A strong woman loves like a gentle rain swirling into a hurricane. Her love is cautious as she fights to maintain her independence; reserved as she convinces herself that she doesn’t need a man in her life. But slowly and steadily, she lets herself fall into him, washing away her inhibitions, loving him fiercely.
A strong woman loves with steadfast reserve turned to unquellable passion. She wades into his life unafraid that he will break her but constantly wondering if she should embrace her ability to feel. His love for her strikes her in the center of her hardened heart, and she rapidly melts under its weight. As she plummets, courageously aware that there is nothing to cushion the pain, her strength manifests in her powerful, steady feelings for him.
It’s one thing to have to hear sexist men spout off about the way women should live their lives, but it’s another to see a woman doing the same thing to other women. Federalist writer Denise McAllister, who was recently let go from her job after writing a homophobic tweet, is under fire for her comments about the way husbands should be treated by their wives.
Writer Denise McAllister recently tweeted an extremely sexist ‘lesson’ about how wives should treat their husbands while they’re watching sports.
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To which we say…
And Twitter was beyond pissed that McAllister would enforce such BS gender stereotypes.
American journalist and author Dana Schwartz was one of the many outraged tweeters.
Of course, some people (men) didn’t think it was so bad.
But things took a turn for the worst when HuffPost writer Yashar Ali commented on McAllister’s post.
And McAllister attacked Yashar’s sexuality.
She continued to spit horrifically homophobic words at Yashar and ended up losing her job because of it.
People quickly rushed to Ali’s defense, prompting McAllister’s feeble attempts to defend her own words.
And both of the publications McAllister wrote for, The Federalist and The Daily Wire, told her she was no longer welcome.
Meet Ali Resuta. She’s a 21-year-old senior at Arizona State University who’s thinking about maybe trying to get into a career in YouTube. She’s not sure yet, but if her experience with the guy we’re about to write about is any indication, she might want to have a back-up plan.
Resuta posted what she called“a somewhat risqué picture” to her Instagram stories while on vacation in Hawaii a couple of weeks ago. A guy who she knew had a girlfriend reacted to the photo and she decided to post the exchange that followed between them to Twitter.
She tweeted a screengrab from Insta where she asks him, “Don’t ya have a gf?” and he responds, “Yes I do, Sorry I was going through my stories and accidentally hit the emojis.” Mm-hm. A likely story. In the tweet, she wrote, “Men ain’t sh*t.”
Patrick was one of the aforementioned randos and he distinguished himself by asking for her Venmo account. When she asked him why, he said it was because he’d just seen her vlog. As Resuta explained, “Men are weird and I’ve gotten a considerate amount of money from random dudes on the internet for no reason whatsoever. So, as you could see in the screenshot, I got pretty excited because I thought I was about to get some money.”
Patrick didn’t want her Venmo account to give her money, he wanted it so he could actually request payment from her. He actually requested $5 reimbursement for “3:44 of [his] time,” the exact length of her latest vlog.
All right, that’s pretty funny. And because she’s got a good sense of humor, Resuta took the burn gracefully. “I knew hewas just kidding and not actually trying to be mean,” she said.
And, because she’s obviously a screenshot pro, she took screenshots of her interaction with Patrick and put them on Twitter, writing, “This is the end of my YouTube career.”
That tweet went hugely viral, racking up over 230,000 likes and 33,000 retweets. As a result, Resuta did get more people jokingly asking her to pay them back for their time, but she also got one person who did send her $5 for 3:44 of his time, saying, “that guys [sic] dumb.” Sweet!
She told BuzzFeed News, “Thankfully the tweet has calmed down and the internet has gone back to ignoring me.”
And as forPatrick, A) no, she did not pay him (“I’m way too broke for that,” she explained) and B) they’re on good terms and definitely got a laugh out of the fact that the tweet blew up like it did.
Resuta said that she was inspired in her vlogging by celebrity YouTubers like David Dobrik and Cody Ko. She told BuzzFeed that her YouTube channel is “actually not serious at all.” For now, it’s just a way to vlog her experiences with her friends. She added, “But, I mean, who knows, maybe one day I’ll take it seriously.”
Deciding who pays on a date can be a little tricky. Historically, men on dates with women tend to pick up the tab for food, drinks, movie, etc. But times are changing, and now it’s not so automatic. A lot of people think the person who did the inviting should be the one to pay, while others are happy to go dutch.
It’s just not a given anymore that a man is going to pay for a woman on a date, which is great, because it’s actually a sexist tradition and one that makes no sense.
Recently, a man going by CuteBananaMuffin on Reddit posted screenshots of his text conversation with a woman who was absolutely furious that he didn’t pay for her very expensive dinner on their first date. He didn’t even know she was mad until he texted her asking for another date, and then she went off on him.
Since she was the one who did the inviting, our buddy CuteBananaMuffin assumed she’d be paying for her own food. Plus, she ordered LOBSTER. I mean, why do that if you’re expecting someone else to pay? That’s a lot of money. And on top of that, as he mentioned, he’s just a student. How could he be expected to afford that?
Wow, she’s living in the past if she thinks the man is ALWAYS going to pay. Come on.
“The date was fun at first until she started talking about another guy and how much he liked him, but I thought ‘let’s eat, talk and leave’ since she’s into another guy, and it all crumbled when it came to the bill. She was shocked that I let her pay. She didn’t say anything at the time, but from her facial expression, I realized she was furious.
