Tag: true love

I Still Hope It’s You and Me in the End

“I knew right away that you were it for me. There were no reservations or second thoughts. I saw you and in an instant knew in my bones, my soul had known your soul lifetimes ago.” Beau Taplin

 

Never in my life did I ever think that I’d meet someone that I would click with from the start. From the moment that I met you something in my gut told me that you were different.

 

You were my person. You were the reason why I had to go through what I went through. You were the prize at the finish line of an incredibly painful race.

 

From the start you reminded me of what it was like to feel again, you reminded me of my love for music and photography. You got my weird and joined in on it without a single second of hesitation. You don’t come across that often.

 

To be completely honest though, I didn’t want to fall. I didn’t want to get attached.  I didn’t want to believe that it was you that I’d been waiting on for so long. I was terrified to get hurt again. But with every moment I got to spend with you I let my guard down.

 

I let myself be vulnerable to you. I felt something that I didn’t think I’d ever be able to feel again, and it was the happiest I’d been in a really long time.

 

I think that’s where I went wrong. I let you in too quickly. I scared you, and you ran.

 

You see, I have a rule that I keep everyone at arm’s length because they always seem to leave just as I let them in. But I broke my rule for you, I let you in and you proved to me why no one gets close to me.

 

You broke my heart and I don’t even know where to go from here. My soul and your soul, I still believe are old friends.

 

My gut is never wrong; I still think that you’re different. I still think that you and I belong together. I don’t think you meant to hurt me.

 

I think you started to feel what I felt and it scared you as much as it scared me. But you took your hobby to a whole other level and ran far and fast.

 

My hope is that one day our paths will cross again, and I hope that this time you’ll have the courage to stay.

Why You Should Never Settle

“There are no half measures in love, only all or nothing. And if it doesn’t make you tremble and go mad at the very thought of its absence, you should move on.”

~Beau Taplin // Move On

 

I think we’ve all let this world turn us a little bit bitter towards love.

 

I think we need to fight for the love we want. The take your breath away, butterflies in you belly kind of love. Nowadays people settle. We settle for mediocre.

 

It’s bullshit.

 

I want a love so passionate that I can’t think straight, I want a love that will consume me. I want to wake up every single day with you on my mind.

 

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To My Guy, I Fall in Love With You More Every Day

From the way you laugh to the way you breathe, to the way your voice cracks when you try to sing. You make me love you, even more, each day. You don’t try to, but you have a way of making my heart skip every minute I am with you.

 

You will never see the way I look back at you from across the room when I find your eyes laid upon me. You will probably never comprehend the immense feelings you give me either, but that’s okay.

 

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Twitter Is Rooting For These Parents After Son Tweets Their ‘Getting Back Together’ After 7-Year Divorce

When your parents get divorced, it can be a difficult experience to go through. Many people feel as though it’s “their fault” for their parents splitting up, especially when they’re young. But, we all know that’s not true. Many adults grow out of love with each other, have issues that cause them to drift, or are just better off as friends than lovers.

But, what happens when your parents split up for 7 years and then magically find their way back to each other? Apparently, they get an entire social media network behind them rooting for them to make it happen. Twitter user @VirgoVonnie shared a text from his mom saying that she “kissed his father.”

He told his followers that his parents got divorced 7 years ago and both became recently single. Apparently, love is in the air, because his mom ended up kissing his dad and it was so good—she’s about to get her man back.

Obviously, people on Twitter were rooting for a family reunion. Who doesn’t love a happy ending? It’s so rare to see parents find their way back to each other, actually seeing it happen is a true blessing.

https://twitter.com/luluuu_boo/status/1066872079843250181

https://twitter.com/lexieb098/status/1066916835168321536

We wholeheartedly agree—we need updates. I want wedding photos!

 

5 Signs You’re Just In Lust, Not In Love

Love, as we know it, is a very difficult and confusing emotion to understand. Love, more often than not, tends to be mistaken for lust. Sometimes, it’s hard to completely tell the difference between the two. People romanticize love to be this all-consuming feeling that sometimes, we think lust – which is similar in emotional responses as love – is actually love. However, love radiates true happiness and most importantly, allows you to feel comfortable with yourself and your partner; whereas lust does not.  When you are able to distinguish the difference between love and lust, there is no comparison to how great love really feels over lust.

1.

You’re In Lust When:

You feel like you have to “dress to impress” every time you are seeing your person.

You’re In Love When:

You feel comfortable in “sweatpants, hair tied, chilling with no makeup on” all the time.

Being in love brings that sense of comfort in yourself and in your relationship. You know when you are in love because you feel comfortable being in comfortable wearing anything – like sweats –without worrying that your significant other is going to leave you for the girl dressed to the nines next door. You feel like you have to dress to impress when it’s lust because you’re not trusting or sure of where things are going. When its love, you know you don’t have to impress anyone.

