Old-school females were expected to work in the house, raise their kids, and succumb to their husband’s every need. Generation-X and Millennial women; however, have been changing these roles for years, and now more than ever, independent women appear to be everywhere. Not just any man can handle the modern day self-sufficient woman, so keep an eye out for some of these qualities:
1. He is confident.
To you, confidence is way sexier than any 6-pack or perfect smile. Confidence will turn your head in a bar, and keep your eyes locked on a man who walks straight up to you with no hesitation. You don’t really go out on the town as a prowler, to lurk in the corner trying to figure out which guy is the hottest to talk to – it aint your thang. A man who approaches you shows initiative, and lets you know that he is secure with himself as a person.
2. He isn’t overbearing.
Some girls love to hear from their man everyday – all day – with texts, calls, sweet Facebook posts; the works. These types of men usually do this because they honestly want or need the same attention and affection in return. To you, being the independent woman that you are, this comes off as needy. You like a guy who doesn’t need to hear how much you love him every hour throughout the day – I mean, c’mon, you’re busy!
3. But he shows that he cares.
Don’t mistake this for negligence; you won’t let him get away with forgetting your birthday, but he is thoughtful when the time is right. He knows when and where to show that he cares, and honestly, that makes his grand gestures that much more special to you.
4. He doesn’t mind when you do your own thing.
You have an extravagant night planned with your girls, and you don’t need to give a long explanation to your man about it. He loves that you have your own friends, and he encourages you to have a life outside of your relationship with him. Plus, he knows to sneak into your apartment late night so that you come home to the nice surprise of having him in your bed.
5. He doesn’t need to be needed.
Your independence is a virtue, and it’s one of the things he loves most about you. He is aware that you chose him, and he feels cherished that you want him, but don’t need him.
6. But when you do need him, he is there.
You do, and you will. As much as you’d like to think that you’ve got it all – and, most of the time you do – there are those moments when nothing in the world will better a situation like your man will. Remember that time you were stuck in the fetal position on the bathroom floor clinging to a towel because of some nasty food poisoning? He took, I’m okay, it’s no big deal, as, I don’t want to admit it, but I do, kinda… sorta… really fucking need you right now.
7. He accepts your stubbornness.
Let me guess: your mom tells stories about you as a toddler saying, I do it myself! You know how to do things on your own, go places by yourself, and fix things that most girls don’t know how to fix. So, when an obstacle comes your way making one of these things impossible for you to do, it’s not so easy for you to ask for help. He’ll sit back, let you try, and won’t insist on giving you help. He finds it endearing when you’re stubborn.
8. But knows how to break down your walls.
Yes, in reference to what was just mentioned, he’ll know how to offer help without belittling you. But breaking down your walls emotionally runs a little deeper – plus, most guys don’t know how to do this with you. They’ll interpret your independence to be cold, but that’s probably not the case at all. Hey, sometimes I got it, really straight up means I GOT IT. But other times, it doesn’t, and he’s learned to decode your cryptic-convoluted-female-language.
9. He understands that being independent makes you an individual.
Some girls started planning their wedding day at age seven. You were not one of them. You giggle at girls who get married young just so that they feel important or wanted. In fact, your wedding isn’t really something that you daydream about all day long.
That doesn’t mean that it’s not in your future. And your guy understands that just because you’re not pawning after a man, designing an engagement right now, doesn’t mean that you wouldn’t one day want to wear a ring. *wink* Well...maybe.