Bumble Completely Banned This Disrespectful Guy After He Fat-Shamed A Girl On Their App

When you put yourself out there on dating websites and apps, it can be pretty terrifying. In dating and relationships, nothing hurts worse than rejection and with these kinds of apps,  you’re bound to get burned at least once or twice. But, when you’re disrespected and insulted by someone on a dating app that you don’t even know – forget it, it’s embarrassing and wrong. Just ask Samantha, one Bumble user who experienced the rudest guy on Bumble altogether, Michael.

Here’s Samantha, a complete and total beauty.

And, here’s Michael, a complete and total d*ck.

According to Samantha, the two had been chatting on the app a bit back and forth and had plans to meet up but, she wasn’t 100% sure if she wanted to because they hadn’t met before. When you’re new to dating apps, they can be pretty scary seeing as it’s hard to know if you’re really talking to the actual person or someone else. One night, however, Michael sent Samantha a message that went a little something like this.

Who the f*ck does this guy think he is? Seriously? Get out of here with that crap. If you’re that shallow and that much of a disrespectful idiot, you don’t deserve to go on a date with anyone. You need counseling, therapy, and a serious wakeup call if you think speaking to anyone like this is okay. GTFO. Samantha was right in saying “how f*cking dare you,” but she shouldn’t have said “I’m sorry,” because, it gets way worse.

 

Michael had the balls to respond with a lengthy (and even worse) response than before.

This guy is nowhere near a 10/10 with that mentality. He may think he’s good looking, but looks only get you so far in life, buddy. No one wants to date someone with that kind of attitude, you better reconsider your stance on women and life altogether. And, Samantha knew he would never get another date after women saw this, so she posted them on social media and reported him to the app. Good for you, girl.

Apparently, Michael found out he was in the doghouse with basically the entire world because Bumble decided to ban him from the app altogether. Oh, poor Michael, no way to insult women now, huh? Good, you don’t deserve to go on dates, anyway, my dude. You don’t deserve to have an account on any dating site, either. Glad to see Bumble is taking a stance on this. The app issued a statement about the situation and Michael saying:

Who taught you how to talk like that? Do you think that the “security” of hiding behind a screen gives you permission to degrade people you don’t know? Maybe you didn’t know, but we hold people accountable for their actions. We care tremendously about our community and our users’ well being. Harassment and misogyny don’t belong on Bumble – and therefore neither do you. Small minded, sexist, shallow people aren’t welcome in a progressive society anymore, and in the end, only you will lose out. Times are changing, women are speaking up for themselves, and people are no longer going to be getting away with this sort of behavior.”

That’s the kind of response I hope to see from all dating apps/social media platforms when it comes to disrespect like this. Michael, apparently, had something to say for himself after all, too.

Firstly it’s important I say I have messaged Samantha and explained and apologised for the messages which I do not condone and find appalling. Me and my friends were highly intoxicated and decided to take each other’s phones and write messages to matches on each other’s bumble. They were mostly funny and harmless but in this case it was extremely rude, belittling and insulting. I had no control over those messages that were sent through my account and had I seen what was written, would absolutely have stopped them from being sent.

That being said, it was an irresponsible position to put myself into and what we were doing was completely stupid and has resulted in a really sweet girl being disrespected by dumb actions. I’ve tried to imagine how she must’ve felt reading that and it’s sickening that someone should have to read something like that in the first place! Unfortunately, it’s happened and cannot be taken back. I have apologized to Sam personally and I will not be taking part in anything remotely as stupid as this again.

Looks like it’s too little, too late, Michael, no one wants to go on a date with someone as misogynistic and rude as you, anyway. Enjoy life alone with your right hand, bro!

5-Year-Old Sent Home In Different Outfit After School Asks Her To ‘Cover Her Body’

We’ve all read stories about schoolgirls being punished for violating the dress code — almost invariably to make male students and faculty feel more “comfortable.” But this sexualization of young girls usually applies to teens, not kindergarteners.

