common between them. It is like they have known this person before, maybe in another life time. These individuals are as intimate in every way that is possible.

They are each other’s home of all homes and are forever synchronized. Their souls are mirror like. The feelings between them grow stronger and deeper as they move on in life. They are physically and spiritually intertwined. It is a love that grows and it is sometimes too complex to put into words.

When they are together, they are at peace. This spiritual connection makes their souls brighter and balanced. These are spiritual connections that I think we would be lucky to encounter. We are not just wandering souls, but souls looking for a purpose.