I usually pay for both sides when it comes to the bill, but I’m a student and I work 60 hours a week to pay for food, books etc. so I obviously couldn’t afford to pay 110 euros for her food. I asked her out again to apologize pretty much for the previous time, hoping we can go to a cheaper place so I could make up for it, but as you can see, the result was really bad…”
Reddit users sounded off in the comments and pretty much everybody agreed with Muffin.
Time for this lady to join us here in the present, where women can have jobs and pay for themselves (and even their dates if they want!) when they go out. Also, again: LOBSTER?!
Sometimes people do things and we can’t understand why. No matter how long we think about it, and how hard we try to understand, there are some situations that are out of our grasp and understanding of humanity. Like, this one woman on Reddit who shared her “Today I F**ked Up” story for all of the Internet to judge her upon—she decided it would be “fun” to swallow her sister’s birthday gift. What is the gift you ask? A gold ring with her sister’s birthstone.
Honestly—I’m not sure how or why this was supposed to be funny, and, others were equally confused.
The woman in question worked for a man as his personal assistant and often times, took care of his dog. She found out about the job from her dad, who was a colleague of the man in question.
“I learned about this job through my father as he occasionally works for this man, and he adores my dad’s work and persona. My boss is an older gentleman and has recently become single which leaves him in need of help either around the house, driving him, or walking his dog. I first met my boss in May of this year when I tagged along with my dad to renovate his kitchen. On my off days from my other job at the time, I would help my dad with his work despite being a girl.”
Obviously, after she gave the dog so much love and affection, they developed a bond.
When there’s a dog in the room, I give all my attention to the good boy or girl. The main duty in my job description was to take care of this man’s dog: walk her, feed her, play with her. I bonded with her when we first met and we reconnected around 2 weeks ago. She’s very sweet and always wants affection which I provide.
The woman shared that when she started working for him, things were normal. She had barely been working for him for a week when things got really inappropriate.
The first two days were normal because I still did not see any red flags and things were going great. Now my boss is a man who always gives hugs to ANYONE he greets. Male, female, child. So I didn’t think anything weird of it until I started to feel his hand brushing against my thighs, my hips, my lower back… Then it got to the point where he wouldn’t let me go from a hug and hold me in place and despite my protest, he combated it with, ‘don’t worry, I know you enjoy it.’ He had liked to make comments on my body and say how he enjoyed viewing me. I usually tried to laugh it off and walk away because I’m not a confronting person and am scared to hurt other’s feelings.
One day, the man took things way too far.
I was sitting on the sofa tying my shoes with the dog laying by my feet and I became surprised when I suddenly felt hands pulling on my hips. I moved forward and told him no. He came around the sofa and started walking straight towards me saying how he’s going to ‘tickle’ me.
She called on the help of the man’s dog.
I panicked and called the dog’s name along with, ‘help me’ or ‘protect me’ to distract him for a little longer before he touched me again. To my surprise, she got up and stood guard growling & barking at him. He was surprised but also laughing and told me to make her stand down and reward her by saying ‘good girl.’ My boss then walked away and didn’t touch me for the rest of the time I was there.
She shared that the dog is around 95 pounds and big, especially can be intimidating when angry. She was, however, surprised that the dog would disobey their owner.
I’m not an expert on dog behavior and I don’t understand why a dog would disobey its master over someone it barely knows. But from what I have gathered, dogs have a tendency to protect those in distress so she probably detected something was wrong and that I was panicking. Some people could say that she may ‘feel his wrath’ after disobeying him, but he really loves his dog and I don’t see any signs of an abused animal. She’s just as healthy and bright as I met her.
Unfortunately, the woman in question has not been able to quit the job. She revealed she lives paycheck to paycheck and has nothing lined up yet. She also needs the benefits. But, people online have some advice for her.
Women have long been made to feel insecure about the smell of our nether regions. It’s stupid and ridiculous, but it’s also enough to make some women do whatever it takes to make sure that their lady parts smell like pretty much anything other than lady parts.
But a recent blog post by gynecologist Jen Gunter is warning women of the danger of using products to change the smell down there. She writes about women so desperate to change their odor that they use Vick’s VapoRub on their genitals. AAHHH NO! But yes.
“For what I am sure is the 100th time the vagina needs no cleaning and the vulva needs very little. I know the array of useless feminine washes and wipes at the drugstore and the drivel spouted by Gwyneth Paltrow via GOOP imply otherwise, but I’m the actual expert.”
She also detailed her experience with someone who tried to shame her for her natural body smell.
I once dated a guy who insinuated my vagina did not smell right. He was an ass in other ways too, but I just didn’t see it until he impugned my vagina. For example, he thought my hair would be better if it were straight. Sadly I took the bait, it wasn’t. He thought I would look better if I dressed a certain way. Again I took the bait. I just felt worse.
When it came around to telling me how my vagina could be better it finally clicked that this is a form of control that men often use. Fortunately I am an appropriately confident vagina expert and I had a light bulb moment and dumped his sorry ass.
She also wrote that if a woman does really think she has a weird smell, she should see a medical professional, but that any partner who thinks a woman needs to change her normal smell is the one with the problem.
If you think you have a medical condition, see a doctor. If your partner insinuates that an artificial smell is preferable to the smell of a normal vagina they are the one who has an issue. Telling women how they can be better is a classic way of tapping into body image issues and honestly in my personal opinion it is a form of abuse.
Remember, this woman is an expert on the subject. Women, don’t let other people make you feel self-conscious about your body in any way.
