Sometimes in a relationship one asks the other “Why? Why me?” If it is a girl asking usually the answer she gets told is “You’re pretty, you’re smart, you’re funny..etc etc” she gets showered in complements. All those compliments are nice, and always appreciated. They will make her feel good about herself for a little bit. She will feel pretty for a few hours, she might be a little more confident when she is asked a question about math that day. Although those good feelings will wear off after awhile, and she will still be left wondering.
Don’t get me wrong the compliments are always nice, but no matter how many times someone tells you you’re pretty, you’re smart and you’re funny you’re not going to believe it until you tell it to yourself. You’re not going to accept and believe those compliments until you accept, and believe in yourself. So, instead of telling her a few things she won’t believe in a few hours, why not tell her something that matters?
When a girl asks you why you chose to stay with her, she doesn’t want to be showered in compliments, she wants to know what you’re getting out of the relationship. She wants to know what makes her different from all the other pretty and smart girls in the world. She wants to know how being together impacts you, how the relationship makes you happy.
She doesn’t want to know about her, she wants to know about you. She wants to know that when she is alone in her room missing you, your missing her. She wants to know that you look forward to the next time you can see her, or the next time you two can have a two hour long conversation. She wants to know that you’re as crazy about her as she is about you.
So next time a girls asks you “Why? Why me?” don’t shower her in compliments, tell her something that matters.