Ladies, you did the most amazing thing you just became a mother for the first time ever. Your whole life is going to change and I do mean change!
My best advice right now is to cherish the time you have when they can’t talk or walk. So basically those three days you have in the hospital when a nurse can take your sweet bundle of joy away, learn to love those moments. When your child is screaming and you can’t take a shower in peace remember the last shower you had was uninterrupted at the hospital.
Breath in and breath out you got this.
The baby isn’t going to die while you take ten minutes to wash your hair god knows how long it’s been since you have washed it anyway. I know I know, you might have a melt down right now during your moment of peace and that is okay. It’s called being a first time mommy and sometimes it just sucks.
Right before you start thinking you made a terrible mistake try and remember this lovely little life lesson’s and will make your time with your sweet bundle of love well sweet again instead of over -whelming.
1. Rest- Life lesson number one, this sounds crazy but rest. Dude you just pushed a human being out of your girly parts, props that’s amazing. You also need time to recover. So, when you can rest.
2. Don’t hold your child all the damn time- When I say, don’t hold your baby all the time I mean it. The child begins to suffer a terrible affliction called “hold me syndrome”. They won’t do anything but, cry unless you hold them. This includes telling other people not to hold them all the time, for example, grandparents.
3. Trust- Trust your instinct’s, you are the mom and I know the tiny human is scary and you are like a hormonal chewbacca these days but, if you feel like something is wrong don’t ignore it.
4.Raise your white flag- When you feel like the whole world is crumbling and you really need some help don’t be scared to ask. This goes back to the whole you need rest thing. It’s not just physical rest you need a mental break as well.
5. Hydrate- This is the messy part about birth, you are bleeding Alot I know TMI but, hey you are. If you stay hydrated I promise it will make you feel a lot better. If you are nursing this will keep the baby and you happy and your milk supply up.
6. Eat- After you give birth you probably feel like you could eat about ten people. You burn ton’s of calories shooting those little tad poles out. Well, actually they aren’t that little and the pain in your vagina will let you know. But, make sure when baby eats you eat. This is gonna come in handy when you are nursing and not nursing.
7. Men have hands too-Put the dad to work, when you feel like you just can’t handle it anymore, or you just need a break in general, put your husband/ baby daddy to work. They can change a diaper just like we can. The difference is they usually don’t wanna look at poop and we have to look at poop.
8. Advice- People are going to give you a flying crap ton of advice. Don’t get panic about it. I know you will want to do everything the doctor say’s, and your mother, grandmother and what your in-laws tell you. After all, they have all had babies they know what they’re doing. However, this is your baby. Listen but, if you feel like it doesn’t apply to your child it’s just advice you don’t have to take it.
9. You are the mom- Remember, you are the mom and no one else is. If you feel like people aren’t respecting your space or your thoughts about what’s going on with baby kick their asses to the curb. Well, maybe not that dramatic but, you can tell the to please shut the fuck up.
10. Know your basics- Know the basic stuff when it comes to that shiny new person you get to keep as your side kick for the next eighteen years. Like Whats the best temperature for a newborn? How much breast milk should they be getting? How many wet diapers should they have in a day?
11.Go out- For one night get dad to watch sweet little one and get together with your girlfriends. Take a damn shower, you might still be wearing maternity clothes but, who gives a shit? The point is to forget the mom belly and remember who you are as someone’s friend for a few hours. But, be kind to your partner and allow him to have a dad night in return.
12. Be honest- Motherhood is not for the faint of heart. There is a real reason why it isn’t for everyone. This is a huge change. There is a big difference from chilling at the house by yourselves and then chilling at the house with a baby that needs you constantly. You aren’t going to be doing much chilling anymore. Talk with your partner about how much this bundle has changed your world for the good and bad.
The bad is only there for a split second, after you get through the sleepless nights, like magic you will turn around and look at the little family you created and think “Wow how did we ever live without you in it?” That’s the magic that kids bring to your lives. Those moments of bad just fade into the background and the only thing you can think is, the world stops and begins with you my sweet child.
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