4.
I went into a clothing store just looking around and I picked up a pair of pants to look at. Store employee came over to me and said “we don’t really make YOUR size here but you can always take them to the tailor and have them let out”. Practically ran out of the store and cried in my car.
5.
At a bridal shop they had maybe 3 dresses in the size I needed, (16/18 in normal dresses) or that would even fit enough to get an idea of a dress, and none of them were the style I liked. The associate went to grab a bride from another room to model the dresses for me. She was the polar opposite of me in every way. Super tall, dark coloring to my gingerness, runway model type body type to my more hourglass and busty body type.
She looked gorgeous in every dress. The associate that was supposed to be helping me and the associate that was helping her both ignored me and started pulling all kinds of things for her to try on, and discussing how classic and beautiful traditional white dresses are instead of “trying too hard and possibly looking tacky” with a less traditional color choice. (I was looking for something that didn’t make me look monochromatic, as I am so pale white I practically glow in the dark)I started to get ready to leave and Other Bride’s associate told me there was plenty of time to lose some weight before the wedding. The other bride decided to chime in and tell me which diet I should be on and give me a reference card for the gym she went to because “if you sign up I get 50$!”
I went home and cried, and was so put off by the whole thing I just picked a dress out of a catalog at a different store without trying anything on.
I STILL regret not standing up for myself so I could have gotten a dress I really loved. I hate looking at wedding pictures even 12 years later.