Being single nowadays is unnecessarily complicated. It seems most people fear the idea of being comfortable alone and those who are alone tend to act like it’s the end of the world. Or they’ll act like it’s no big deal when on the inside, they really want a relationship which is fine.
But for someone like you, being single is just that, being single. The single life doesn’t hold much weight for you because being in a relationship isn’t a requirement but something that will happen when you’re ready for it:
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It doesn’t matter how many times you say you’re fine living the single life, your friends don’t believe you.
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Which is why they always try to set you up with someone.
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In fact, they have clever techniques in doing that so you can’t refuse.
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Such as inviting you to meet up with them, their gf/bf, and a friend.
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And you go only to realize that that “friend??? is your blind date.
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You’re cool with being third wheel. In fact, you’re a pro at it.
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Valentine’s Day isn’t an issue for you. You actually look forward to the chocolate.
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Most of your single friends become the Grinch when a friend gets married or engaged.
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But you’re always that one single friend who’s happy for them and look forward to it (mostly to the food at the wedding).
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You’re that one friend in your group who’s seen people through intense heartbreak.
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Couples have a knack for showing off in front of you as if to make you feel bad.
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But really, they gross you out because they end up eating each others faces.
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Some of your friends who are not single feel bad when they bump into you dining alone.
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But you always have to reassure them that you’re fine because you’re comfortable in solitude.
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People wonder how you can get over your exes so easily.
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But you don’t see any point in investing your time into someone who’s just not worth it.
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There are times when you do desire a relationship.
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But then you see your friend get into an intense argument with their bf/gf and you’re like nope.
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People think the reason why you’re going about life solo is because you feel undesirable.
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But you really wish they’d understand that it’s not that you’re unwanted, it’s that you choose yourself.
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You’re not concerned with whether or not you’re going to settle down and get married.
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Sure, you’ve daydreamed about getting married and having a family.
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But it isn’t set in stone and you’re perfectly fine with that.
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You want to get to know yourself on a level you wouldn’t have if you were with someone.
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And it’s not that you believe no one will love you if you don’t love yourself, it’s that you want to love yourself.
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And that’s why you’re flying this sky solo for a little while.
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