2.

You’re In Lust When:

You always feel like you have to tell your significant other what they want to hear in order to keep them around.

You’re In Love When:

You feel confident saying whatever it is that you want, and sharing your views and opinions with your significant other.

The thing about love is that when you are in it, you know that there is nothing you can say that will make the person you are with love you any less. You know that your significant other loves you for you and all that you believe in – especially your mind. You don’t have to say things to string your significant other along and keep them with you. There’s no lying between you, no sugarcoating.

3.

You’re In Lust When:

You don’t know much about their life before you.

You’re In Love When:

You know everything about their past, their family, and their history.

A relationship filled with love is one that is an open book. When it is just lust, you are so protective of the relationship and holding it together on a whim that you don’t even bother to hit the history books on one another. If you don’t know anything personal about your significant other than do you really love them fully for who they truly are? Probably not, and it is probably just lust.

4.

You’re In Lust When:

You look at your significant other as just that, and not your best friend.

You’re In Love When:

You’re significant other has become one of your best friends.

Your significant other becomes a best friend when you are really in love because it happens so naturally. If you do not look at your significant other as your best friend too, it could be because you two are in a relationship that’s surface value or looks. Lust focuses on this, rather than focusing on a future or something sustainable.

5.

You’re In Lust When:

You focus on living in the moment with your significant other and never think about the future.

You’re In Love When:

You think about the future and what your life could really be like together – long term.

When you’re in love with someone, you envision a future together. When you feel love, you want to feel loved forever because once you experience that feeling, there’s no turning back. Therefore you don’t just focus on living in the moment because yes, that is important too but, you think about a life together and things that can happen in the long-run. When you love someone, you value them as a huge part of your life. You don’t only think about how great it is now, but how great it can be forever.

One Person Perfectly Described What Happens After You Lose The ‘Butterflies’ In A Relationship

If you’re ever been in a long-term relationship, you’d know first-hand that they are a lot of work. When you first meet someone, you’re happy, giddy, excited to get to know them and see where your relationship goes. As you progress in your relationship – transitioning from casual dating to a real relationship, a lot of things change. Long gone are the days where you blush, get embarrassed or nervous in front of your significant other – and instead, you reach a peak comfort zone with them. While this is never a bad thing – all long-term relationships should aspire to reach this place – some people are always worrisome when the “butterflies” and “Honeymoon stage” comes to an end.

People are always looking for ways to bring back that “excitement and spark” in their relationships, instead of feeling comfortable or happy with where their relationships are moving. Take it from someone who has been here – who is here – in their life. Once you reach new stages in your relationship – meeting your partner’s family, moving in together, traveling together – your relationship in itself will inevitably change. You reach a new level of commitment and often times, that means the excitement won’t always be there every single day. That’s not to say that it’s gone forever – it’s just not there every waking moment of your life together.

Sure, some days you’ll be excited to see your partner after work or school, other days, you’ll both be exhausted and barely speak because all you want to do is go to bed. It’s natural – it’s not a red flag, it’s nothing to worry about. It took me a very long time to learn this truth.

One person on Tumblr perfectly summed up the truth behind reaching this point in long-term relationships – and, it could not be truer.

Honestly – preach. I needed to read this – to fully understand and appreciate this chapter in my relationship and, I’m sure other people do, too.

8 Bullsh*t Things Girls With Boyfriends Are Sick And Tired Of Hearing

I’m not quite sure why it is,  but, society hates on the girl who has a boyfriend. For some reason, if you have a boyfriend who is not your fiancé or your husband, or, is not ready to make that kind of commitment—he’s not a priority to your life or your plans. Your friends will judge you, your family will judge you and—it’s just a cycle of non-stop complaining and nagging.

Let me say: f*ck that noise, guys.

When you’re in a relationship in which you’re in love, respect, and honesty, f*ck what everyone else thinks. Tell them to take their opinions of your relationship and stick ’em where the sun don’t shine.

1. “You let him control you too much.”

There’s a fine line between controlling and having mutual respect for one another. If my boyfriend is uncomfortable with something I do, say, or wear, we’ll talk about it and come to an understanding and compromise because—it works both ways. If I’m uncomfortable with something he does/says, we can talk it out just the same. Respect is the most important thing in a relationship.

2. “You spend too much time together.”

Don’t tell me how I should spend my time. It is my time. If I want to spend it in bed with my boyfriend binge-watching old episodes of That 70’s Show and ordering nachos—I will.

3. “You’ll get sick of him eventually.”

You know what – everyone’s going to get sick of your bad attitude eventually, too.

4. “I miss who you were before you two started dating.”

Everyone in life grows as human beings—with or without relationships. It’s not fair to tell someone you dislike the person they have become, especially if they are happy and not harming themselves or anyone around them. Stop being bitter.