Recently, a 5-year-old kindergartner was forced to change her outfit in school after administration deemed the young girl was showing “too much skin.” Her mother, Emily Stewart shared the story on Facebook, saying:

The picture on the left is showing what my daughter was wearing to school this morning. The picture on the right is what I picked her up in. She is in kindergarten and she is 5.

Now, I knew the weather would be nice today. I sent her to school with a light sweater over her dress and jeans underneath of it. It’s a new dress that her grandma got her and she really wanted to wear it. we live in Minnesota and having 65 degree weather in April a week after a snow storm is everything to us in the Midwest. So, I thought “yeah it will be nice out you can wear a dress.” And that was the end of my thinking. It didn’t occur to me that an adult would look at my 5 year old child and think that wearing a dress was inappropriate.

She was told that she needed to leave class and go to the nurses office.

The nurse told her that she needed to cover her body and made her put on this T-shirt.

I am not making this post to bash the school or say anything bad. I’m making this post to raise some discussion.

As a mother, how am I supposed to teach my daughter to love and celebrate her body when she has people telling her she “needs privacy.”

What exactly is private about a 5 year olds shoulders?

Why is it ok to put my daughters bare shoulders before her education?

Why was her dress looked at as an inappropriate outfit to begin with? She is 5 why is she being sexualized?

I asked her when I picked her up “why are you wearing a T-shirt?”
She said “I was told I had to put something on because I need privacy.”
I then asked “how did that make you feel when they told you that?”

She started bawling.

She was excited to wear that dress to school and show her friends and play in it on the play ground.

She said to me “I don’t know why they told me I couldn’t wear my dress it was super embarrassing.”How do I teach a little girl that what she wears and her appearance is not nearly as important as her education and self development when things like this happen?

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Stewart also shared a video on Facebook live, discussing in detail what went down and how she feels about the school sexualizing her 5-year-old daughter.

Many people online were outraged to see that adults were that uncomfortable with a 5-year-old showing her shoulders in class.

As it turns out, Stewart’s Facebook video and commentary made waves online. Stewart was featured in countless news segments from town and, after, ISD 264 where her daughter attends school sent out an email announcing changes to the language of their dress code.

Stewart posted the update and the email online, stating that they removed the rule that allows determining sexualization based on a child’s outfit.

Way to go, Mom—that’s how you stand up for your child.

h/t: Scary Mommy, Facebook

Concerned Mom Points Out That Companies Should Stop Marketing ‘Diet Culture’ To Kids

Being a mom of girls today can be challenging. With society pressuring girls and trying to manipulate them into conforming to stereotypes of “beauty,” many mothers will be faced with self-esteem issues and struggles. Today, where social media is constantly reminding young girls that they are not “rich enough,” “skinny enough,” or “fun enough,” it’s hard to get a grasp on how our daughters will feel about themselves, especially when people are constantly telling them that they’re “not enough.”

Sonni Abatta—a mother, podcast host, and writer—shared her thoughts on how companies market inappropriate products and cultures to young girls. Specifically, Abatta discussed the new fad of “diet culture,” where people are joking about losing weight, skipping meals, and depriving themselves of what they really want in order to conform to the “skinny world.” Abatta saw the lunchbox in a store in Florida, placed next to a candy stand in a Nordstrom Rack. Abatta figured that due to the placement, and the color/style of the lunchbox, it was catered to young girls.

She wrote:

See this? This is a picture I snapped today of a little girl’s lunchbox that I saw for sale at a popular department store. Why do I say it’s marketed toward little girls? It’s pink, it has sequins and it was surrounded by other girls’ merchandise. So, safe to say that it’s aimed at our daughters.

I am SICKENED that this phrase is on a lunch box.

We scratch our heads when we see our little girls struggle with body image, with self worth, with confidence.