5. “F*ck him, let’s go get guys to buy us drinks.”

Sure, going to the bar and partying with randoms is fun when you’re single, but, just because you’re single and your friend is in a relationship doesn’t mean she’s going to disrespect her man to please you. Be considerate.

6. “You’re too young to be tied down.”

Excuse me, Linda, last time I checked time was a concept created by idiots. Just because I’m young, doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy my time with someone. And, the younger I fall in love, the more time I have to make memories with that person. Suck on that.

7. “Good thing I don’t need a man to make me happy.”

Neither do I, crazy. But, my boyfriend makes me happy on top of my already self-happiness. I don’t need anyone to make me happy, I have someone who adds to my happiness.

8. “Just wait until the Honeymoon stage is over.”

Just wait until you’re single and miserable for the rest of your life.

4 Ways To Tell If You’re In Love Or Just Plain Comfortable In Your Relationship

Whenever you enter any relationship, you feel uneasy in the beginning. You’re nervous, you get butterflies, you have anxieties, it’s only natural that you would feel this way when you’re getting to know somebody and allowing yourself to feel vulnerable around them. As you progress in your relationship, your anxieties start to fade away – you begin to feel more comfortable and let your guard down around this person. When you enter the stage of being together “long-term,” you finally see that you’re your most comfortable self around this person—they just get you. But, the longer you stay with someone long-term, the more comfortable you become. You start to become dependant on them for certain things, they become part of your everyday routines—you’re not sure what your life would be like if they weren’t there.

But, the longer you stay with someone long-term, the more comfortable you become. You start to become dependant on them for certain things, they become part of your everyday routines—you’re not sure what your life would be like if they weren’t there. And, because of this, we start to confuse the feelings of being in love and just being comfortable in a relationship with someone.

Often times, the spark in a relationship may fade away and things may chip away at the “love” you once had for your partner. Maybe it’s arguments you’ve had, things that have happened, realizations you have made over time. But, because you are so comfortable in your everyday life with your partner there, you don’t really realize that you’re not truly in love with them anymore. Sure, not every relationship is going to be fireworks and sparks every single moment of every single day but, if you’ve lost that “loving feeling,” altogether, it’s a sure sign that you’re with someone out of convenience and comfort, rather than true love. There are several ways you can really figure out if it’s love or comfort in your specific relationship, without having to completely break yourself apart.

1. Excitement vs. Indifference:

Now, I’m aware that not every relationship is exciting after 2, 3, 4 years all the time. But, there should still be moments in your relationship where you do feel excited—excited to see your partner, excited for them to come home from work that day, excited to go on a date with them, excited to go to a social event together. If you’re always indifferent towards everything and feel as though it’s just “what you need to do” in your relationship—it’s a tell-tale sign that you’re just comfortable with your partner, rather than in love with them.

2. Ambivalence vs. Certainty:

Not everyone you date is going to be “the one,” but, if you’re with someone you love, you know that there’s a chance they could be. If you’re feeling as though you are unsure if someone you’re with long-term is the one you want to spend your life with, it’s a pretty big question you need to face. Too often, people stay in a relationship for the fear of being alone and not wanting to encounter “loneliness.” But, they end up settling for a partner they aren’t truly in love with or want to be with forever. By doing this, you ultimately end up resenting the person you’re dating and resenting yourself for not facing these problems before you got “stuck.”

3. Effort vs. Nonchalant:

Every person in a relationship should be putting effort into their relationship at all times. Sometimes, when life gets hectic, you may put in less effort than normal. But, overall, each person in a relationship should contribute to it. If your partner or you are very “nonchalant” and passive about your relationship—you’re constantly just settling on things, keeping them the same, not changing things up or putting life into your love—it’s a pretty big red flag.

4. Living vs. Watching:

When you’re in love with someone, you want to experience life with them. No matter how busy that life may get, you find time for new experiences, new travels, new events to do together. When you’re just comfortable, you spend the majority of your time doing the same old song and dance, you’re too tired to go out, you don’t want to spend the money, you’d rather just go to bed early. Sure, some people can’t always go out – but there are dozens of ways to go out without spending money that can still be incredible and worth-while – it’s about whether or not you care enough to make it happen.

7 Little Things You Can Do To Be A Better Girlfriend

Relationships are hard work. No matter how long you’ve been with someone, how much you love someone, there are still ways you can better yourself and work on yourself to make your relationship better. No one is perfect, everyone can use a little “workshopping” from time to time. You may not be the worst girlfriend in the entire world, but, there are ways that you can be an even better girlfriend to make your relationship stronger.

1. Understand that “guys night” is “guys night.”

Some girls get angry when their boyfriend goes out with his friends too often. When you’re dating someone, not everything can be about you two all of the time. Everyone needs space and time to themselves, or with their friends/family to blow off steam. Let your boyfriend have fun and let loose with his friends, at the end of the night he’s coming home to you anyway.