We wonder, “Why do our girls worry so much about their bodies so young?” … “Why does my five year old call herself ‘fat?’” … “Why does my middle schooler stand in front of the mirror and find all her flaws?”

THIS. This is part of the reason why.

Our world is telling our girls that it’s “cheating” if they eat something that’s not 100% fat-free and perfectly healthy. In turn, that tells them that self-control and denying herself is to be valued above all. And that if she dares to step outside of the foods that will keep her perfectly slim and trim, then she is by default “cheating” and needs to feel some sense of remorse.

Look, I’m not saying a diet of strictly sugar and chips is right either; but by God, why would a company ever pile onto our girls’ already-fragile senses of self by making her feel as though she’s “cheating” by eating something that’s–gasp–not made of vegetables and air?

“You’re overreacting!” you might say. To which I say, No. We are not overreacting when we ask more of the world when it comes to how they treat our girls.

Can you imagine a similar message directed toward little boys? For the record, I’d be equally offended… but I haven’t seen anything that is aimed at making our boys feel bad about what they eat, or how they look.

So here’s what I want to say, and what I will tell my girls. Girls–you are not “cheating” when you enjoy good food. You are not “cheating” when you eat pizza. You are not “cheating” when you have a cookie, or two, on occasion. You are not “cheating” when you live in moderation and allow yourself things that make you happy.

Girls–you are MORE than your bodies. More than your faces. More than your complexions. More than the clothes you wear and the things you buys and the other girls you hang out with.

You are beautiful, worthy, intelligent, and whole beings–whole beings who are worthy of so much love and respect, no matter what anyone, or anyTHING, says.

Many people on Facebook agreed. Mothers and parents everywhere shared their stories on how their own children are affected by the push to support diet culture and fads just to look cute and fit in. Most people online agreed that the rant was warranted because it’s wrong to try and persuade young girls to starve themselves just to appear thin.

We totally agree.

Woman Receives Fake ‘Wrong Text’ Message From A Guy She’s Been Ignoring

A woman who had been ignoring repeated texts from a man received one from him that said “wrong text” but it was pretty clear he’d done it on purpose. And it definitely belongs in the Fake Wrong Text Hall of Fame.

Mariah White of Arlington, TX, told BuzzFeed News that she’d been getting the texts from the dude since early November. The texts all mostly just said “hi” or “how are you?” but this last one, the “wrong text” one, is hilariously obvious in its thirst for the 22-year-old’s attention. It involved both the man’s mother and his money, and it was clearly designed to get a response from White.

The man sent a text to White that was supposedly meant for his mother. It read, “Hey mom… I just transferred $2800.00 to your account…. you should have told me sooner that you needed help… text me when you get it…love you!” the text read, followed by one that said simply, “Wrong text….my bad….”

Speaking to BuzzFeed, White said, “I knew right away that was messed up because how do you send a whole text with all those ellipses and not realize it’s going to the wrong person? What are the odds that M-Ariah and M-Om are right next to each other in the contact list? It just did not add up.”

White men the man, who is reportedly in his forties or fifties, when she was driving for a car company and he was a passenger. White said, “We had a really good polite conversation about my unique major, the university, being the only black people in our departments, stuff like that.

The two exchanged contact information and she sent him a text with her full name so the man could add her on LinkedIn. Instead, the man started texting her. She said she got “weird vibes” from him, and after answering his first few texts, she began to ignore him.

White said she didn’t block him or anything because his messages were “so infrequent” that she “didn’t even think about it.”

White tweeted a screenshot of the awkward “wrong text” message, where it quickly went viral.

The responses she got to it were hilarious.

At least one person decided to try the text on someone else, to see if he got a response.

White said that she’s gotten a lot of “nasty DMs” telling her that she should have stopped “wasting his time” and just told him she wasn’t interested. But to that she says, “This was a grown man who somewhat misled me into giving him my number the first place. You should know when to call it quits when someone is clearly uninterested.”

H/T BuzzFeed News

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