2. Don’t be a helicopter girlfriend.

Your boyfriend is a grown man, he doesn’t need two mothers telling him what to do all the time. Don’t nag him to do things and ask him 45 questions every time he gets home. Guys have a mentality where they want to be the “man” and do things when they want to do them. Let him do things on his own time. Unless it’s directly affecting you in some way, leave him be.

3. Give him space when he needs it.

If your boyfriend is stressed out or feels overwhelmed with work, school, friends, etc. don’t pester him about “why you haven’t hung out lately.” Let him do his thing and get his sh*t together. Don’t make his life even harder when he’s already in over his head. If he’s dating you, he wants to be with you – just because he doesn’t text you every 4 seconds or see you every single day doesn’t mean he’s changed his mind.

4. Support his dreams or goals, even if you don’t love them.

Your boyfriend may decide he wants to take up a new hobby, try a new sport or even quit his job and try something else that works better for him. As his girlfriend, you should support his dreams, all in. Don’t question him and make him feel insecure about his aspirations. Just because they don’t match yours, doesn’t mean they’re wrong or invalid.

5. Appreciate the things he does for you.

It’s nice to say “thank you” from time to time, but, you have to appreciate the things your boyfriend does for you – I mean, really appreciate them. Gratitude. I’m not saying you have to kiss his feet and worship the ground he walks on, but realizing he’s trying and showing him you’re grateful makes all the difference.

6. Practice forgiveness.

Your boyfriend is not perfect. He’s going to make mistakes and he’s going to let you down sometimes. You need to learn how to forgive him for the things that aren’t life or death. He may have forgotten to call you when he got home the other night, he may have forgotten a family dinner he said he’d go to. But, if he isn’t hurting you and he isn’t cheating on you, it’s good to learn to forgive. And not that half-ass “it’s okay” and later you bring it up again, I mean really forgive him.

7. Get your own life.

Your boyfriend and your relationship should never be the end-all, be-all of your life. You need to have your own life, too. Be busy, do things you love, go on vacation with your friends. Don’t make your relationship your everything. You need to learn to be happy on your own time, on your own terms, too. It puts too much pressure on your relationship and your boyfriend if you constantly make the relationship your entire world.

Allie From ‘The Notebook’ Is The Biggest A**hole And You Can’t Change My Mind

When it comes to romantic movies, for some reason, everyone loves “The Notebook. The movie, based off a Nicholas Sparks’ novel, centers around two kids who were madly in love as teens and, who reunite in their lives later on. While I didn’t read the book, I’ve seen the movie half a dozen times due to friends’ obsessions with it and, the fact that cable TV loves to replay it over and over again.

I’ll be honest – The Notebook is not the ideal romance movie and there are a lot of flaws to the storyline that basically showcases – Allie is a huge a**hole. Sure, I believe in true love and I believe that two people are meant to be together and if they truly are – they can find a way to make it work. What I don’t believe in is – physical abuse or emotional destruction to get there.

Hear me out –

Noah and Allie are madly in love and Allie’s parents don’t want them together because – well, he’s poor and “uneducated” in their eyes. Allie, of course, wants to rebel against her parents because at 17-years-old, she thinks she knows what love is (maybe she does, but a lot of people at 17 have yet to experience enough in life to know “true love,” at least – that was the case for me personally). Instead of being “that guy” who holds Allie back from the rest of her life, Noah decides to take a step back. While he’s leaving and telling Allie to go to college after she says she won’t go to be with him – she basically slaps him across the face a bunch of times.

Hello.

HELLO.

Is this thing on?

Hitting someone is never okay – even if they say something you don’t like or don’t want to hear. I’m sorry – but that’s not romantic or endearing in any shape or form. Putting your hands on someone else, because you’re feeling emotional pain – N.O.T. O.K.A.Y.

Besides her raging temper and inability to keep her hands to herself – Allie also completely ruins a guy’s life and toys with men’s emotions.

She’s engaged to Lon Hammond, Jr. – who she treated in the war while he was a wounded soldier – and just decides to up and leave him after planning their wedding together. This guy recovered from the war and tracked down Allie just to take her on a date – that’s a lot of trouble to go through for one girl. But, she up and leaves him behind when she sees Noah completed the house he said he would years ago. She then goes and sleeps with Noah – living in this “Noah and Allie” bubble – just to f*ck with Noah’s emotions again and worse.

Ultimately, she leaves Lon Hammond, Jr. and no one even batted a f*cking eye. Why? Because Noah and Allie’s love story is “oh so epic.” That’s a bunch of bullsh*t if you ask me. Love stories shouldn’t include destroying other people and being abusive.

Sure, the two end up together and die together and it’s sad and lovely and adorable – but the things that had to happen to make that happen? Destructive and unhealthy.

 

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